I'm 51 and have never been in love

[BlazingBob]

Just thought I'd say that. I've had a lot of mini relationships but have never been close to getting married and never had a family of my own. It's not the top reason but it's definitely up there. It's just part of me never fitting in. I just want to not exist.

 

[Liminal1]

From my experience, love is overrated. Its wonderful while it lasts, the problem can be making it last. Its the worst pain you'll ever feel when it ends

 

[Lookoutbelow]

Just thought I'd say that. I've had a lot of mini relationships but have never been close to getting married and never had a family of my own. It's not the top reason but it's definitely up there. It's just part of me never fitting in. I just want to not exist.

I'm 53 and my love of 13 years does not love me anymore. It is the reason I am here. Lost love is unbearable.

From my experience, love is overrated. Its wonderful while it lasts, the problem can be making it last. Its the worst pain you'll ever feel when it ends

You are correct.

From my experience, love is overrated. Its wonderful while it lasts, the problem can be making it last. Its the worst pain you'll ever feel when it ends

You are correct.

 

[Darkover]

it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

 

[Lookoutbelow]

it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Bullshit. I've never experienced this kind of pain before I found love.

 

[whywere]

I am 67, and I had one, which turned out to be a gambling addict and a lover of slot machines.

Now I have the love on all my family members here and I am so ever grateful, thank you.

Walter

 

[Darkover]

Bullshit. I've never experienced this kind of pain before I found love.

i know the pain well myself , i had a gf from age 16 to 18 we was together for 2 and half years then she broke up with me i've not had sex again since 19 years later now 37 so i know it's not bullshit

 

[SmollMushroom]

I have fallen in love when I was younger, but it was a one-sided love so it was just pain for me.
I was so obsessed with that person for no particular reason, always thinking of them.
I'm glad it's over.
But if you can slowly fall in love with someone you spend your time with, that's probably healthier and better.

 

[smokingfish99]

I'm in love right now, I have a great gf. But health issues are forcing me to ctb. It would be better she was not in my life, I will soon destroy it

 

[randal_bond]

I'm in love right now, I have a great gf. But health issues are forcing me to ctb. It would be better she was not in my life, I will soon destroy it

If she loves you, she will not want you to set yourself on fire to keep her warm. Love gives, it's not selfish, it doesn't think of itself.

 

[ManByTheRiver]

it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

I completely agree, I was madly in love with this amazing woman for years, and then it just suddenly ended. The pain from the end of the relationship forced me to grow and I appreciate the times we had more than the hurt that was caused afterwards.

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

what would you consider love?

 

[smokingfish99]

If she loves you, she will not want you to set yourself on fire to keep her warm. Love gives, it's not selfish, it doesn't think of itself.

While that is true and beautifully put, I still know my death will be something she will likely never properly recover from. We consider each other soulmates. To die I will have to hurt the person I love the most, nobody should ever be put in that situation

 

[randal_bond]

While that is true and beautifully put, I still know my death will be something she will likely never properly recover from. We consider each other soulmates. To die I will have to hurt the person I love the most, nobody should ever be put in that situation

Of course not. Sorry you're backed into the corner.

what would you consider love?

Unselfish and repeated giving (time, resources, etc.) without expecting anything in return. And being happy with success of others, not jealous, not resentful. That's how I see it.

 

[Lullaby]

I'm really sorry! It's one of the best and worst things someone can feel.

Recently had my heartbroken (again), and I wish I could rip out my heart and never have experienced it to begin with. It hurts.

But I also know if it's something I never would have gotten the chance to, I would wish for it more than anything too. Feels like a double edged sword.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

Bullshit. I've never experienced this kind of pain before I found love.

I agree. boggles my mind how so many want romantic love or to get into a romantic relationship . for what to feel that kind of pain after the breakup?

That's just one reason I would never want romantic love.
There's more , much more why i think that garbage sucks and is not needed

 

[Rational man]

There's many like us. Its only recently on reflection that i accept i have not loved. I think if two people give unconditionally, trust, are open.with.feelings, be true to self, accept and support in the good and bad times then that might be love. Intimacy maybe too but to but We can love without intimacy. Ive had several intimate relationships but i couldn't trust anyone. You see I was abused and abandoned in childhood so I couldn't trust anyone.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

I have been in love several times and I have had long relationships. I could have married if I wanted to, I got some proposals. But for me it was the wrong men who asked and I am not the type who likes to cook and have children. The worst thing about love is the sadness when one lose love. That grief can take years to go away. Now only faded memories remain. Time changes everything.