Venting Generic "tips" that irritate me

[Eren]

I have insomnia and OCD, so I often have severe episodes of anxiety. I hate when someone tells me "relax" or "don't obsess" or "if you don't relax, you can't get better"

It's really maddening, does it happen to someone else?

 

[Deleted member 19654]

If it was that easy to just relax, I wouldn't be suffering from anxiety.

 

[NightmareTour]

"Just go out and get some fresh air and exercise!"

Well that would be great, if I had any energy and wasn't terrified of outside.

"You'll feel better if you go to bed early and get a proper night's sleep!"

Yeah, no. That's not how insomnia works.

People who don't understand mental health should definitely try to listen instead of handing out useless, condescending advice.

 

[grungeCat]

Anxiety is a word that fully describes me and yeah, advices like 'don't overreact' irritates me too. However I have a non-useless (I think so) advice about insomnia. I used to have an awful sleeplessness but learning how to lucid dream helped me much. Now I have no trouble falling asleep. It's because I learnt lots of stuff about sleeping process and I have completely other view on sleeping. Have you tried it? It's a very pleasant experience and helps to deal with insomnia.

 

[Mm80]

If it was that easy to just relax, I wouldn't be suffering from anxiety.

How about a nice hot bubble bath?

 

[woxihuanni]

You MUST try yoga, dear

 

[XYZ]

My all time favourite: "You should exercise."

You MUST try yoga, dear

Touching the back on your neck with your big toe is sure to cure everything from schizoprenia to pink eye. Money back guarantee!

How about a nice hot bubble bath?

Is it nice and hot in there, honey? Do you want more bubbles?

Photo of what my life is like and how stupid it is when someone tells me to do yoga or take a bubble bath to relax..

 

[Eren]

Anxiety is a word that fully describes me and yeah, advices like 'don't overreact' irritates me too. However I have a non-useless (I think so) advice about insomnia. I used to have an awful sleeplessness but learning how to lucid dream helped me much. Now I have no trouble falling asleep. It's because I learnt lots of stuff about sleeping process and I have completely other view on sleeping. Have you tried it? It's a very pleasant experience and helps to deal with insomnia.

No, I haven't tried it, exactly what does it consist of?

 

[Deleted member 19654]

Lucid dreaming is where you're aware that you're dreaming. It's like you're awake in the dream world.

I've wanted to try but I'm also worried that I'll be lucid dreaming during a nightmare.

 

[dontwantocareanymore]

Lucid dreaming is where you're aware that you're dreaming. It's like you're awake in the dream world.

I've wanted to try but I'm also worried that I'll be lucid dreaming during a nightmare.

I vote for further research! CTB via lucid dreaming.

My biggest irritation is: "You just need to learn to let things go." Yeah! Absolutely! Why didn't I think of that first?!

 

[Eren]

Lucid dreaming is where you're aware that you're dreaming. It's like you're awake in the dream world.

I've wanted to try but I'm also worried that I'll be lucid dreaming during a nightmare.

I had heard about it, I mean what do you usually do for it, my intention is to improve my insomnia.

 

[Peachycherry]

Don't forget about the 'how I cured my depression' Twitter threads:
1. Just drink some water!

 

[Deleted member 19654]

You get yourself into a routine of doing reality checks. For example, count the number of fingers on your hand several times a day. Eventually you'll start counting your fingers in your dreams too. If you're dreaming, your hand may start to look weird or you may have extra fingers etc.

 

[BPD Barbie]

Don't forget about the 'how I cured my depression' Twitter threads:
1. Just drink some water!

Just go outside and get some fresh air as well ;)

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I might be alone in this but I definitely hate it when people tell me advice that I should learn to cook. I just refuse to go anywhere near a stove because whether gas powered or electric I just know that if I get into it, the chance of me losing focus and causing an explosion or some kind of accident is stupidly high. I'm also terrified of flames and gasoline so I'd much rather leave that to other people to deal with.

 

[Mm80]

My all time favourite: "You should exercise."


Touching the back on your neck with your big toe is sure to cure everything from schizoprenia to pink eye. Money back guarantee!


Is it nice and hot in there, honey? Do you want more bubbles?
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Photo of what my life is like and how stupid it is when someone tells me to do yoga or take a bubble bath to relax..

Thats quite a sad yet deeply moving photo. Says a hundred words.

 

[albino_elk]

Not everyone is an empath . People can't understand if they don't have the same disorders as ours and its okay. Say thanks and don't speak with them ever again xd

 

[XYZ]

I only have a problem when people who have known me and seen me struggle with therapy, medicine etc for all my life, sit threre and dish out platitudes such as "Have you tried coconut oil? I just read a book about it by an American cardiologist". It infuriates me. I blow a fuse.

(Of course, being socially awkward, I don't show my anger. I just reply "There's no scientific evidence to back that up" and smile politely. Then I let my fury eat at me until I am alone and can self harm. Yeah... I'm just "great".)

