I like the energy that spring and summer bring but this time of year does have its challenges for me. One being clothing choices. I have a lot of body image concerns as I'm still recovering from an eating disorder and I also have a lot of sh scarring. I've worn long sleeves around most people all year round since my late teens? Obviously this makes summer a bit of a nightmare. The only people I could have my arms out in front of were my therapists as I never felt judgement from them. I don't want to be uncomfortable in the heat anymore. So I decided to try and not cover my arms in front of 3 different people. It felt very uncomfortable as I still carry a lot of shame about the scars. But nobody said anything which made it a lot easier. There are people now that I would feel able to have my arms out around which is huge. I still feel like I have to keep them covered around family which is hard but I'm just not ready to take that step yet. Anyway a win is a win and I'm proud that I wore them out in front of friends. Hopefully this summer will be a bit easier now.
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suimaxxer
Member
- Apr 17, 2026
- 17
if i ever quit sh i hope to become comfortable wearing short sleeves, but i doubt either of those things will ever happen
HeyBoogahJr
I'm still here.
- Apr 25, 2026
- 123
Hooray! I'm glad to hear that you've been pushing yourself to not hide your sh scars. Slay, fr fr. It takes a ton of courage to take those steps.
I hope you continue journey and it gets easier for you.
)))))))
Thank you so muchHooray! I'm glad to hear that you've been pushing yourself to not hide your sh scars. Slay, fr fr. It takes a ton of courage to take those steps.
I hope you continue journey and it gets easier for you.)))))))
A Sit of Doubting
leap into faith
- Apr 3, 2026
- 23
thats beautiful. i wish you a wonderful journey from here on out. i hope youll be able to unabashedly wear short sleeves whenever you want!!! lots of love, friend
doener11
Member
- Jun 17, 2023
- 30
I'm really proud of you for wearing short sleeves in public!! :DD If this helps with the uncomfortablness, your friends genuinely don't care as much as you might think they do. Super proud!!! <33
EternalShore
Hardworking Lass who Dreams of Love~ 💕✨
- Jun 9, 2023
- 1,837
I'm glad it's going well for you~ ^_^ I understand why it can feel so uncomfy for you, and it's so neat that you're overcoming it~ >w< I hope that with continuing this, the discomfort eventually fades~ :)
violetforever
Paragon
- Dec 24, 2025
- 917
as someone who also self harms/has old scars, this is really a huge improvement and im proud of u <3Similar threads
love the pink text btw!
