Is there a way to stop feeling overwhelmingly angry all the time

[momentomori00]

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[coolcow1289]

Anger has similar neurological pathways as anxiety. Have you tried any medication for anxiety?

 

[momentomori00]

Anger has similar neurological pathways as anxiety. Have you tried any medication for anxiety?

I'm not allowed to hop on medication (side-effects, etc.), but is there a way to calm down the anxiety without meds? (I already exercise regularly + journal every once in a while)

 

[Reeincarnation]

I think you need to release this anger violently without hurting yourself or others (since it seems exercising doesn't help much) and as Coolcow said it can be similar to anxiety, which also needs to be released in some way.

Maybe you could buy yourself a dummy or a boxing bag? And go at it until you tire yourself, try to talk to yourself in your head, comfort yourself, at first it sounds stupid and useless but with practice and consistency it can be helpful. Cheers

 

[Catechism2282]

I dont know. I wish the same thing. I've fought extremely hard against the constant rumination, bombarding it with positive thoughts. My problem is the negative paradigm is so powerful, and idk if any medicine or amount of therapy could ever fix that. For example earlier I was trying to find some beauty outside, but all I could think about was why everyone has useless grass growing on every yard instead of edible and medicinal plants. Then I thought "oh yeah, so they can take even more from us, sell more lawnmowers and services and feed us their own modified foods to kill off even more people and good luck even affording it at $8 an hour and $800 month rent and blah blah blah, of course!". I wish I could tell you it was possible but I've been trying for 40+ years and believe me I've tried everything based on extensive research. I keep trying, but it gets harder and harder every day to go on generating more wealth for people that actually had parents that taught them things, even helped them start their own people-farming business to take advantage of the ones that didn't. But I don't think I'm helping here so I digress, sorry.

I think you need to release this anger violently without hurting yourself or others (since it seems exercising doesn't help much) and as Coolcow said it can be similar to anxiety, which also needs to be released in some way.

Maybe you could buy yourself a dummy or a boxing bag? And go at it until you tire yourself, try to talk to yourself in your head, comfort yourself, at first it sounds stupid and useless but with practice and consistency it can be helpful. Cheers

If OP can I 2nd that only because I remember when I was younger tae kwon do was the shit to me and you could find family or friends there. My instructor was more of a dad to me or any family for that matter. I kinda agree with you about the lifting and such because I work out like a madman, although I have my own theories about gyms that wouldn't help anyone but yeah out of all things martial arts would probably be my #1 advice for pretty much anyone here. I can't do it anymore due to permanent injuries.

 

[heatnormal]

stop and think what made you angry, then get to specifics (perceived disrespect, injustice, or invalidation). don't monitor yourself 24/7, just be aware. people are different; some fawn, others freeze, and you get angry. try working on other areas of your life, and your anger may subside.
(a boxing dummy may be a good temporary solution, but won't help in a long run.)

 

[Reeincarnation]

If OP can I 2nd that only because I remember when I was younger tae kwon do was the shit to me and you could find family or friends there. My instructor was more of a dad to me or any family for that matter. I kinda agree with you about the lifting and such because I work out like a madman, although I have my own theories about gyms that wouldn't help anyone but yeah out of all things martial arts would probably be my #1 advice for pretty much anyone here. I can't do it anymore due to permanent injuries.

That's a really good idea, contact fighting sports would be great and it teaches you a discipline at the same time. Mind + Body work.

 

[coolcow1289]

I'm not allowed to hop on medication (side-effects, etc.), but is there a way to calm down the anxiety without meds? (I already exercise regularly + journal every once in a while)

No. I tried everything myself. Everything. Exercise, diet, changing jobs, changing environment, quitting caffeine and alcohol, meditation, supplements, therapy. I finally after years agreed to go on meds and it's the only thing that's helped even a little.

 

[momentomori00]

I think you need to release this anger violently without hurting yourself or others (since it seems exercising doesn't help much) and as Coolcow said it can be similar to anxiety, which also needs to be released in some way.

