How much is everything predetermined?

[X-sanguinate86]

I feel like most things that happen in my life are predetermined due to genes and environment but also possibly some other factor that we don't understand. I always noticed how certain people more often than not had things go well for them and others always had things go badly.

With the ones who have things go well they usually have greater physical and mental health which adds to their success but even that could just be because they are always lucky and the universe is always aligned with positive outcomes for them.

I remember when I was young and still went out and did things among the humans, how there were people who always looked better and lived better. They are in their own bubble of fun adventurous successes, peppered with some intellectualism and self-reflection to enhance their relationships. They have no idea how horrible life is for those outside of the bubble let alone those in a bubble of cursed inferiority and failure. They almost go through life unconsciously. They have the illusion of being conscious but are they really? Or are they just enjoying a story that is predetermined of which the feeling of making conscious decisions that matter is part of the enjoyment?

Anyway. It's obvious some people's lives just go better. Most people would agree that ethical behaviour is irrelevant but how many would agree that even effort is irrelevant? Some people put in an effort but we don't know what their experience of "trying" even is. We just know they always have positive outcomes while others who claim to be trying usually don't.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I definitely think that genes, upbringing, environment, opportunities, lived and learned experience all play a part in the decisions we make. I suppose I still think we get the ultimate power to choose, although- we likely have the strong probability to make one choice over another- according to all of the above.

As for a supernatural slant- I'm not so sure. I've tended to use that viewpoint to try to reassure myself. That maybe all those things needed to go wrong in my life to ultimately reveal a better path- or whatever. Some hope that fate was still looking after me.

I've known people feel persecuted by bad luck but then- I suppose I sometimes found their reasoning kind of extreme. Like- they saw it as bad luck they got caught in the rain without their umbrella. It's not like the rain clouds purposely conspired to attack them! And- they were the ones careless enough to leave their umbrella behind when rain was forecast.

I've also been envious of successful people but on closer examination- I had to admit- they put far more effort in trying to achieve what they wanted. It wasn't necessarily that they didn't also encounter hardships and even failure on occassions but- that they kept going besides those things. So- I think there has to be an honesty/ transparency to it. Have they really achieved more through sheer luck or, did they push themselves through more crap to get where they are?

Of course- within that, there will be some who are gifted with enormous advantages and some held back by huge deficits. I don't know how much of that is down to cosmic forces though. Again, it seems more likely there are practical differences. One person having more talent, more confidence, a family with wealth and better connections etc.

Right time and right place can play a part I suppose but then- the person bothered to get themselves in the right time and right place to begin with.

But no- I'm not convinced about predestiny or even that those born into favourable conditions will definitely do well while others won't. Life has millions of paths we can take. Even day to day- there are good, not so good and unhelpful choices we can make. Right from the get go. When we decide to get up. Whether we wash. What we eat, whether we exercise. Whether we work or look for work or, bed rot. Whether we challenge ourselves socially or not. Every single decision helps us to grow or shrink- presumably. Of course, we each have our own stats to contend with. For example, some of us will be crushed by a bad social interaction while others will brush it off. But- we do still have millions of opportunities to push our lives one way or another.

In truth- I think it can be somewhat lazy to blame all our misfortune on being handicapped in some way or, destined to fail. And- I'm saying that from a personal perspective too. I would admit that- while plenty of things 'naturally' held me back in life- I let them- because it was easier, not because it was fated.