 

[Symbiote]

"Have you tried smoking some marijuana" is one of the tips that irritates me as if marijuana is the cure all for anything that makes you nervous. This is how addictions are formed, I don't need to be an addict for a problem that's permanent. That's like putting a giant band-aid over the wound and kissing it to make it feel better, when in reality it's just temporary.

 

[Deleted member 19654]

"Have you tried smoking some marijuana" is one of the tips that irritates me as if marijuana is the cure all for anything that makes you nervous. This is how addictions are formed, I don't need to be an addict for a problem that's permanent. That's like putting a giant band-aid over the wound and kissing it to make it feel better, when in reality it's just temporary.

If I smoke too much weed, it just makes my anxiety so much worse.

 

[Mm80]

I only have a problem when people who have known me and seen me struggle with therapy, medicine etc for all my life, sit threre and dish out platitudes such as "Have you tried coconut oil? I just read a book about it by an American cardiologist". It infuriates me. I blow a fuse.

(Of course, being socially awkward, I don't show my anger. I just reply "There's no scientific evidence to back that up" and smile politely. Then I let my fury eat at me until I am alone and can self harm. Yeah... I'm just "great".)

Have you tried cod liver oil?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

"Have you tried smoking some marijuana" is one of the tips that irritates me as if marijuana is the cure all for anything that makes you nervous. This is how addictions are formed, I don't need to be an addict for a problem that's permanent. That's like putting a giant band-aid over the wound and kissing it to make it feel better, when in reality it's just temporary.

Oh my god, I absolutely hate it when people try to tell me this. Marijuana is very likely to just make my anxiety worse because the few times I've had it I either hallucinated terrible things or I just became even more of an idiot and had anxiety-inducing consequences to deal with later. It's even worse because for some of the people who try to tell me this we literally know a friend who got addicted to marijuana and he ended up in the hospital after a particularly bad trip. I hate living in California and I hate being a millennial because everyone here acts like marijuana is some miracle cure for everything just because it's not as bad as some other drugs. Also the smell is nasty. Ok sorry for the rant. I know it does work for some people, but I definitely don't think it would for me.

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

I can't do marijuana either. It makes me throw up, for an hour straight. And yeah, it tastes and smells nasty. *shiver*

And the lines like "just let it roll off," drive me nuts!! Pretty much what everybody else has said here. I, too, ask "Show me the research."

As for insomnia, I accidentally found something that helps me fall asleep. I count backwards from 100, tap my feet in a rhythmic way in time to the counting. Sometimes I count by threes (100-97-94-91 etc). It must be rhythmic, the foot tapping has to happen, and I know if I get into the sixties, I may as well just get up or read.

It works most of the time. A way to turn off my brain.

 

[Nymph]

You MUST try yoga, dear

This!! My mom won't stop talking about yoga! I hate exercise and she thinks forcing me into yoga is going to help me with my anxiety

 

[XYZ]

Have you tried cod liver oil?

I have it for breakfast. Instead of milk, I take my cereal with cod liver oil. It adds a certain... flavour...

 

[Mm80]

I have it for breakfast. Instead of milk, I take my cereal with cod liver oil. It adds a certain... flavour...

I know. It tastes like shit.
I once knew this pervert who used drink it neat our of the bottle.

 

[BridgeJumper]

'Just eat'
'You need to get over yourself / stop feeling sorry for yourself, snap out of it'
'If you really wanted to kill yourself you would have done it long ago'
'You need to get a job, you will be too busy to think about it'
'Call a helpline'

Or go exercise, go sniff essential oils, or whatever.

Yeah, no.
God, people really dont understand how depression works. Even some of the supposed 'professionals' (at least those I talked to) dont understand.

Dont have any advice for the insomnia problems. I myself am so scared I just sit in my room with the light on all night racking up them electricity bills :/

 

[woxihuanni]

Take a walk is the most persistent. Also, if you are wondering whether these idiots would leave you alone if you be a good child, evidence suggests no. Cooking/baking is definitely a thing not even these yoga girls do themselves but because I do it and enjoy it, it becomes automayically invalid as self-care, hobby or contribution. It simply doesn't count, what you do.

 

[Symbiote]

Take a walk is the most persistent. Also, if you are wondering whether these idiots would leave you alone if you be a good child, evidence suggests no. Cooking/baking is definitely a thing not even these yoga girls do themselves but because I do it and enjoy it, it becomes automayically invalid as self-care, hobby or contribution. It simply doesn't count, what you do.

Of course, the people that "attempt" to help us want to see that we take their advice to heart so that they can feel validated and good about themselves. That their advice has the godlike ability to change our fate....It's sickening!

 

[ocd is bad]

'Just smile! Depression is just a fancy word for being sad, stop complaining, people have it worse :D'