Help I feel like i can't trust cisgender people

[sleeplessboyinbed]

Am i the only one whos like that? How do i stop feeling scared? I don't want to loose my mind worrying but im just afraid. I constantly feel unsafe... And it's not like its only online, now that every other cis person knows what trans means they show their true face. I don't know how to cope. How do you deal with it?

 

[nitritegirl]

it all depends on where you are, who you are dealing with. there are multiple cis people that are understanding of trans people. my cis cousin is extremely supportive of me. she is lgbtq herself, so that also helps. i have participated in many communities where cis people respect trans people. unfortunately yes there is a crescent amount of transphobia in the world propagated by far-right conservatives, but not everyone is like that.

 

[sleeplessboyinbed]

it all depends on where you are, who you are dealing with. there are multiple cis people that are understanding of trans people. my cis cousin is extremely supportive of me. she is lgbtq herself, so that also helps. i have participated in many communities where cis people respect trans people. unfortunately yes there is a crescent amount of transphobia in the world propagated by far-right conservatives, but not everyone is like that.

My country is not really LGBTQ+ friendly so i never met people who are fine with it. It's cool that your cousin is supportive

 

[morina]

Depends on the location really. In my experience, people in university cities are usually way more accepting (Though some of them talk about trans people behind their backs, most don't.). Worst place to be is probably somewhere rural. And of course country is a very relevant factor, too. Maybe to build some trust and feeling of safety around cis people, you could try looking for lgbt communities, if there are any in your area (or even online) and "start from" there? I joined one at my uni and that's at least what helped me feel a little confident that not everyone is just "playing along" to be policitally correct or something and some cis people actually think of trans women as women and trans men as men.

 

[Kanau_Nano]

The only thing that helps me is hiding I'm transgender. I don't tell anyone unless I'm really comfortable with someone. Even then I've had random people ask me if I'm transgender. Some were trying to be nice, and some were getting info to insult me. I don't answer honestly anymore.

Wish I knew a way to help you cope. Sorry you feel this way