Is your family toxic for you?

[DivineSpark]

What type of relationships do you have with your parents and siblings? Are they kind and understanding?

 

[darksouls]

my family is extremely toxic for me
that is the reason why I had to move far away

 

[Pluto]

 

[NonEssential]

My family's not perfect, but they're still good. It definitely makes it more difficult to eventually ctb.

 

[karakoltriste]

Yes, a lot. I don't talk to my mother, blocked she on whatsapp, she told me I was lazy to tell her about my disability.
My dad was emotionally abusive and neglectful. This month, he got very sick, and I had to move back to my hometown three times in one month, which has increased my suicidal ideation. I hate the house I grew up in because everything is broken and dirty, but I thought with him in the hospital everything would be better. However, my brother (I blame my dad for this) has also become toxic. Knowing about my depression and suicidal ideation, he demanded things from me that I simply can't do in this state. My aunt told me, "You don't seem that bad" because she wanted me to be with my dad 24/7. Still, I can't stop thinking about the damage I would do to them if I decide to CTB

 

[whywere]

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WONDERFUL!

Walter

 

[DivineSpark]

My family's not perfect, but they're still good. It definitely makes it more difficult to eventually ctb.

Yup, I can relate to that. My family is also good ( I guess I am lucky, I have heard horror stories about families of other people) so I am blessed in that sense

 

[whywere]

One huge word: YES!

Walter

 

[divinemistress36]

No, Im lucky in that way they arent toxic. My mom just isnt very emotionally supportive

 

[Grog]

My family is very toxic. No one in my family is the type to talk about their feelings; they say that is "sissy stuff" or something like that.
My parents have never been there for me emotionally. They're not good at articulating their thoughts and feelings. They're not a good choice for talking about your problems to. And, if you bring up an issue you have with them, they won't take any blame; they'll just deflect instead of reflecting and apologizing.

 

[thereisnoneed]

bad, but not that bad, i was born too late, am 24 years old, my parents are in their 70s and 80s, but my siblings are also middled aged people with children of their own, this generational gap has led to a lot of problems between us, they're just ignorant about too many things, it's tiresome and hell-ish to talk to them about many things that they don't understand, so my relationship with them is kinda of bad.

none really would understand what i am talking about unless they were born too late like me. i barely talk to them at all, i wonder if anyone on here understands this, my mom is also illiterate, my father's not much better either.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

When I became Catholic, my family (except wife and kids) shut me off completely. Mom, dad, siblings, everyone, are Jehovah's Witnesses, they shun anyone who leaves. The fact that they even did that, and that it felt totally normal to me, probably tells the whole story. My life is dying off in chunks like that. I don't mind.

 

[ThatRussianDude]

My mum is unstable, she can go from ecstatic to pissed off in a second. Thats why I can never feel at ease with her. The saddest part is that she can be normal to strangers.

 

[Forveleth]

This is a difficult question for me to answer. On the surface, the answer is no, as my parents appear to be very loving and supportive. However, when I was in therapy, I realized a lot of the negative things I said to my therapist and a lot of my thinking was a direct result of, if not quotation from, my parents. Their method of "support" was more like "protecting" me. Every time I wanted to do something, it was a list of how hard it was going to be or why it would not work or why there were other options that I should do instead. Whenever I did a good job there were compliments but also a "but" afterwards about what I could have done differently/better. Therapy showed me how this shaped my brain to live in this self-defeating cycle. When I want to do something now, I first begin by thinking of all of the ways it could fail and talk myself out of it before I start. I have no confidence in anything because I worry about getting something wrong or not doing something "good enough".

There is also the part where they threatened me up, down, left, and right about going to college, including kicking me out of the house when I graduated high school. This pushed me into a life path I did not want and a career path I hate. Also, because I have no self-confidence, I have always been heavily reliant on their approval, which means everything I do centers around how they will perceive it. I have deprived myself of so many opportunities because of what I think their reaction will be and the fallout from it.

The problem is none of this was purposeful. They are genuinely loving and supportive but they have fucked me up so good I have had therapists quit on me. So, I do not know how to answer this question.