Today I had my second appointment at the dentist. I once gave a boosted like to her on a dating app and nothing came back. She is also gorgeous. And probably could have any man she wants. I had the feeling that she liked me. I was never really sure why. I knew it probably has nothing to do with romantic interest but I just tried my luck.
I am way too much in the head of ther people when I am analyzing them. One theory was she noticed I am neurodiverse and liked my awkwardness. I think she is quite smart.
Today I made a mistake though. I spent a lot of time to my mouth hygiene before going to that appointment. But I was under some time pressure when I had to go on. And honestly I really struggle with hyperocus because I am on the autism spectrum. I can focus way too much on one aspects while fading out other aspects that are similarly important. I think my mouth smelled pretty good when I was there. Though, maybe I had a bad smell under my armpits. In general I think it didn't smell well in the room. The practice was full of patients, it was really hot. There were probably countless patients before me in the room. But I probably contributed to the bad smell. I am not sure whether I am exaggerating it. One thing for sure I ruminated way too much about it afterwards. I am currently in a mental mode where something like that can destabilize me a lot. I think though the smell of my mouth was way better. And as countless AI chatbots reassured me this is more important for a dentist. Yes, I am a nutjob.
However, despite that after the job was done I still had the feeling she felt sympathy for me. (not romantic) One theory they sort of rip me off with these expensive fillings in my teeth. That's not impossible but unlikely they have very good reviews online. It is still weird that these fillings have to be renewed so frequently I think I am a very heavy cruncher when I am stressed. And when you read the introduction of this thread you should npt be surprised too much about that. Maybe she was just happy that it was over. But I also don't think that. AI chatbots told me dentists struggle a lot with halitosis (bad breath) of their dentists. And I make sure this isn't the case with me. This is the most likely conclusion. And as these Ai chatbots try to convince me going down such rabbit holes doesn't make much sense if there is no evidence.
However, there was another theory. My dentist is gorgeous really a 10/10. I could imagine someone like her gets harrassed a lot by the wrong men. I don't think my like annoyed her too much. I hope so. I think I always respected her. And I asked chatbots whether some men exploit professions where physical proximity is involved and physical touch is unavoiable. And seemingly this is the case sometimes. Personally, I always tried to be aware of such things. One of my biggest fears is to make a woman uncomfortable by harrassing her. You could debate whether giving my dentist a like on a dating app is questionable. However, dating apps were invented sort of so that men don't have to approach women in real life. Because typically these situations end bad for both parties involved. Personally, in situations where I can accidentally touch a woman without consent (in such situations) I try to cooperate in a way that makes it possible to avoid the physical touch for the woman in the easiest way possible. Maybe she liked that. or maybe I am overintellctualizing social interactions as so often....Maybe I just tell myself this story to feel better. I am often very harsh on myself. Though, it helps me to see there are way worse men out there. And these men probably don't even ask themselves such questions.
But I have to tell another anecdote. I was at the hairdresser and there was a female hairdresser that was really obese. And her body touched my body wheh she cut my hair. This made me feel so uncomfortable. It was horrible for me. And I think she noticed that. The irony of that story. I think she wanted to take advantage of my insecurity. I gave her a tip and she wanted to take herself more money than what I said. Though, I intervened and told her she has taken her too much money. So take this as a lesson kids. Not only men can be evil also women can be pretty hideous. Honestly, this might be a stretch for this situation but it is a good way to end this thread. lol.
The chatbots pointed something out. It is weird how I frame the very attractive dentist and the very obese hairdresser. One person as really kind and the other person as sort of sketchy. Though, honestly I think the assignment isn't that wrong in this instance. It is obvious I am doing mindreading way too much. And black-white thinking and thinking in stereotypes can be an issue. But I think it sort of fit to the impression I had based on the social interactions I had with them.
I am way too much in the head of ther people when I am analyzing them. One theory was she noticed I am neurodiverse and liked my awkwardness. I think she is quite smart.
Today I made a mistake though. I spent a lot of time to my mouth hygiene before going to that appointment. But I was under some time pressure when I had to go on. And honestly I really struggle with hyperocus because I am on the autism spectrum. I can focus way too much on one aspects while fading out other aspects that are similarly important. I think my mouth smelled pretty good when I was there. Though, maybe I had a bad smell under my armpits. In general I think it didn't smell well in the room. The practice was full of patients, it was really hot. There were probably countless patients before me in the room. But I probably contributed to the bad smell. I am not sure whether I am exaggerating it. One thing for sure I ruminated way too much about it afterwards. I am currently in a mental mode where something like that can destabilize me a lot. I think though the smell of my mouth was way better. And as countless AI chatbots reassured me this is more important for a dentist. Yes, I am a nutjob.
However, despite that after the job was done I still had the feeling she felt sympathy for me. (not romantic) One theory they sort of rip me off with these expensive fillings in my teeth. That's not impossible but unlikely they have very good reviews online. It is still weird that these fillings have to be renewed so frequently I think I am a very heavy cruncher when I am stressed. And when you read the introduction of this thread you should npt be surprised too much about that. Maybe she was just happy that it was over. But I also don't think that. AI chatbots told me dentists struggle a lot with halitosis (bad breath) of their dentists. And I make sure this isn't the case with me. This is the most likely conclusion. And as these Ai chatbots try to convince me going down such rabbit holes doesn't make much sense if there is no evidence.
However, there was another theory. My dentist is gorgeous really a 10/10. I could imagine someone like her gets harrassed a lot by the wrong men. I don't think my like annoyed her too much. I hope so. I think I always respected her. And I asked chatbots whether some men exploit professions where physical proximity is involved and physical touch is unavoiable. And seemingly this is the case sometimes. Personally, I always tried to be aware of such things. One of my biggest fears is to make a woman uncomfortable by harrassing her. You could debate whether giving my dentist a like on a dating app is questionable. However, dating apps were invented sort of so that men don't have to approach women in real life. Because typically these situations end bad for both parties involved. Personally, in situations where I can accidentally touch a woman without consent (in such situations) I try to cooperate in a way that makes it possible to avoid the physical touch for the woman in the easiest way possible. Maybe she liked that. or maybe I am overintellctualizing social interactions as so often....Maybe I just tell myself this story to feel better. I am often very harsh on myself. Though, it helps me to see there are way worse men out there. And these men probably don't even ask themselves such questions.
But I have to tell another anecdote. I was at the hairdresser and there was a female hairdresser that was really obese. And her body touched my body wheh she cut my hair. This made me feel so uncomfortable. It was horrible for me. And I think she noticed that. The irony of that story. I think she wanted to take advantage of my insecurity. I gave her a tip and she wanted to take herself more money than what I said. Though, I intervened and told her she has taken her too much money. So take this as a lesson kids. Not only men can be evil also women can be pretty hideous. Honestly, this might be a stretch for this situation but it is a good way to end this thread. lol.
The chatbots pointed something out. It is weird how I frame the very attractive dentist and the very obese hairdresser. One person as really kind and the other person as sort of sketchy. Though, honestly I think the assignment isn't that wrong in this instance. It is obvious I am doing mindreading way too much. And black-white thinking and thinking in stereotypes can be an issue. But I think it sort of fit to the impression I had based on the social interactions I had with them.
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