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Oso :hug:

You are indeed very brave.

It sickens me that being honest can act to your detriment. That we are forced to deceive in order to try and survive. That's the way reality really works unfortunately. That we pretend otherwise is something of a shared delusion. Its a delusion worth striving for, but the blank stares say it all.
 
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Don't you dare go hollow...
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I have a dog, who I love like he's my son. His name is Oso, and was given to me in Spain (my ex had a job there and I went with him). He will be 11 this summer, he is the sweetest soul. He's not with me now because I want him to have the best life, so he lives at my fathers. Oso is such a good boy and so smart, I didn't want to put him through any stress (me crying, etc). My father treats him very well, and I think Oso has almost a therapeutic effect on him.

I miss him so much. Throwback to when we lived in Jersey:


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Hey, E., just wanted to check in on you and tell you what a cutie Oso is. Dogs have the most touching expressions. Of course I'm wondering if you ever do plan on getting him back should your situation stabilise? I know it's not feasible right now, but what you worry about not putting him through stress is probably unwarranted. They're the most selfless creatures on earth and actually take immense joy in caring for people and cheering them up. Whenever my mum was upset it usually wasn't long before she got a nudge and licks from our dogs comforting her. It did wonders for her and maybe you too. They're not stupid though and understand hurt. I remember when we had to bury our cat in the yard our dog howled. She never did so before and never did so again. The two had a mutual respect for each other, not least when it came to terrorising our other cat together. Have also been wondering about your situation in general. Don't mean to be nosy, but apart from Oso have you got people there for you? Sounds like a lot of electronic contact. Anyway, hope you're well.
 
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I have Medicare. Was denied Medicaid. Medicare doesn't pay at all for my meds. I can't afford the copayments.

I use this particular site. There are many. You can get your meds cheap and they mail it to you. You can also call their pharmacist with questions.

 
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Hey, E., just wanted to check in on you and tell you what a cutie Oso is. Dogs have the most touching expressions. Of course I'm wondering if you ever do plan on getting him back should your situation stabilise? I know it's not feasible right now, but what you worry about not putting him through stress is probably unwarranted. They're the most selfless creatures on earth and actually take immense joy in caring for people and cheering them up. Whenever my mum was upset it usually wasn't long before she got a nudge and licks from our dogs comforting her. It did wonders for her and maybe you too. They're not stupid though and understand hurt. I remember when we had to bury our cat in the yard our dog howled. She never did so before and never did so again. The two had a mutual respect for each other, not least when it came to terrorising our other cat together. Have also been wondering about your situation in general. Don't mean to be nosy, but apart from Oso have you got people there for you? Sounds like a lot of electronic contact. Anyway, hope you're well.

Thank you for the message V, I'm glad if seeing Oso maybe put a smile on your face.

It wasn't an easy decision to leave him, and I remember my father and I talking about how once I stabilized, I'd bring him here with me to live. The other day, my father had said "you know, Oso could be a therapy dog.", and I just nodded when really, I felt like bursting into tears. He was/is my best friend (Oso) and he was who I was living for.

When you mentioned how your dog howled as your cat was buried, it tugged at my heart. I've always loved animals so much.

I tend to be very hard on myself, so yeah, I didn't want to put Oso through anything more. He was always with me, he was a huge part of my recovery. It's just, after all, that my recovery won't happen, and these days I'm trying to accept that and feel less fearful of what's to come. Being realistic here.

I don't leave the apartment much, and my phone is almost always on DND. I don't know what to say to anyone anymore, or I'm losing steam. The downstairs neighbor remarked the other day how we haven't talked in "500 years" and I could barely muster up a laugh.
I have Medicare. Was denied Medicaid. Medicare doesn't pay at all for my meds. I can't afford the copayments.

I use this particular site. There are many. You can get your meds cheap and they mail it to you. You can also call their pharmacist with questions.


Thanks for this @Jean4

The pharmacy I go to is hooking me up with a hardship plan, so I'll paying a very discounted rate for my meds for March. Thankful.
 
