Venting Is heartbreak really a bad reason to off oneself?

[FinalValentine]

I for one have always felt that love is really the only thing I both want and need in life, yet I am one of the loneliest people I know. Every great person I meet and have any chemistry with eventually ends up giving me a severe heartbreak and it feels like they were there only to give me false hope. I don't even know why that happens. I'm not ugly, not creepy, I've been told I have some green flags, but every time I fall in love something bad comes out of it. Either I get ignored and ghosted, or she keeps confusing me for years, or it's painfully unclear whether it's mutual until I say something stupid and then it's painfully obvious it wasn't... Every time I get an inkling of hope for happiness - real, healthy happiness that supposedly everyone deserves - I only end up crashing into the ground, harder each time. It builds up to the point when it's eventually gonna break me, I can feel it. The only thing worse than the constant crushing loneliness is the times when it seems like it's getting better, only for it to hit harder once the hope is gone. It's too cruel for me.

 

[3rdworldsadness]

No. Love is a complex yet easiest thing and feeling. You don't have to end your life just because you got a heartbreak. If you really want to do it and it's not forceful to you then do what you like. I sympathise with you. Cause I got heartbreaks too and the feeling fades away too easily because of my circumstances. I don't know about your situation but I really hope you can peace wherever you are, in earth or other dimensions. Sending my love and good energies.

 

[SoLowHollow48]

What kind of heartbreak are we talking about here? Parents abandoning you? Partners cheating? Friends forgetting you or...? I was getting the impression that all the people you've loved had betrayed you so, which ones?

As for heartbreak being a reason for suicide? That's very 18th century painting of you to do that. The answer is no.

People are always going to disappoint you and you will keep disappointing people. It is not something you can control. You are just a person who can make mistakes.

You can, however, control your perception over others and yourself. I got the sense that when you love, you love so much, you put these people on pedestals. You tie your worth to the success of your relationship with them and when that doesn't work out, you feel like a complete failure.

Well, that's on self-worth. People come and go. You come and go to people's lives too. The only thing you carry whoever it is you meet, is yourself. You must re-evaluate the way you see yourself in relationships now.

No one likes a stingy partner, a stingy friend--but if you must bleed just to be liked and just to be loved, that is not affection nor love. That is a ticking time bomb where you keep tolerating their shit until you've had enough or they've used you enough.

A good relationship is where you feel secure even with your chest cut open. I don't know how to explain it but the point is, it's where you're sure that even when you're in your most vulnerable state, these dumbasses wouldn't leave you. They stay. To help you and to carry you.

It's not easy to find someone like this but you'll get to them eventually. Dying now would mean losing to pain and I don't think you're that kind of person after all of those heartbreaks. You're still here, bro. You're a fighter.

 

[elenaboo25]

There are no good or bad reasons to ctb. Only you yourself can decide what is a good reason and what is not. But love comes and goes, and so does heartbreak, most of the time. You might miss the person now, a lot, and you might miss them again later. But in between, there might be happy times. You might fall in love with somebody else.

I have struggled with heartbreak too, and I likely will experience it again, somewhere down the line. I used to chase romantic love. Now I've found something else. I've found a very good friend, my best friend. Yes, I lover her. But it's not romantic love, it's something else. It's difficult to describe. Basically I've found my person, but not in a romantic way. I hope you can find somebody like that too.

One thing to remember: You can always choose to go on another minute, another hour, another day. But once you do ctb, that's final, you can't go back. You'll either be dead or have to live with the consequences of a failed attempt. In some circumstances, that might be the logical conclusion to a life that's no longer worth living. In other circumstances, it's not, and it may be better to go on for another day. At the end of the day, only you can decide.

 

[StryngerX]

I mean, if you want my opinion, yes, eventually you're going to find that someone. And if it is love what you want, ctb for a heartbreak just seens stupid for me.

 

[lilaboc101]

I don't know if there are buckets called "good" or "bad" for reasons to suicide but I do know that there is someone out there for you. It is sometimes painful to take the road to get there and sometimes it may unfortunately take a long time but I sincerely believe there is someone out there for you.

 

[charlavail]

I'm gonna come to you as someone who recently went through the worst heartbreak of her life and has only had a string of people "love me" and then it ends in unbearable heartbreak. I really hate when people say "there is someone out there for you" or "eventually you'll find that person" because nothing is guaranteed. and being loved is like my biggest want in life. and it doesn't feel like it's ever going to happen for me. so it's one of my reasons for CTB. I've been in a DV situation, and when I told someone what happened he ended up blaming it on me. My last ex was "supportive" of my stressful family life and past but then one day out of the blue just left me. love has completetly broken me from relationships, caring for family, being there for friends. i'm basically a shell of a human. so me personally, no i don't think it's a "bad" reason.