How many of you are living with your parents?

[whatmattersmost]

Not wanting to disrespect, but it seems like you are judging others without knowing their circumstances at all.

Nope,
I'm Not judging anyone.
Asked "what's the problem?"
So maybe I could understand better because I wouldn't mind living back with my parents,Yes it can be frustrating.

 

[Tiburcio]

Nope,
I'm Not judging anyone.
Asked "what's the problem?"
So maybe I could understand better because I wouldn't mind living back with my parents,Yes it can be frustrating.

Then I have to say sorry. I misinterpreted your words.

 

[Maravillosa]

Does your brother have Mental Health issues also?

He has never been diagnosed with any mental illness, as far as I know.

 

[whatmattersmost]

Maybe both of you could get an apartment together?
Or do you plan on taking over your Mum's place?

 

[agreement]

I'm living alone.
I've lived with my parents until I was 30.
I'm really close and co-dependent by them still.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I am 52 and live with my mother and 43-year-old brother. (I share a bedroom with my mother.) The only times that I lived on my own were when I went away to college (I became suicidal at the start of my sophomore year, was hospitalized: my parents obliged me to leave college and return home -- I thought it would be temporary, but my parents did not want me to return to that college) and when I was in grad school (again, I became suicidal, could not concentrate on my studies and was kicked out: had to return home to Mom). I am on SSI and on several waiting lists for Section 8 housing -- I hope I can get an apartment before Mom passes away. I would like to be able to successfully live on my own before I ctb.

You've made good progress. I hope you have an opportunity to live on your own. Although it didn't help me personally, you never know what a change in scenery can do for others. I wish you the best no matter what happens.

 

[Maravillosa]

Maybe both of you could get an apartment together?
Or do you plan on taking over your Mum's place?

I don't think that my brother wants to live with me -- we have so little in common (for example, I am a practicing Catholic who strives to take my faith seriously, while my brother does not believe in God). We are fond of each other, but when we are together, we get on each other's nerves. I think that the house we live in will be sold after Mom dies -- I suspect that my brother and I will probably get separate apartments or condos, not too far from each other.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I don't think that my brother wants to live with me -- we have so little in common (for example, I am a practicing Catholic who strives to take my faith seriously, while my brother does not believe in God). We are fond of each other, but when we are together, we get on each other's nerves. I think that the house we live in will be sold after Mom dies -- I suspect that my brother and I will probably get separate apartments or condos, not too far from each other.

That sounds workable for the both of you. You're fortunate to have a relationship, despite your differences. I am alienated/estranged from all five of my siblings.

 

[Wantingpeace]

I liked living alone throughout my 20's (or sharing apartments) or staying in spiritual communities and then until 32 when something happened to my brain and I begged and begged to stay back with parents but they having none of it. I have really lovely apartment nice neighbours lovely countryside and cant appreciate any of it.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I liked living alone throughout my 20's (or sharing apartments) or staying in spiritual communities and then until 32 when something happened to my brain and I begged and begged to stay back with parents but they having none of it. I have really lovely apartment nice neighbours lovely countryside and cant appreciate any of it.

I'm sorry you're unable to experience the enjoyment you should be able to have in this life. What were your experiences with spiritual communities? I like the idea of them, but at the same time am concerned about cults and my inability to fit in most places.

 

[Wantingpeace]

I'm sorry you're unable to experience the enjoyment you should be able to have in this life. What were your experiences with spiritual communities? I like the idea of them, but at the same time am concerned about cults and my inability to fit in most places.

Thank you am just so uncomfortable in body and brain most time. This particular spiritual community I felt like home in. I do not feel as strong now since brain thing. I kind of lived there on /off and just clicked with so many people. It was really a feeling thing, as soon as I walked in I felt different so I wasn't too bothered about whether it was intellectually "right".

 

[DeletedUser4739]

Thank you am just so uncomfortable in body and brain most time. This particular spiritual community I felt like home in. I do not feel as strong now since brain thing. I kind of lived there on /off and just clicked with so many people. It was really a feeling thing, as soon as I walked in I felt different so I wasn't too bothered about whether it was intellectually "right".

I can relate to the discomfort all too well. That community sounded like a good fit for you. May I ask why you didn't continue to live there?

 

[whatmattersmost]

I liked living alone throughout my 20's (or sharing apartments) or staying in spiritual communities and then until 32 when something happened to my brain and I begged and begged to stay back with parents but they having none of it. I have really lovely apartment nice neighbours lovely countryside and cant appreciate any of it.

What is a Spiritual community?

 

[Wantingpeace]

I can relate to the discomfort all too well. That community sounded like a good fit for you. May I ask why you didn't continue to live there?

Because of the brain issues..life is just hell even there now..a bit less hell but hell still and I wouldnt be able to work and contribute. I was all set to save up money leave and live there permanently until something happened to brain

 

[Wantingpeace]

What is a Spiritual community?

Live and work together with a common goal and faith

 

[Maravillosa]

Live and work together with a common goal and faith

Were you ever in a Bruderhof community?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruderhof_Communities

 

[Wantingpeace]

Were you ever in a Bruderhof community?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruderhof_Communities

No i wasn't. It was more new age community.

 

[Wantingpeace]

I'm sorry you're unable to experience the enjoyment you should be able to have in this life. What were your experiences with spiritual communities? I like the idea of them, but at the same time am concerned about cults and my inability to fit in most places.

Also some time at a community supporting people with developmental disabilities. https://www.camphillscotland.org.uk/the-camphill-movement/

 

[DeletedUser4739]

Because of the brain issues..life is just hell even there now..a bit less hell but hell still and I wouldnt be able to work and contribute. I was all set to save up money leave and live there permanently until something happened to brain

That's awful. Seems like so much of life can be like that. Getting close, but not enough to experience a decent life with others. I'm sad to hear this, as it sounds like you were really on to something. My heart goes out to you.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

What is a Spiritual community?

I found more information on these types of communities both in the US and abroad here: https://www.ic.org/directory/

 

[Wantingpeace]

That's awful. Seems like so much of life can be like that. Getting close, but not enough to experience a decent life with others. I'm sad to hear this, as it sounds like you were really on to something. My heart goes out to you.

Thank you x

 

[Shoya]

I also live with my parents.I ctb two times but failed.now it's impossible for me to ctb.Especially my mom always stay with me.But i really want to die.Everyday is like a nightmare to me.

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

Im extremely poor so i dont have a chooise
i have to live with them

 

[loopdaloop]

Yes, it's either that or homelessness. Probably gonna ctb at home.