How Good Were Your Parents?

[vanillamilkshakes]

Interesting video.

 

[enough of this]

My parents were good people - intelligent, talented, and had no earthly idea how to raise kids. They were nothing but wounded children, themselves and did a lot of damage. They had 4 kids, and left an awful lot of unscrambling to be done.

 

[vanillamilkshakes]

My parents were good people - intelligent, talented, and had no earthly idea how to raise kids. They were nothing but wounded children, themselves and did a lot of damage. They had 4 kids, and left an awful lot of unscrambling to be done.

My situation is similar to yours; both my parents are decent people, educated, etc. But they shouldn't have had me. They didn't discuss how to raise me beforehand, which led to a lot of conflict and often left me stuck between both of them. My dad began to resent me. I think he saw my mother in me.

 

[Dark Moon]

They didn't abuse me which is a good thing but I think they failed me, they even said that.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

My mom tried her best. She never wanted to be a parent, and I forgive her for that. My dad on the other hand...

 

[Irisse]

They were fine. Not without their flaws but they tried their best and actually had the resources needed to raise a child. They are just too trusting and naive so they didn't believe me when I told them about the abuse I went through at the hands of my classmates. Tbh I forgive them.

 

[gunmetalblue11]

My response is kind of a downer, they never should have had a kid. Not that I was planned or conceived during a consensual act. My mother in her heart is a good person, sweet, kind, but she had a had life were manipulation was necessary to survive. I'm not going to get into my father, I'll only say he was a soldier, is and had only known violence. A disaster truly. They are soulmates for the worst of ways.

 

[sadman1897]

Best I could have asked for , I'm very lucky. I feel horrible for failing them

 

[snow_in_summer]

My dad kinda just trained me to be ashamed of myself or what I was interested in as a kid so yeah, that took a long time to get over

 

[ABadPerson]

Neither wanted a child, so I was a mistake.
I don't remember my father but he was a doctor that was extremely abusive/hateful to me and my mother apparently, but after his arrest my mother just turned all of her hatred onto me as we ended up homeless (she never worked in her life and relies on benefits/council housing after he left) and forced to stay in that relationship because of my existence; so she just turned out just as abusive emotionally and physically, and considered me as a devil's spawn as a devout Christian.

She's better now, I guess she thinks I have a 'future' so I am worth investing in recent years but I don't have any opinions on her.
I'm gonna quit talking now as this is offtopic, but yeah not so great

 

[TwistedNightmares]

My parents were awful. One was completely absent and just didn't care about me, and the other was both emotionally and physically abusive. Even now I still am getting emotionally abused almost daily by the same parent.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

I rarely see this form of parenting being covered, so I'd figure it would be helpful to add it. My parents were fear mongers. They would watch the news and believe that was reality, or they'd take their reality and think of it as a current reality, even when it's not. My life's purpose is just to avoid the things they taught me to be scared of.

 

[Lest3]

Good enough for it to be not their fault

 

[Spite]

I think my mother tried her best and she is a good parent. She tried to help me get through school knowing I had a very hard time there. She sought out support groups and resources to help manage my autism diagnosis in childhood. She gifted me with things that made me happy. I do love my mother. If she was abusive to me in the same way my father was, I imagine I would have already ended my life a long time ago.

My father, on the other hand, is probably genuinely one of the worst human beings to inhabit the country I live in. Millions of citizens here and my father easily qualifies for the bottom 0.01% percentile if we were to try to quantify everyone based on how "good" or "bad" they are (I know that's impossible to do, I'm just trying to get a point across that my father is a horrific, vile, treacherous human being). I sometimes feel disgusted and utterly repulsed at the thought that I am his spawn - that he allowed me to exist. Such a horrible man created me, and that scares me a lot.