If you want what you can’t have, is life even worth living?

[Realityisawful]

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[TheEndof]

For me, no. Not anymore. There used to always be hope that I'd get what I want eventually (if I worked hard enough, was patient, etc), but that hope has been buried. I guess it's really a matter of do I want to continue to put work into something that might happen someday? The answer is no. I'm too tired and as the years have gone on, it seems I've only gotten further from the things I want/dream of.

 

[k75]

I really struggle with this. The two things I want most, I can never have. It's impossible. Can I live with that? I've asked myself every day for years, and I still don't know the answer.

 

[Mustkeyknow]

For me, no. Not anymore. There used to always be hope that I'd get what I want eventually (if I worked hard enough, was patient, etc), but that hope has been buried. I guess it's really a matter of do I want to continue to put work into something that might happen someday? The answer is no. I'm too tired and as the years have gone on, it seems I've only gotten further from the things I want/dream of.

Same. I feel like even if I get what I want, after everything I've been through, it wouldn't be enough.

 

[issyishere]

I want good health but im diagnosed with chronic illnesses and autoimmune diseases so for me I'd personally say no. Situations could be different though.

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

NOPE. Thats why I'm here... fuck this life. If it wanted something from me, then it needed to give me what I needed..... Im bitter & my exp here is worthless if I have to live in a CONSTANT STATE of unmet needs. Even the most basic tasks become agony.

 

[AlreadyGone]

No. You are basically living a life where you are not happy. Living a life where you are not happy is not a life worth living. You are basically just existing at that point.

 

[Deathbydemo]

Honestly.. no. For me, it's not worth it. The excruciating pain of wanting something or someone that will never be yours is a pain too great to live with in my opinion.

 

[a_strange_day]

In my opinion No, but even knowing that I still spent my entire life lying to myself and hoping for the impossible. Human nature.

 

[Soul]

Hm. Isn't wanting a thing that won't go away?

Sorry if that sounds too too pseudoBuddhist — that's not really how I mean it. It's just ... We always want. If I get what I want, I immediately want something else. Want is what won't go away.

Disclaimer: Dr Jung would probably have something to say about this.

 

[Iloveyouall]

Hm. Isn't wanting a thing that won't go away?

Sorry if that sounds too too pseudoBuddhist — that's not really how I mean it. It's just ... We always want. If I get what I want, I immediately want something else. Want is what won't go away.

Disclaimer: Dr Jung would probably have something to say about this.

Most of the time I feel like I don't want anything, I don't even feel sad or empty about it. It's a strange feeling.
Maybe I'm deluding myself, I don't know.

 

[Ghost2211]

No, if I cant have the thing I want (need) I can't cope.

 

[Mr2005]

We all want what we can't have. That's what we have in common above all else. It goes for non suicidal people too. Girlfriend wants a baby and feels when she sees girls pushing prams as I do when I see these kids at all. Jealous. I just want my youth back and that's not something I can ever have. At least some peoples are still in the realms of possibility. If you stop yourself from having what you want you're going to regret it big time

 

[UpandDownPrincess]

My wants have changed as I've aged.

It's not that I don't wish for plenty, but maybe that's it - I've changed my wants into wishes. They don't have the same yearning, just a certain amount of hope and dreams. And hope and dreams are different now. They are tools, not traps.

My life is nothing like I pictured and it's finally okay. I'm disappointed that things didn't turn out the way I wanted, but I got a crappy deal. A mental illness, terrible family environment, some just plain bad luck. But that's the way the ball bounces.

I know people can have terrific lives and be happy. I know people who do. I call some of them friends. They were dealt from a different deck. Things worked out better for them. Not perfect, just better. They were blessed in at least one of the areas I struggle with. Good for them. Why should we all suffer?

This sounds a bit utopian, but I'm feeling okay right now. I had a terrible weekend with lots of horrible pain but it's finally subsided. I made a tough decision this morning and my mood has lifted a bit as a result.

My ctb impulses are the result of my mental illness, so it's different for me.

 

[thecountdown]

It sucks when what you really want requires you to make a different decision in your past. The regret can be unbearable. I suppose you should ammend your wants at that point but I certainly can't.

 

[dyingtodie]

I've been pondering this and have found that there are still many things that I do want, and that I can indeed have, and these things keep me here, like food, music, my cat...since I may never again be able to experience these things.

