Help I guess

[cutelamb22]

I've really messed up in life lately so much and I'm just scared. I can't do anything right and I'm useless. I have adhd and it's making university so hard for me I just want to give up. I can't quit or anything I couldn't do that to my family. I want to leave the world and not deal with it but I don't know how to correctly. I don't know how to get over the fear of leaving people I love behind or the fear of missing out on stuff I like doing. How do I get rid of those? Because if I can't even get myself to fix my problems or get back on track there's no point in me living

 

[troubled_puppet]

hi there. im sorry nobody responded to your post.

i cant in good faith tell you what you should or shouldn't do when it comes to your fears of leaving people behind. but i relate to you deeply about that and i share the same feelings.

i dont know safe methods so im avoiding it. life is hard for me too because of adhd. doctors won't give me meds. im still here because i can't leave my parents behind, they still need me.

i admire you for being in university, it sounds very tough but you inspire me. im late to the party, im part way through getting my GED. (high school diploma equivalent.)

right now im just living life day by day. and it's hard. sometimes i never know if i'll make it to the weekend, and suddenly the week is over. sometimes i cant imagine surviving another month, but then the year is half over. do you relate, or not really?

 

[cutelamb22]

hi there. im sorry nobody responded to your post.

i cant in good faith tell you what you should or shouldn't do when it comes to your fears of leaving people behind. but i relate to you deeply about that and i share the same feelings.

i dont know safe methods so im avoiding it. life is hard for me too because of adhd. doctors won't give me meds. im still here because i can't leave my parents behind, they still need me.

i admire you for being in university, it sounds very tough but you inspire me. im late to the party, im part way through getting my GED. (high school diploma equivalent.)

right now im just living life day by day. and it's hard. sometimes i never know if i'll make it to the weekend, and suddenly the week is over. sometimes i cant imagine surviving another month, but then the year is half over. do you relate, or not really?

thanks so much for your reply. i really cant tell you how much it means to me but you probably made my whole week. i really relate to you, it actually sounds like we are quite similar and i feel the same way as you. id love to talk

 

[Garganacl]

Im looking at mirror rn and its wiiiild. I attempted shortly after admitting how i was feeling, it was the exact same. ADHD is such a beast in its own right. Invisible in so many ways, and even worse when we dont realize the damage until after its done. I could ramble about how tough it is, we both know. Im not gonna tell you what to do, but i sincerely wish I took just a semester off at the very least when i was in this spot. I would've been able to find the path I truly loved earlier, and not 5 years after graduating.

So, if your family is supportive enough, I heavily recommend talking with them and finding a plan that works for you. You are an adult now and have that power. I would also recommend talking to a doctor about your adhd symptoms, i am on qelbree and its changed my life. This is what i would do. Just wanted to share my perspective as I feel personally connected to this, and if i had someone screaming at me when i was 18 TO JUST TAKE THE FUCKING BREAK, I think id be in a better spot. Not to say im in a bad spot, just feel behind, even though I graduated early.

Anywho this isnt about me. I just want you to know that exhaustion is real. Its really difficult for a rampant mind to find moments of peace. So please, at the very least, take a break when you can

 

[cutelamb22]

Im looking at mirror rn and its wiiiild. I attempted shortly after admitting how i was feeling, it was the exact same. ADHD is such a beast in its own right. Invisible in so many ways, and even worse when we dont realize the damage until after its done. I could ramble about how tough it is, we both know. Im not gonna tell you what to do, but i sincerely wish I took just a semester off at the very least when i was in this spot. I would've been able to find the path I truly loved earlier, and not 5 years after graduating.

So, if your family is supportive enough, I heavily recommend talking with them and finding a plan that works for you. You are an adult now and have that power. I would also recommend talking to a doctor about your adhd symptoms, i am on qelbree and its changed my life. This is what i would do. Just wanted to share my perspective as I feel personally connected to this, and if i had someone screaming at me when i was 18 TO JUST TAKE THE FUCKING BREAK, I think id be in a better spot. Not to say im in a bad spot, just feel behind, even though I graduated early.