Maybe you could buy yourself a dummy or a boxing bag? And go at it until you tire yourself, try to talk to yourself in your head, comfort yourself, at first it sounds stupid and useless but with practice and consistency it can be helpful. Cheers

I've already been put into mma for like 3 years, I draw, write, play music, it all helps in the beginning then tapers off lol. Ah well, I'm just hoping I find meds that work for me eventually

I dont know. I wish the same thing. I've fought extremely hard against the constant rumination, bombarding it with positive thoughts. My problem is the negative paradigm is so powerful, and idk if any medicine or amount of therapy could ever fix that. For example earlier I was trying to find some beauty outside, but all I could think about was why everyone has useless grass growing on every yard instead of edible and medicinal plants. Then I thought "oh yeah, so they can take even more from us, sell more lawnmowers and services and feed us their own modified foods to kill off even more people and good luck even affording it at $8 an hour and $800 month rent and blah blah blah, of course!". I wish I could tell you it was possible but I've been trying for 40+ years and believe me I've tried everything based on extensive research. I keep trying, but it gets harder and harder every day to go on generating more wealth for people that actually had parents that taught them things, even helped them start their own people-farming business to take advantage of the ones that didn't. But I don't think I'm helping here so I digress, sorry.

I'm more-so angry because of past actions that were all so avoidable it kills me. It sucks because I wanted to do the right thing so bad and all I needed was support and none was there yk- i get that the past is the past and I can't do much about it but fuck. What has helped you the most in terms of alleviating the anger even if just for a bit? Also don't apologize lol

If OP can I 2nd that only because I remember when I was younger tae kwon do was the shit to me and you could find family or friends there. My instructor was more of a dad to me or any family for that matter. I kinda agree with you about the lifting and such because I work out like a madman, although I have my own theories about gyms that wouldn't help anyone but yeah out of all things martial arts would probably be my #1 advice for pretty much anyone here. I can't do it anymore due to permanent injuries.

Yeah I've been doing mma for a while but it doesn't help, or when it does it's only for short periods of time, then as soon as that's up i'm still a ball of anger. I also can't risk any more CTE because that would probably not help with the anger, so only light sparring which does nothing for me.

stop and think what made you angry, then get to specifics (perceived disrespect, injustice, or invalidation). don't monitor yourself 24/7, just be aware. people are different; some fawn, others freeze, and you get angry. try working on other areas of your life, and your anger may subside.
(a boxing dummy may be a good temporary solution, but won't help in a long run.)

Lack of support, lost potential, past mistakes, yada yada yada. I used to be able to be 'functionally' angry, but recently (past year-ish) I've been so frustrated at life it feels like I can't do anything BUT be angry, even when there's other passions that I want to work on.

No. I tried everything myself. Everything. Exercise, diet, changing jobs, changing environment, quitting caffeine and alcohol, meditation, supplements, therapy. I finally after years agreed to go on meds and it's the only thing that's helped even a little.

How do the meds make you feel? Does the anger go away altogether or does it just dim slightly. And does it affect you in any other way?

 

[Reeincarnation]

I'm more-so angry because of past actions that were all so avoidable it kills me. It sucks because I wanted to do the right thing so bad and all I needed was support and none was there yk- i get that the past is the past and I can't do much about it but fuck.

I see what you mean and I sympathize with you, I get the same but instead it makes me feel really sad.

I know it's most likely not what you want to hear but it seems this is the only thing that will change your situation, or meds.

You might have to practice radical acceptance, you are still holding onto those thoughts so it will be really hard for you not to feel frustrated about it. For every bad action there needs to be a compensation with a good one, that's how the order of the world works. Maybe you can find some sense of reedeeming if you put that energy into good actions/bettering yourself? I have made lots of stupid decisions too and it would be different if I was born into a better environment, with better support, so I understand you entirely.

It's hard not to obssess about bad decisions we made in the past, but acceptance and reparation might be the only way to carry it without it being a burden. That's what has worked for me, nowadays I try my best to be useful for other people, support them, make good actions to compensate for the bad decisions I took and the people I ignorantly hurt. I'm not sure this will be of any help but I hope you can find a solution