Discussion Is there anything to be gained from suppressing or ignoring negative emotions?

[Feeding Pigeons]

That's exactly what your problem is! You've defanged yourself!


You'd be very unpleasantly surprised. I don't embellish my dirty anecdotes as much as people assume; I'm every bit as shameless irl as I am on here. That's what's kept me alive.

I really am a rather attractive, rather hairy 40-year-old gay top with a sizeable penis who deals with his traumas by being compulsively promiscuous, masturbating & popping Xanax. I really translate, write & ghostwrite all kinds of stupid crap for a living, including jokes for mostly lame stand-up comics. I really do occasionally penetrate old/ugly/fat/socially awkward guys for money & my bf really is a 28-year-old alcoholic hustler who dropped out of high school. Why would I make up any of that? To be adored by all the suicidal gays into fucked-up "daddies" that I will never meet?

Well, don't change. You're a fuckin' gift.

 

[Celerity]

Fuck the positive thinking crap. Arguing with myself when I'm upset is asking for trouble. I take a "do what works; cut out the rest" approach to anything I read or hear in the self-help realm. Like you, I do not find positivity mind games to be helpful whether they're inspired by Buddhism, a form of legit CBT, or some crap a "life coach" type has cobbled together.

I have had some successes with focus and body scan meditation. Meditations where you take a neutral approach to your thoughts have been the most helpful for me. The stance is one of detachment, not antagonism and control. For me, arguing with myself when I'm anxious, angry, or sad feels like fighting fire with fire. It reminds me of the futility in arguing with foolish or unreasonable people. You can't argue someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into. Why should an argument in your head play out any differently?

 

[Feeding Pigeons]

I know meditation has been brought up a couple of times in this thread, but there is something to breathing exercises. I do a little bit of buteyko breathing, to put it shortly deeply and forcefully breathing into your chest sometimes makes anxiety worse, so doing the opposite helps a bit. You breathe as slow as you possibly can without starving yourself of oxygen, through your nose only. You're not supposed to feel lightheaded at all. By breathing slowly, you will breathe into your stomach and improve the control of your gut muscles. I'm an asthmatic and when I do this I can feel my heart rate go down and my lung capacity increase only after a few minutes. Its brought me a few mintues of peace a couple of times so, hey. Just thought I'd share that.

 

[netrezven]

Still remember Lucifer from the series. Something like his mother the goddess was about to explode and destroy humanity and stuff like that. He desided to be distracted. Playing games on his phone, so happy, so good.
I'm going to do the same thing for the next 10 day. There is not much i can do, or i don't wanna do nothing about it. Will distract myself with positive stuff and completely ignore the miserable part around me. Will tell how it worked out.
Anyway one of the kids is now in quarantine /should be but technically never gave concent or signature about it/, cause of one of his classmates. Got a deal with my wife to try to work from home to have more time with her, so i left the summer office. Now i should expect that quarantine regular check, to be a front for a basic raid and arrest. And will do nothing about it. Won't even get mad at them this time for trying.
And by the way instead of lying on some exotic beach and have party, vacations and a basic good life, we have to stay here for the winter, be on "quarantine", be with online shchools again and supid lockdowns, because it's too complicated for my wife and is scared from insects, sharks, tsunamis and vulcanos.
Oh and hearing my mother /it was complicated so i had to had a chat with her/, - that i'm not that special and if other people can live without money, food, or normal appartments, and be abused by everyone around them, i should be too, let other's fuck with me for my entire life, cause that's what's normal. And i've been raised poor but still had a good life... and i won't be a problem if my kids too live in poverty, even if they don't have to. Ya "over my death body" won't help anyone, but it's still hard to catch up to that.

 

[netrezven]

Still remember Lucifer from the series. Something like his mother the goddess was about to explode and destroy humanity and stuff like that. He desided to be distracted. Playing games on his phone, so happy, so good.
I'm going to do the same thing for the next 10 day. There is not much i can do, or i don't wanna do nothing about it. Will distract myself with positive stuff and completely ignore the miserable part around me. Will tell how it worked out.
Anyway one of the kids is now in quarantine /should be but technically never gave concent or signature about it/, cause of one of his classmates. Got a deal with my wife to try to work from home to have more time with her, so i left the summer office. Now i should expect that quarantine regular check, to be a front for a basic raid and arrest. And will do nothing about it. Won't even get mad at them this time for trying.
And by the way instead of lying on some exotic beach and have party, vacations and a basic good life, we have to stay here for the winter, be on "quarantine", be with online shchools again and supid lockdowns, because it's too complicated for my wife and is scared from insects, sharks, tsunamis and vulcanos.
Oh and hearing my mother /it was complicated so i had to had a chat with her/, - that i'm not that special and if other people can live without money, food, or normal appartments, and be abused by everyone around them, i should be too, let other's fuck with me for my entire life, cause that's what's normal. And i've been raised poor but still had a good life... and i won't be a problem if my kids too live in poverty, even if they don't have to. Ya "over my death body" won't help anyone, but it's still hard to catch up to that.

It all went well. Was living like a complete happy idiot for almost two weeks. No one came at my door, never looked for people watching outside. Even when some guy that i know met me "by accident" and just as a normal conversation goes "you live here, right?"...i didn't care at all.
For a week i made what i made the entire half an year, that week i made 3x more for 2x less efforts, and that does not even include the rise of crypto, that's simply money i got, not made.
All of this makes me wonder how long till it all ends. bad, beeing happy, not carying, not calculating, beeing so arrogant in business. As much as i wanna say it's just my PTSD, i know it's not, will give it a little bit more time till end of month.

 

[Pallf]

I prefer holding in my negative emotions and thoughts because sharing just gets me yelled at. I will allow myself to open up a little here.

 

[Ashu]

That's what the normtards do, and they seem to be doing alright. But we aren't normtards.

 

[Mixo]

I really am a rather attractive, rather hairy 40-year-old gay top with a sizeable penis who deals with his traumas by being compulsively promiscuous, masturbating & popping Xanax. I really translate, write & ghostwrite all kinds of stupid crap for a living, including jokes for mostly lame stand-up comics. I really do occasionally penetrate old/ugly/fat/socially awkward guys for money & my bf really is a 28-year-old alcoholic hustler who dropped out of high school. Why would I make up any of that? To be adored by all the suicidal gays into fucked-up "daddies" that I will never meet?

Holy shit, your life sounds interesting.