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How realistic are we talking here? Is it you or the situation? You seemed a little hopeful a few days ago. Now a setback and you're done? What could improve your situation? Not even the animal shelter anymore?
 
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Scheduled a pick up of clothing to be donated, also going to get a box together of kitchen items for the pick up as well. Less things to be cleared out of this apartment after I leave, however that may be. I'll be letting the landlord know I won't here after March 31st.

Went with the case worker yesterday to the Dept of Health & Human services. We always get different answers and are told to go to SS, and back and forth to DHS. However, the man I spoke with yesterday said it looks as though the Medicaid won't be "shut off" exactly on the 29th of this month. I don't trust that entirely, but the case worker was like oh that's great news! I've been given so many varied, unclear answers, I take this with a few grains of salt.

Anyhow, glad the donations are able to be picked up (I don't drive).

Will try to keep updating.

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How realistic are we talking here? Is it you or the situation? You seemed a little hopeful a few days ago. Now a setback and you're done? What could improve your situation? Not even the animal shelter anymore?

We may have discussed things through PM but just in case, I do still have an ember of hope in me - yes. Maybe I'll have it till the end, it seems to be my nature despite it all.

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Pan

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Wait, I'm not sure I understand. What's your plan for him?
I will ever giving him to my caretaker/friend, in the hopes that they bond..but I have given instructions in my will that he be euthanized, should the need arise.
 
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Don't you dare go hollow...
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I will ever giving him to my caretaker/friend, in the hopes that they bond..but I have given instructions in my will that he be euthanized, should the need arise.
Seems sensible, and there's no more you can do. None of us are here voluntarily, and that means you. Bless you.

Mind you, small story. My mum had a dog when she was a teen, given to her by her dad. She loved that dog more than anything. Now, my grandfather was actually a really great person, but when his life crashed in on him for the fourth time, he became broken and a drunk. He did a lot of crap in those days. Of course he became unemployed and my grandmother had to carry the family, and the little money they had went for booze or cigarettes. This was after the war, so living conditions were tight anyway. He also became violent and extremely verbal, so they were evicted, which is funny, because it had been our apartment complex before the financial difficulties. The only place they found refuge wouldn't let them keep the dog. So, they brought him to an animal shelter. Ultimately, everyone agreed that he wouldn't bond with anyone else and thus, with a heavy heart, they had him euthanised. He was only six years old.

A year later they moved into a new place, one which would've let them keep the dog, but the damage had been done. My mum never forgave him for that and the relationship stayed frosty for the rest of their lives. He died some thirty years later, alone, and with one leg amputated due to health issues. Ironically, I was six at the time and never met him.

For what it's worth, I think it is the right decision and all the best to you both.
 
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Seems sensible, and there's no more you can do. None of us are here voluntarily, and that means you. Bless you.

Mind you, small story. My mum had a dog when she was a teen, given to her by her dad. She loved that dog more than anything. Now, my grandfather was actually a really great person, but when his life crashed in on him for the fourth time, he became broken and a drunk. He did a lot of crap in those days. Of course he became unemployed and my grandmother had to carry the family, and the little money they had went for booze or cigarettes. This was after the war, so living conditions were tight anyway. He also became violent and extremely verbal, so they were evicted, which is funny, because it had been our apartment complex before the financial difficulties. The only place they found refuge wouldn't let them keep the dog. So, they brought him to an animal shelter. Ultimately, everyone agreed that he wouldn't bond with anyone else and thus, with a heavy heart, they had him euthanised. He was only six years old.

A year later they moved into a new place, one which would've let them keep the dog, but the damage had been done. My mum never forgave him for that and the relationship stayed frosty for the rest of their lives. He died some thirty years later, alone, and with one leg amputated due to health issues. Ironically, I was six at the time and never met him.

