Venting Getting over divorce, when will it ever feel better?

[KillingPain267]

It's been over a year now. When will I ever feel normal again? I feel unattractive and that the ex didn't really love me for those 8 years even though affirming it, even more so now after a year alone ☹ (and no, I cannot ever trust a new perso)

Do I need to continue like this for years more? I give up trying to "get over it". I tried everything. I'm so fucking done. Drug relapse it is, and then suicide soon when my method is prepared.

 

[Chinaski]

Separation takes two years or until you meet someone else, whichever comes first. If you're at a, stage where you realise you were not loved and your relationship was a sham, accept this with a calm appraisal for a swifter recovery but be mindful to fend off any bitterness and resentment

 

[KillingPain267]

Separation takes two years or until you meet someone else, whichever comes first. If you're at a, stage where you realise you were not loved and your relationship was a sham, accept this with a calm appraisal for a swifter recovery but be mindful to fend off any bitterness and resentment

If I was not loved I cannot ever be loved. That's the conclusion I cannot debunk.

 

[Chinaski]

If I was not loved I cannot ever be loved. That's the conclusion I cannot debunk.

You can, just maybe not by the person you love the most. Most of us accept this at some point sadly, I've had to.

 

[babouflo201223]

Cela fait plus d'un an maintenant. Quand est-ce que je me sentirai à nouveau normale ? Je me sens peu attirante et je me dis que mon ex ne m'a pas vraiment aimée pendant ces 8 ans, même si je l'affirmais, encore plus maintenant après un an seule ☹ (et non, je ne peux jamais faire confiance à une nouvelle personne)

Est-ce que je dois continuer comme ça pendant des années encore ? J'abandonne l'idée de "m'en remettre". J'ai tout essayé. J'en ai vraiment marre. Je vais rechuter, et bientôt je me suiciderai quand ma méthode sera prête.

Hey ! I lived 16 years with my girlfriend and she left me alone to start a new life without me, quite exactly 1 year ago (20 December). It's not nothing, 16 years ! And I can't "turn the page", after 2 x 5 weeks in psychiatric hospital at the first part of this year and 6 months of stronger and stronger hell in my head at the second part of the year. I think I can understand you very well. I send you thoughts of comfort again.

 

[KillingPain267]

Hey ! I lived 16 years with my girlfriend and she left me alone to start a new life without me, quite exactly 1 year ago (20 December). It's not nothing, 16 years ! And I can't "turn the page", after 2 x 5 weeks in psychiatric hospital at the first part of this year and 6 months of stronger and stronger hell in my head at the second part of the year. I think I can understand you very well. I send you thoughts of comfort again.

I'm sorry that happened to you Relationships are not worth it. The pain is not worth the wonderful times together.