I’m starting to try to detach from my ex

[ThatStateOfMind]

I feel like I need to try at least, even if I fail to do so, and all things considered, I probably will. It feels hopeless, I still place a lot of weight on her opinion of me even though deep down I know that's unreasonable to myself. I wish college could start sooner to keep my mind off of it and meet new people to see nearly daily. Not sure if I could date yet, I don't know if I can be fair to a new girl.

I'm getting annoyed of being so anxious about her. I wanna try to stay friends but detach my romantic feelings about her, if that makes sense. I feel like if I start working out soon (another plan I have once I'm in college because there's a gym close to it), and bulk up a little, I could gain some confidence that i feel like I really need.

I feel like such a hopeless romantic in this situation, why must I still miss her and feel this way all the time. This is why I think I need more friends, even more platonic female friends. Maybe I can fix my self hatred soon as well.

I'm sorry I post so much, this is I think my second post this week about this type of situation.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I'm not going to lie, I cried over all of this last night, I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that it's unlikely we're going to get back together, I've tried to hold out hope for so long but it's dwindling. I still can't let go yet but I'm getting there I guess.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Be kind and patient with yourself. It's going to take time- maybe a LOT of time. Some people literally take years to get over someone. Plus- you're likely to have relapses now and again- you're only human.

Still- I think you're taking really positive steps. You do need to look at how this has affected you and continues to. It's not your fault but it seems like she does have you dangling on a string- which has got to be awful for you. It's not fair for you to put your life on hold- waiting in the wings for her to maybe get tired of this new guy. You deserve to live your own life and make new opportunities for yourself. I REALLY hope this course allows you to do that. Good luck.

 

[Born2bealoser]

I feel like I need to try at least, even if I fail to do so, and all things considered, I probably will. It feels hopeless, I still place a lot of weight on her opinion of me even though deep down I know that's unreasonable to myself. I wish college could start sooner to keep my mind off of it and meet new people to see nearly daily. Not sure if I could date yet, I don't know if I can be fair to a new girl.

I'm getting annoyed of being so anxious about her. I wanna try to stay friends but detach my romantic feelings about her, if that makes sense. I feel like if I start working out soon (another plan I have once I'm in college because there's a gym close to it), and bulk up a little, I could gain some confidence that i feel like I really need.

I feel like such a hopeless romantic in this situation, why must I still miss her and feel this way all the time. This is why I think I need more friends, even more platonic female friends. Maybe I can fix my self hatred soon as well.

I'm sorry I post so much, this is I think my second post this week about this type of situation.

Ball up man

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Ball up man

You seriously think that helps?

 

[Born2bealoser]

You seriously think that helps?

your a child, so much experiences to have

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Be kind and patient with yourself. It's going to take time- maybe a LOT of time. Some people literally take years to get over someone. Plus- you're likely to have relapses now and again- you're only human.

Still- I think you're taking really positive steps. You do need to look at how this has affected you and continues to. It's not your fault but it seems like she does have you dangling on a string- which has got to be awful for you. It's not fair for you to put your life on hold- waiting in the wings for her to maybe get tired of this new guy. You deserve to live your own life and make new opportunities for yourself. I REALLY hope this course allows you to do that. Good luck.

Maybe this is just a relapse because I felt like I was over her and then it crashed down. It's also been exactly 4 months if that's relevant.

I do want to say though, I'm not putting my life on hold, I've been more productive then before. I've applied for college, thought about dieting, and hopefully can find a good hobby, club, or niche in college to occupy free time.

But thanks, I really appreciate it, I'm hoping this course leads me down a better path, it has been tough these past few months, and I don't imagine it getting much better anytime soon, but I hope it gets better for me soon. I don't think she's gonna break up with this guy anytime soon, so I'm trying to detach and move on, albeit unsuccessfully so far. It's been hard to accept that we might never get back together for me.

Ball up man

Wdym?

You seriously think that helps?

I honestly don't know what he means.