I now understand why lots of people die at 27...

[Avril]

As a loner, feels like I'm at a crossroads, energy slipping away, lost while everyone else is enjoying life. I look young, but feel old.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

I wanted to join the 27 club, but when I didn't, I figured out real quick that there's no real differance between 21 and 31.

 

[badatparties]

I've felt like an old man my entire life. Worried and preoccupied with burdens before my time. I think I've already died, just haven't been buried yet. I think many souls feel this way. Maybe it's not our first rodeo. I just hope and pray we never spawn in this hellhole again.

 

[Forever Sleep]

28 definitely felt like a milestone age for me. Mainly because I'd hoped I would have my life together by then and I really hadn't. In fact at that age, I was making my mind up to do a second degree to try to get my life back on track.

I did do the degree and, it did work for a fair while. I think things are salvageable at many different ages but, we have to want it enough. Going back to uni with people 10 years my juniour was scary but then, I still wanted it enough. I think a lot of things are possible to at least attempt- if the drive is there. But, that needs to be stronger than the fear/ doubt- to my mind- for it to work.

 

[Forveleth]

Because society has decided that by 30 you should have your picture-perfect life and if you do not you are somehow broken. This could not be further from the truth. Very few people have their shit figured out by 27, 30, even 37. People see 30 approaching and think they have already "failed" somehow.

Honestly, my 30s were way better than my 20s. I figured out I was a loner but unfortunately caved to the societal pressure to get married. I regret it. I wish I had stayed single. Anyway, my two cents.

 

[TAW122]

Pretty much what others have said here, but also I will add the fact that I'm in my mid 30's and I do wish that I have checked out much sooner, and so far, just existing and waiting for the right time and opportunity before going through.

 

[JealousOfTheElderly]

Because society has decided that by 30 you should have your picture-perfect life and if you do not you are somehow broken. This could not be further from the truth. Very few people have their shit figured out by 27, 30, even 37. People see 30 approaching and think they have already "failed" somehow.

Honestly, my 30s were way better than my 20s. I figured out I was a loner but unfortunately caved to the societal pressure to get married. I regret it. I wish I had stayed single. Anyway, my two cents.

100%!!! Hey everyone on SS, listen to this advice that's bold faced. This is some wise advice and while I am older than many of you, I wish I had this advice given to me!
Stay single! Marriage is depressing.
Also, I know plenty of people pushing 50 who don't have anything figured out. I wouldn't call them failures but they certainly didn't achieve "the American dream".
Also, Don't compare yourself to others. Social media makes people think they are failures. Delete tiktok, instagram, and all that crap. Cut people out of your life who says you are a failure.
I think the key to living a happy life is to make yourself happy. Put yourself first. (therefore, don't get married or start a family.)

 

[IDCAAEBM]

Because society has decided that by 30 you should have your picture-perfect life and if you do not you are somehow broken. This could not be further from the truth. Very few people have their shit figured out by 27, 30, even 37. People see 30 approaching and think they have already "failed" somehow.

Honestly, my 30s were way better than my 20s. I figured out I was a loner but unfortunately caved to the societal pressure to get married. I regret it. I wish I had stayed single. Anyway, my two cents.

This doesn't work for people who suffer from gerascophobia. We literally don't have much time. I'm only 37 and I'm not interested in watching my body fail further than it already has.

 

[rabidbunny]

same i turn 27 next year and ready to join the club

 

[Michelstaedter]

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/living-more-than-25-years-is-foolish.206500/#post-3035795

I never understood what they meant by the "27 club", however it makes sense when you realize that you are very bad before a certain age (20 or younger) and you reach 24-25 and you are still bad... Even if you have "everything" or your life is not bad materially, if you find bitterness in existence, it definitely makes sense to want to leave this world.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/living-more-than-25-years-is-foolish.206500/#post-3035795

I never understood what they meant by the "27 club", however it makes sense when you realize that you are very bad before a certain age (20 or younger) and you reach 24-25 and you are still bad... Even if you have "everything" or your life is not bad materially, if you find bitterness in existence, it definitely makes sense to want to leave this world.

27 Club - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Sprite_Geist]

When I turned 27 years old there were some strong changes in the way I viewed my own life and mortality. I felt young enough to do whatever I wanted, but still felt old and worthless in the eyes of society. The negatives have only gotten worse now that I have turned 30. I am very envious of anybody who went through with "it" before reaching the age of 29.

 

[cowboypants]

Starting from scratch at this age feels rather intimidating. If you have been suffering from mh issues without much progress I think by this time your hope gets dwindled. From my early 20s it got progressively worse and kinda stabilised, just now i know to manage somewhat

 

[Michelstaedter]

27 Club - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Yes, I already knew them. What I meant was that before I had any idea of the meaning of them wanting to die at that age, I thought something had to happen to get to that extreme, although being famous, with money, and doing what they love, when I was a teenager I didn't understand. However, when I came across that writing that mentions "living more than 25 years is foolish," I discovered that fame and money don't matter, but existential anguish.

 

[divinemistress87]

Because society has decided that by 30 you should have your picture-perfect life and if you do not you are somehow broken. This could not be further from the truth. Very few people have their shit figured out by 27, 30, even 37. People see 30 approaching and think they have already "failed" somehow.

Honestly, my 30s were way better than my 20s. I figured out I was a loner but unfortunately caved to the societal pressure to get married. I regret it. I wish I had stayed single. Anyway, my two cents.

This is so true I see so many young people on here think they need to have everything by 30 and life just doesnt work that way. There are people starting life over in their 40s and older

 

[NaturalBornNEET]

My mum died when she was that age now that I think about it

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

Yes, I already knew them. What I meant was that before I had any idea of the meaning of them wanting to die at that age, I thought something had to happen to get to that extreme, although being famous, with money, and doing what they love, when I was a teenager I didn't understand. However, when I came across that writing that mentions "living more than 25 years is foolish," I discovered that fame and money don't matter, but existential anguish.

For the original members, it was mere coincidence, but those who look up to them do so in even the most macabre sense. When you look into each of the circumstances, some were a long time coming, while some were gone before their time. Still, people see a famous club of dead youths, and try to form a connection with them, even if that means dying to join the club.

I agree with the existential anguish though, I wanted to join the club because of it. I didn't really have any extreme circumstances pushing me over the edge.

 

[Jisatsu]

One more year , one more year

 

[Feldsparc]

100%!!! Hey everyone on SS, listen to this advice that's bold faced. This is some wise advice and while I am older than many of you, I wish I had this advice given to me!
Stay single! Marriage is depressing.
Also, I know plenty of people pushing 50 who don't have anything figured out. I wouldn't call them failures but they certainly didn't achieve "the American dream".
Also, Don't compare yourself to others. Social media makes people think they are failures. Delete tiktok, instagram, and all that crap. Cut people out of your life who says you are a failure.
I think the key to living a happy life is to make yourself happy. Put yourself first. (therefore, don't get married or start a family.)

I was married and I was really happy with my husband and son. I made mistakes that ruined our family, but I would still say that marriage and having a kid was the happiest I've been in my life

 

[jurassicpark7452]

the best part of getting older has been the nights, sleeping and especially good sleep feels like an energy reset or vacation, I can go away to an happy land where life isn't so dictated on a set of contrived forceful universal rules, but instead by the beauty of my imagination