Anywho this isnt about me. I just want you to know that exhaustion is real. Its really difficult for a rampant mind to find moments of peace. So please, at the very least, take a break when you can

thanks so much for the advice and your reply. i really felt so alone and different, not that im glad (because it sucks) but its comforting to know im not alone and other people have felt this way. it actually gives me hope and inspiration to read ur post, really, thank you. i feel lucky to have gotten your response as lots of people in my life dont seem to understand, they think im lazy or apathetic but i really do want to succeed its just so hard and feels impossible. i appreciate this more than you know thank you again

 

[mutsu]

hai!! i really feel you, I have adhd and i'm in uni as well and it really sucks. it feels like if you do okay enough in the early parts of school then no one notices or diagnoses you with ADHD so you just become an adult and eventually crash and burn,,,

i was doing just about okay in uni before recently i just broke under everything. it feels so difficult to get myself to do anything and people really dont want to deal with me if i cant be functioning

i wish i could drop out but theres too much that scares me, but I feel like i'm just drifting through right now, like broken goods.

you seem like a very sweet person~!! i'd love to talk

 

[iwkmsssb]

i'm very sorry to hear you're going through all this. i'm also in a similar situation but i'm struggling with my depression and even staying on track with university assignments and keeping a social life is difficult for me.

you are not alone. for me, what helped slightly was being honest. with my lecturers and the people i care about and telling them what's been going on. a lot of universities provide free counseling for enrolled students so that's what's been getting me through the weeks, do you think you could take a look at your universities resources to see if they have something similar? the counselors have also helped me explain to my teachers and they have given me leniency in work as per their recommendation. taking a break does help. and you are very strong for getting this far, very kind for thinking about other people even when it's gotten to this point. i hope things will be easier for you.

 

[potaytow]

I've really messed up in life lately so much and I'm just scared. I can't do anything right and I'm useless. I have adhd and it's making university so hard for me I just want to give up. I can't quit or anything I couldn't do that to my family. I want to leave the world and not deal with it but I don't know how to correctly. I don't know how to get over the fear of leaving people I love behind or the fear of missing out on stuff I like doing. How do I get rid of those? Because if I can't even get myself to fix my problems or get back on track there's no point in me living

honestly I can't give you any advice on how to fix your problems. being in university alone with adhd is already impressive as is, so you already are doing a good job, even if you don't see it yet. it's a challenge, yes, but the fact that you got up and asked for help is amazing.

 

[SASU-KE]

I have ADHD as well. I struggled in college. Had poor grades, somehow got through and got my degree and got a job.

I did much better at my job than I did in college. The reason is it was on the job training which wasn't the same as looking at a blackboard and following lectures. Today I'm doing a lot better, earning good and I'm well settled.

If you manage to somehow struggle through college and get your degree, life might get better. I can't promise you it does, because initially I struggled to find a job and someone helped me get my foot in the door.

I don't want to be a negative Nancy, but You'll have to compete with AI as well.

What I'm saying is still try your best anyway. Even with all the above information.

 

[pusheen]

University on ADHD is immensely hard. It broke me when it was not enough anymore to just cram the night before. It made me feel useless. It's a common thing in adhd. You're not alone

 

[itsher4444]

Life with ADHD really is the worst. I relate heavily to the feeling of not being able to do anything right and being useless I've felt that way my whole life too. I hope you find the solution to your problem I cant say what that is but I hope things start making more sense and feel more manageable over time.

( I apologize if I took over your thread talking about myself I just wanted to let you know that your not alone in feeling how you feel!)

 

[cutelamb22]

hai!! i really feel you, I have adhd and i'm in uni as well and it really sucks. it feels like if you do okay enough in the early parts of school then no one notices or diagnoses you with ADHD so you just become an adult and eventually crash and burn,,,

i was doing just about okay in uni before recently i just broke under everything. it feels so difficult to get myself to do anything and people really dont want to deal with me if i cant be functioning

i wish i could drop out but theres too much that scares me, but I feel like i'm just drifting through right now, like broken goods.

you seem like a very sweet person~!! i'd love to talk

i would love to talk to yoy as well