What I want most of all is community with like minded like hearted people which I do not think I will ever find, as the closest I came turned out to be a shell...So, I don't know if it makes sense for me to be here any longer since I'm 32 and have already experienced so much... and the types of relationships I long for do not seem to be available on this planet.

 

[Deleted member 15256]

Never had what I wanted.
So I lower my expectations... And didnt get anything. Except for mental illness.
Just tired to try now

 

[TAW122]

I don't think it's worth living (for me at least). I have wants and desires as well as dreams that are unattainable and at this point, I'm just coping until my time arrives. Life just sucks and haven't been enjoying it for the most part, aside from temporary times of joy, but that's pretty much it.

 

[Csmith8827]

It sucks when what you really want requires you to make a different decision in your past. The regret can be unbearable. I suppose you should ammend your wants at that point but I certainly can't.i

You should read Recursion by Blake Crouch...you can find a .mobi file of it online if you try hard enough. Google is magic.


I honestly don't have an answer to your question. I've dealt with that for years and still kinda do but I learned how to make the best of it over time and push on anyway? It's an almost impossible pill to swallow and contributes to my alcoholism but so does everything else in the world. I just want my privacy back, honestly ...

 

[MrOptions]

The human ego is a motherfucker.

 

[Shakespear's Brother]

A life without dignity is not worth living.

It's truly amazing that people honestly believe that poverty, homelessness, and destitution are moral failings, the result of some character defect, some choice that people explicitly make and the outcome is what they deserve.

That suffering in those conditions will build 'character' and 'strength'.

They can fuck off into the sun with that "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" bullshit.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

For me, no.

 

[LostAllHope7651]

No unfortunately not because it's makes it all pointless in the end

 

[Midnight]

For me, no. Not anymore. There used to always be hope that I'd get what I want eventually (if I worked hard enough, was patient, etc), but that hope has been buried. I guess it's really a matter of do I want to continue to put work into something that might happen someday? The answer is no. I'm too tired and as the years have gone on, it seems I've only gotten further from the things I want/dream of.

I couldn't have said it better. This is exactly my situation aswell. Also the things i wanted from life were just normal things .. a normal life. Not some unattainable 1 in a million kind of stuff. I've spent way too many years holding on while living in depression. The wait is over.

 

[nbn]

Unlike many people on Earth,i never thought of being rich. I always prayed to god to give me physical and mental health. On looks,I am considered below average person,but I never thought of thinking about that. I am only concerned about my chronic stubborn physical illness and some mental illness. There is no possibility to cure that physical illness in this lifetime or in the next few hundred years by the scientists. Why the f... doctors qnd society wont allow me to die.

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

A life without dignity is not worth living.

It's truly amazing that people honestly believe that poverty, homelessness, and destitution are moral failings, the result of some character defect, some choice that people explicitly make and the outcome is what they deserve.

That suffering in those conditions will build 'character' and 'strength'.

They can fuck off into the sun with that "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" bullshit.

Amen & a standing ovation to this! Fuck a "spiritual journey" all this to build character? GTFOH

 

[thecountdown]

You should read Recursion by Blake Crouch...you can find a .mobi file of it online if you try hard enough. Google is magic.


I honestly don't have an answer to your question. I've dealt with that for years and still kinda do but I learned how to make the best of it over time and push on anyway? It's an almost impossible pill to swallow and contributes to my alcoholism but so does everything else in the world. I just want my privacy back, honestly ...

I wish I could get into reading. I can't relate to any of the characters. One of the many joys I've lost.

 

[lydia0315]

There are things that I desperately want since a child and never got it. Things that are looked simple and just come with most people's life. It's possible that I can try again and maybe have a better life but I'm so tired and painful now that I have no energy, no hope and no motivation to do anything anymore. I have a golden retriever and he has been my ESD, and I love him so much. But it's getting harder and harder and I may CTB and let him be with a better and happier owner.

 

[andy69]

I worked and made sacrifies to get a PhD and I got entangled with a bunch of vindictive people who hated me and spread negative information about me so I couldn't get a job. I limited my career so I could be close to someone I loved. He then dumps me without so much as telling (ghosted me for weeks) after fifteen years. I am too old to find a job much less than have a career. All I left is thinking about suicide.

Then I get told people people have a career, a home, and friends that I am a horrible selfish person for wanting to commit suicide.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

I don't know. But it definitely feels like that. Maybe that's depends on the nature of the thing you want become some things are wired in our brain biologically and we can't reason ourselves that it's not important or not necessary for happiness.