Venting i don’t get why i can’t get N as an ugly, mentally ill woman

[ladyofsorrows]

Do you look anything like your avatar picture? That would be far from ugly, speaking as a man.

no, sadly :/

 

[Oreki]

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[DeathWish3301]

I'm sorry for the pain you're in. People do judge based on appearance. Physical attraction is relevant. It's superficial, but that's the way we're wired as humans.

That being said, @Roseate questioned how you know you're "ugly"? This is something to think about. If you have low self esteem or any issues relating to body dysmorphia, this could impact how you see yourself. Something to consider.

Just as an example, I've known many women who were absolutely stunning but they were bigger, objectively. They had low self esteem as a result. But there are so many dudes into women on the bigger side. Weight is simply preference, I've always preferred curvy women.

If it bothers you as much as it does, you could always post on "looks maxing" forums for suggestions on how to improve your appearance. The same looks and style work great for some, and not for others. This is true for both genders. Constructive criticism and feedback could be helpful.

 

[ladyofsorrows]

I'm sorry for the pain you're in. People do judge based on appearance. Physical attraction is relevant. It's superficial, but that's the way we're wired as humans.

That being said, @Roseate questioned how you know you're "ugly"? This is something to think about. If you have low self esteem or any issues relating to body dysmorphia, this could impact how you see yourself. Something to consider.

Just as an example, I've known many women who were absolutely stunning but they were bigger, objectively. They had low self esteem as a result. But there are so many dudes into women on the bigger side. Weight is simply preference, I've always preferred curvy women.

If it bothers you as much as it does, you could always post on "looks maxing" forums for suggestions on how to improve your appearance. The same looks and style work great for some, and not for others. This is true for both genders. Constructive criticism and feedback could be helpful.

i'm skinny so weight is not an issue. i already listed how i know i'm ugly. i've already tried looksmaxxing but it's pointless when you're genuinely, irreparably ugly. surgery can't save my face. i could get to like mid at best maybe. not to mention, i don't have the money for surgery anyway. and i have certain features that can't be fixed through surgery.

i even edited a photo of myself to see how i'd look if i got certain procedures done and the result was…underwhelming, to say the least. i was still ugly.

 

[DeathWish3301]

i'm skinny so weight is not an issue. i already listed how i know i'm ugly. i've already tried looksmaxxing but it's pointless when you're genuinely, irreparably ugly. surgery can't save my face. i could get to like mid at best maybe.

Sorry, I was trying to be helpful. I didn't want to blantly lie for the sake of comfort.

The majority of people of both genders are 'mid', that's what average is.

Surgeries are always an option, it is something. Apologies that I couldn't be of more assistance.

 

[DeathWish3301]

if you have money, yes. i don't.

Ok

 

[ladyofsorrows]

Ok

sorry if i came off rude, am just sleep deprived

 

[DeathWish3301]

sorry if i came off rude, am just sleep deprived

I appreciate the apology. Thank you.

 

[violetforever]

Do you look anything like your avatar picture? That would be far from ugly, speaking as a man.

thats lana del rey

 

[L'appel Du Vide]

The harsh simple answer is that it's not common enough for poor appearance and bullying to cause debilitating mental illness. And the way society plays out is through generalities or averages, not case by case basis where we are all treated individually. Average ugly folk are able to cope well enough to not seek death over it. The ones who also have more extreme problems are probably going to be sympathetic to the suffering but not understanding of your extent. The ones who don't struggle with it aren't going to get it often enough to form consensus that it is a terminal condition on a broader society-wide scale. That is what it usually takes for policies and social norms to support or accept the right to die. Folks tend to want it to either be something that was already going to kill you or totally unmanageable extreme suffering. I'm sympathetic and pro-choice but even I don't fully understand this viewpoint or conclusion. I would be so grateful if these were the only (or just the most pressing) reasons for me to want to end life.

 

[makebelieve]

So real.. i feel like any sort of self improvement doesn't matter since i'm still stuck in my ugly body and face..

 

[ladyofsorrows]

I would be so grateful if these were the only (or just the most pressing) reasons for me to want to end life.

oh i have other wonderful reasons lol. a bunch of amazing mental illnesses that make my life a living hell. one of them i even mentioned in this post; social anxiety so debilitating i can't even work. i can't even leave the house on my own.

ugliness is just the icing on the shit cake that is my life. it's the straw that broke the camel's back, basically.