Healing yourself from abuse and trauma.

[Parnate]

How can I heal myself from the abuse and trauma? I currently can't afford therapy, so gotta try some self healing.
There's so much that I hate about myself .Please give share your experiences and suggestions.

 

[bipolar22]

Been abused physically emotionally ans sexually since I was borned into my covert narc mother's life. 20 years od therapy. Mixed results. Actully no results. But people are diffrence you might recover with time. Therapy idk pretty useless. Harmful at best. Just my expierence. Might be diffrent for other.

 

[timf]

Getting out of abuse is key. For kids this can mean waiting years or getting external intervention. Once a safer environment is achieved, work can begin on repair. Abuse usually results in two types of injury, the negative things that happened, and the lack of positive developmental skills.

In order to try to repair the negative damage, it will be important to mentally distance yourself from both the incident and personality of the abuser. This can be difficult when it is a parent. It can help to consider the abuser as a retarded child who flails around causing damage with no idea that they are out of control. This helps make it less personal. This sort of mental distancing can allow a person to look at what they experienced more like a car accident than a personal attack.

It can be more difficult to identify what positive skills one is missing because of the abuse. One of the most common is noticing that one is not able to slip into and out of reflexive social situations. People who have not experienced difficulty seem to have this social advantage. Those who have experienced trauma generally are cautious and do not extend trust as automatically as those who live more by reflex.

People like cops, emergency room nurses, combat veterans, and even ex-cons may have experiences that also make them less reflexively trusting. However, one does not have to be reflexive to be socially engaged. It is possible to use a front of social conviviality and civility to interface with people that does not require trust. Over time one can slowly and intentionally extend trust.