For what it's worth, I think it is the right decision and all the best to you both.
Thanx. That means a great deal, given that he has been my constant companion through some pretty tough times, which, I reason, he must sense in his own way. Some beings are meant to live; some are not. I was never truly connected to this world, though I played the game admirably enough. It's finished. Best
 
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Nov 25, 2019
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Wasn't always so, but know what you mean, unfortunately. :/

It's not fair, or right.
 
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This past September, after being released from inpatient ECT, there were days I'd stay in bed, getting up only to use the bathroom and maybe grab a ginger ale. I wasn't showering much, barely eating. I stopped taking all of my meds completely and didn't really experience any side effects/withdrawal. I knew things were winding down for me, and I'd been planning on ending my life in early November.

In a painful twist, my mother passed away on the Saturday of the weekend I'd been planning to end my own life. We had a tumultuous relationship and had been estranged for about 2 years. I felt gutted, hearing how she had died alone, of complications of pneumonia. I felt a happiness or relief she's no longer suffering. I miss her.

December and January felt like a blur of pain. Nightmares, panic attacks, crying and gasping for breath. "Just get to March" I'd think to myself.

I'm on SSI and receive Medicaid automatically, and had a review of my case done at the end of January. I'd been dreading the results, preparing for the worst and here it is: my medicaid will be void on 2/29. I haven't received a letter from Social Security yet, but I'm sure it's on the way.

I can appeal the decisions and I'll be seeing my caseworker on Monday. I'm glad I ordered SN and have it here for when the time comes. I couldn't get a script for Meto so I'm planning a generous dose of Zofran.

This is NOT goodbye. When the time comes, I'll leave with the love and support, and the understanding of this community. Thank you all for your empathy, openness and for not judging each other (or me). This place is one of a kind and has, some might say ironically , given me comfort, and hope. You've been with me in the depths of despair and didn't turn me away. May this site continue on, and may the time come when the right to die is widely viewed as a fundamental human right.

I'll update you soon.

With love and appreciation, E
Peace ❤️
Voyager, I have to tell you, I would so love to sit and have a cup of coffee with you now.

In fact, everyone commenting here in this thread or simply stopping by to read, I'm touched and I do not feel alone.




Ay, I'm crying over here. Thank you ❤

I'll blaze one in your honor a little later :)
This past September, after being released from inpatient ECT, there were days I'd stay in bed, getting up only to use the bathroom and maybe grab a ginger ale. I wasn't showering much, barely eating. I stopped taking all of my meds completely and didn't really experience any side effects/withdrawal. I knew things were winding down for me, and I'd been planning on ending my life in early November.

In a painful twist, my mother passed away on the Saturday of the weekend I'd been planning to end my own life. We had a tumultuous relationship and had been estranged for about 2 years. I felt gutted, hearing how she had died alone, of complications of pneumonia. I felt a happiness or relief she's no longer suffering. I miss her.

December and January felt like a blur of pain. Nightmares, panic attacks, crying and gasping for breath. "Just get to March" I'd think to myself.

I'm on SSI and receive Medicaid automatically, and had a review of my case done at the end of January. I'd been dreading the results, preparing for the worst and here it is: my medicaid will be void on 2/29. I haven't received a letter from Social Security yet, but I'm sure it's on the way.

I can appeal the decisions and I'll be seeing my caseworker on Monday. I'm glad I ordered SN and have it here for when the time comes. I couldn't get a script for Meto so I'm planning a generous dose of Zofran.

This is NOT goodbye. When the time comes, I'll leave with the love and support, and the understanding of this community. Thank you all for your empathy, openness and for not judging each other (or me). This place is one of a kind and has, some might say ironically , given me comfort, and hope. You've been with me in the depths of despair and didn't turn me away. May this site continue on, and may the time come when the right to die is widely viewed as a fundamental human right.

I'll update you soon.

With love and appreciation, E
You're not alone xx
 
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It saddens me, too. I know I'm not alone in being "priced out". I can't share this news of loss of coverage with my father, it would lead to ridicule and blame on me, shame on me, etc. He has an extremely difficult time understanding brain injuries, and a tendency to belittle me. If I told him my coverage was ending, he'd go full rage mode and no, I'm not putting myself through that now. It's been enough already. Just trying to play it cool (ha) and get through February.


