Discussion how do you all cope with having little to no close friends with alike interests?

[alwayspissedoff]

I'm just pretty tired at this point of not having anyone to yap with about my special interests. I just have a lot of things that either happen to me or that I do about certain topics that I wanna talk about to someone who will actually care because they're into the same niche.
I do have a friend group irl, but they're not into most of the things that I'm into, or at least not the ones I'd want to. it all ends up feeling just superficial, and I hate it. I want a deep connection.
I feel pretty lonely ngl, even though I'm not completely alone per se.

how do you cope?

 

[sanctionedusage]

i have a cringe older sister to yap to but mostly, i just consume a ton of fan content. immerse yourself in the community (even as a lurker) and its almost just as gratifying

edit: and if your interests are too niche for even that and you're into it enough, make your own content :) takes so much time and effort, i promise you wont get bored

 

[Chocomel]

I just learn to bottle it all up myself. Everytime I try to talk to my friends about it, they just don't interested at all and I feel like I'm bothering them. But sometimes its just kinda sad that nobody can really match up with my interest. I love anime, but not the popular one, only Slice of Life and what most people would call boring.

There is one time when I invite my friends to watch movie with me. Nobody come so I just watch alone. But when its other people inviting them, they all join, and of course I join too with the hope that when I invite them next they would come too. So after that I invite them again, but nobody come so I just watch alone again. From that point onward I just never bother to invite anyone and learn to be content with myself alone.

 

[Forveleth]

I grew up alone and a social outcast so I am pretty used to having no one with whom to share my interests. I am quite content to enjoy things by myself.

 

[cme-dme]

Finding people online who share my interests is pretty much my only refuge. I don't know how I manage to always have things to talk about with my closest friends because we have so little in common. That doesn't have to be a negative thing though.

I just learn to bottle it all up myself. Everytime I try to talk to my friends about it, they just don't interested at all and I feel like I'm bothering them. But sometimes its just kinda sad that nobody can really match up with my interest. I love anime, but not the popular one, only Slice of Life and what most people would call boring.

There is one time when I invite my friends to watch movie with me. Nobody come so I just watch alone. But when its other people inviting them, they all join, and of course I join too with the hope that when I invite them next they would come too. So after that I invite them again, but nobody come so I just watch alone again. From that point onward I just never bother to invite anyone and learn to be content with myself alone.

I like slice of life but I really don't like watching it alone :/ And yeah I have a Discord server I'm on where I always feel left out. There's this one person who will ping almost every active member besides me to join voice chats. I've opted to just stop talking there for the most part.

 

[orvreader]

There is one time when I invite my friends to watch movie with me. Nobody come so I just watch alone. But when its other people inviting them, they all join, and of course I join too with the hope that when I invite them next they would come too. So after that I invite them again, but nobody come so I just watch alone again. From that point onward I just never bother to invite anyone and learn to be content with myself alone.

This reminds me of that time I individually invited 3 of my then-friends to try and summon a demon lololol. They all seemingly agreed, so I bought materials and read books about the methodology, but on D-Day they all make up excuses lol so I had no choice but to lie to each of them that the others still came so they don't feel bad about it haha. Since then, I don't really mind being alone with my interests, it's better than surrounding myself with faux politeness.

 

[alwayspissedoff]

I just learn to bottle it all up myself. Everytime I try to talk to my friends about it, they just don't interested at all and I feel like I'm bothering them. But sometimes its just kinda sad that nobody can really match up with my interest. I love anime, but not the popular one, only Slice of Life and what most people would call boring.

There is one time when I invite my friends to watch movie with me. Nobody come so I just watch alone. But when its other people inviting them, they all join, and of course I join too with the hope that when I invite them next they would come too. So after that I invite them again, but nobody come so I just watch alone again. From that point onward I just never bother to invite anyone and learn to be content with myself alone.

I feel you, since pretty much the same happens to me lol. I feel kind of like a ghost in my friend group because sometimes no one will care about me.
sad how we have to cope by just learning to do and enjoy our things alone, which is not a solution, it is a cope after all. I still wanna yap about what I love with someone as passionate as me.
I mean I like being alone with what I like, but not all the time of course.
I don't really like anime, but I hope you find people who also like what you like.

Finding people online who share my interests is pretty much my only refuge. I don't know how I manage to always have things to talk about with my closest friends because we have so little in common. That doesn't have to be a negative thing though.

it bothers me that I used to be so good at making friends and having friend groups on Discord years ago. like I didn't even try, and frankly I didn't have the best personality, but still managed to make genuine connections.
fast forward a couple years ago and I find it really hard or just plain impossible to make connections online. I always feel left out. lol.

 

[cme-dme]

it bothers me that I used to be so good at making friends and having friend groups on Discord years ago. like I didn't even try, and frankly I didn't have the best personality, but still managed to make genuine connections.
fast forward a couple years ago and I find it really hard or just plain impossible to make connections online. I always feel left out. lol.

My closest friends are the ones I made 5+ years ago. Most attempts at making friends now just end in disaster so I don't know what I was doing right back then lol

 

[Forever Sleep]

I remember how painful it was to lose them. (Nothing dramatic- just lives moving in different directions.)

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I used to care and it used to hurt. I gradually realized this is how it is, accepted it, and am ok with it now.