How Many of Us on Here feel we’re a Burden to our Family’s? Interested to know as that’s partly the reason why I Don’t want to be here anymore….

[JJMaynard97]

Just feel I tried to seek help from my love ones and my Former Girlfriend & friends. But feel I can't burden them anymore. Just wanna know if theres anyone on here who's tried to reach out to people they love,know or care about And have ended up feeling the same way?

 

[Hollowman]

I don't feel like a burden I am a burden.

 

[LiminalFantasies]

Recently. I keep hearing my mom tell me that I need to drive (I still don't drive in my near mid-20s now at this point), need to cook certain stuff like meats (only know how to do some), need to get a job (because my mom dosen't work because needs to take care of a 24 year old person like me who still doesn't drive), among other reasons... I have done a bit of progress previously, but still have a long way to go to be truely independent (and might commit to reach those goals). Dosen't help that she told me that I was an accident, and was one of her reasons she quitted her job back in 1998...

On top, she's already burdened with my 2 brothers and her mom (my grandma) who dosen't love her and always talks shit to her 24/7, an unsupporting husband who still live with us and refuses to cooperate with the home responsibilities, and still can't manage too move out because she's still caring me! And for more, we are in a tight economic situation with the inflation that we are going through in these moments and have to only rely on food stamps to feed me and my brothers each month...

I can sometimes wonder why she been suffering so much, and yet still didn't fall into something like depression... a very resilient woman for sure...

I tell her to go seek help since she has so much burden, but keeps commited to taking care of me, and thay she will not get a job until I learn all of the independent life skills.

Even if I can understand some parts of her reasons, that is actually making me think that I'm a huge burden to her. If I was gone, she would have less burden off her shoulders but will have to eternally bear the trauma if I was actually gone.

 

[LookAway]

The more the time passes and I sit and waste away the more that I feel like a burden. I'm sorry you feel that way and I hope you feel better.

 

[catastrophix]

Absolutely. Because of my mental health, I have no social life whatsoever, I can't work or even drive my car without panicking, and I'm completely reliant on the people I live with for… basically everything. My medications, meals, transportation to appointments, education, shelter, etc. I am a human leech. I know I'm only making their lives worse. It's a horrible feeling, and I hope you can find some sort of relief from the guilt.

 

[JJMaynard97]

Recently. I keep hearing my mom tell me that I need to drive (I still don't drive in my near mid-20s now at this point), need to cook certain stuff like meats (only know how to do some), need to get a job (because my mom dosen't work because needs to take care of a 24 year old person like me who still doesn't drive), among other reasons... I have done a bit of progress previously, but still have a long way to go to be truely independent (and might commit to reach those goals). Dosen't help that she told me that I was an accident, and was one of her reasons she quitted her job back in 1998...

On top, she's already burdened with my 2 brothers and her mom (my grandma) who dosen't love her and always talks shit to her 24/7, an unsupporting husband who still live with us and refuses to cooperate with the home responsibilities, and still can't manage too move out because she's still caring me! And for more, we are in a tight economic situation with the inflation that we are going through in these moments and have to only rely on food stamps to feed me and my brothers each month...

I can sometimes wonder why she been suffering so much, and yet still didn't fall into something like depression... a very resilient woman for sure...

I tell her to go seek help since she has so much burden, but keeps commited to taking care of me, and thay she will not get a job until I learn all of the independent life skills.

Even if I can understand some parts of her reasons, that is actually making me think that I'm a huge burden to her. If I was gone, she would have less burden off her shoulders but will have to eternally bear the trauma if I was actually gone.

I'm 25 and I don't drive either, that's all people say to me is you need to drive, it fucks me off. I feel like saying the way I'm gonna going. Driving is last thing I'll be worrying about. The more people point out that to be, the more it grinds me down to feeling even more like shit.

I don't feel like a burden I am a burden.

Me too Bud, me too

The more the time passes and I sit and waste away the more that I feel like a burden. I'm sorry you feel that way and I hope you feel better.

Thankyou, the same to you too, wish you all the best.

Absolutely. Because of my mental health, I have no social life whatsoever, I can't work or even drive my car without panicking, and I'm completely reliant on the people I live with for… basically everything. My medications, meals, transportation to appointments, education, shelter, etc. I am a human leech. I know I'm only making their lives worse. It's a horrible feeling, and I hope you can find some sort of relief from the guilt.

Ahhh I sotry to hear that. It's awful isn't it feeling like this. But you're not alone. I always happy to listen. Thank you for sharing your life and experiences. I was a shy Kid, and throughout School I had lack of confidence. about a year and a half ago I met this lovely Girl, she asked me out and we were together for about A year and 4 months. Loved her so much, still do. She dumped me about a month ago. So the social skills I gained through her. I've lost and become a loner. Don't have a no social life either. Sucks to shit. Again I hope you find some sort of healing. All of us on her are similar and we can support each other. Thank you for your Post

I don't feel like a burden I am a burden.

So sorry to hear, my respects to you and hope things work out for you & you find some sort of healing.

 

[mierepeashi]

I feel like a burden because I'm so stupid and can't even take proper care of myself yet... it's so embarrassing. My family takes care of me and provides me with everything I need yet I still am not thankful and I am not "performing" as I should. My mother also needs to take care of me and the house and she can't take a job so she is like stuck with me at home. She will probably not get a proper pension because of this.