A hug for you.

i think it is outrageous that this is happening to you...and that you have to play it cool on top of it all. How much more can people take, I ask you? Someday, people will reach their limits—-if I had my way, i'd opt for armed insurrection. Screw the U.S.A.!
The thought of you being forced to live on the streets is infuriating; all I know is that this country will pay a heavy price for neglecting the mentally ill someday. I hope you will survive your ordeal.
 
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Today's the day/tonight's the night...

I have given this much thought (years of thought really). I'll be using SN, going by Stan's guide, and have benzodiazepines on hand to help with any fears or panic, though I have to say...I went to sleep last night knowing today would be the day and I wasn't scared. As I write this, I remain calm. I'm relieved my life will be over.

Please, if you can, try to refrain from asking if I've thought this through, etc. I'm ready. Also, I ask for no further inbox messages or emails. Comment in this thread if you so wish.

Thank you @voyager for your kindness ❤

Thank you so very much, all of you out there, this community we have; I've felt free here.

Mods, tomorrow - please cross my name off/ban me.

I wish all of you relief from the pain and anguish.

Goodbye SS and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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Today's the day/tonight's the night...

I have given this much thought (years of thought really). I'll be using SN, going by Stan's guide, and have benzodiazepines on hand to help with any fears or panic, though I have to say...I went to sleep last night knowing today would be the day and I wasn't scared. As I write this, I remain calm. I'm relieved my life will be over. Please if you can, try to refrain from asking if I've thought this through, etc. I'm ready.

Thank you @voyager for your kindness ❤

Thank you so very much, all of you out there, this community we have; I've felt free here.

Mods, please cross my name off tomorrow/ban

I wish all of you relief from the pain and anguish.

Goodbye SS and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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Farewell Friend!
I hope you find your peace!
 
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Today's the day/tonight's the night...

I have given this much thought (years of thought really). I'll be using SN, going by Stan's guide, and have benzodiazepines on hand to help with any fears or panic, though I have to say...I went to sleep last night knowing today would be the day and I wasn't scared. As I write this, I remain calm. I'm relieved my life will be over.

Please, if you can, try to refrain from asking if I've thought this through, etc. I'm ready. Also, I ask for no further inbox messages or emails. Comment in this thread if you so wish.

Thank you @voyager for your kindness ❤

Thank you so very much, all of you out there, this community we have; I've felt free here.

Mods, tomorrow - please cross my name off/ban me.

I wish all of you relief from the pain and anguish.

Goodbye SS and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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I'm so sorry. I've read your posts with interest. Sad to see you go but from your posts I can see why. I really hope your suffering is at an end. Your story really moved me. You deserve peace.
 
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Nov 25, 2019
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I'm so sorry, E. Really hoped it wouldn't come to this. You deserved so much more. Will never forgive myself that I wasn't here for you when you called. Hope you can forgive me. Miss you so much and it hurts. If only I could've spoken to you. Wouldn't have tried tallking you out of it, just be there for you. Will never forget you, and hope you found that rest among the stars you so craved for. Dunno if there is another side, but if there is, I will look there for you someday and hope to find you at peace.

Take care, dear E. Hope it all went well and you suffer no more.

All my love and un abrazo enorme. Always.

- Dirk.

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I hope things went well for you and you had a peaceful exit from this cold world :heart: :heart:
 
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Hope you're somewhere beautiful.
Pretty sure you are....
 
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Dec 9, 2019
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You are so deserving of finding peace and tranquility :heart:

Farewell.....
 
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Best wishes. Wish I could join you. But I can't bring myself to do it yet, annoyingly.
 
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You are lucky. As of this date, my poor boy Chooch the Xolo has no ne else to depend on and love. While I think daily about CTB, the little nipper keeps me going...human beings could take a lesson, huh?
 
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