You're a perceptive man, I'm sure you already understand the nature of this note. Don't look for me, I'm in the room but I've hidden specifically so that you don't have to see something traumatic. Call 911, they'll know what to do. I'm not sure how legally binding something like this is, but if it is I'd prefer to entrust the deposition of my remains to you. I'd ideally like to be cremated, and you can do what you like with what's left, but I'd prefer it if my family had as little to do with this as possible because honestly they don't deserve it. Don't bother with a funeral, that's an expense nobody is prepared to handle. Please understand that my decision to do this had nothing to do with you or anyone else, it's been the plan for many years now. It's just that my strength has finally run out, and I need to rest now. If there's a life after this one, I'll still be here to guide you and look after you. Don't feel like I've left you behind because I haven't, I'm just on the other side of the veil so to speak. This isn't for lack of love for you, I loved you as much as a human is capable of loving another, and will continue to do so. Death won't take the things we had from either of us. I'm so so sorry that I let you get attached to my physical being, I still understand that loss I'm imposing upon you, but please keep our memories close to your heart and there I'll continue to live. Until our next life, goodbye, and I loved you so.
I have nothing to add other than that it is beautiful and heartbreaking x
Thank you. Writing it felt very bittersweet
Rachel74
Enlightened
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SuicidalSymphonies
I think I'll take a dirt nap.
- Oct 13, 2019
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Oh man, I'm crying now... A well written note. Ugh.. I'm gonna miss you. Damn... x
Everything I could think, or not think to say, but wish I had that writing gift. Touching, beautiful, a lovely gift from you. I believe you will find a way to guide that person from beyond.
BipolarExpat
Accomplished faker
- May 30, 2019
- 698
Do you think you could manage an intro. with some feeling(s) too?
I find it a little....straight to biz.
I understand the importance of getting that crucial info. (Calling 911) out asap, it's just....I dunno...a little cold at first.
"You're an amazingly perceptive person and that's only one of your endearing features that I've grown to love so much.
Or something....
I find it a little....straight to biz.
I understand the importance of getting that crucial info. (Calling 911) out asap, it's just....I dunno...a little cold at first.
"You're an amazingly perceptive person and that's only one of your endearing features that I've grown to love so much.
Or something....
That might be a better idea. I just got straight to it because he's an extremely anxious type and I know he'll see a note and no me and put two and two together immediately and I don't want him to start looking for me and see something he doesn't want to
How aboooout: You're an extremely perceptive man, one of the many traits I've come to adore in you over the years, so I'm sure you already understand the nature of this note
BipolarExpat
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- May 30, 2019
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I was worried about that, too.
Yes, sounds good. Smooths it out, keeps attention - then straight to your warning.
With that said, I guess you do understand....it's quite possible he'll look regardless, right?
I mean....I would (before calling). Being completely clueless about your plan/method, there'd be a drive present to "save" you. As much as we all fear that (and the dangers it imposes), we understand it because it's human nature.
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That is true. I really hope he doesn't. I'm going with sn probably so it shouldn't be too terribly traumatic, but the corpse of a loved one is the corpse of a loved one
BipolarExpat
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- May 30, 2019
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I hope he does not as well. If I was really, truly intent on home....(which I couldn't), I'd probably include something a bit stronger:
"Please do NOT look for me, dear. You don't need that. I'm in the room but I've hidden specifically so that you don't have to see something traumatic.
Please follow my last wishes and call 911. Wait for them outside. They'll know what to do. This is very important."
Finally, break it up a little (short pragraphs).
It's easier to read (speed read, even).
A wall of text could = him bolting into the room.
"Please do NOT look for me, dear. You don't need that. I'm in the room but I've hidden specifically so that you don't have to see something traumatic.
Please follow my last wishes and call 911. Wait for them outside. They'll know what to do. This is very important."
Finally, break it up a little (short pragraphs).
It's easier to read (speed read, even).
A wall of text could = him bolting into the room.
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Alright, new and improved below:
You're an extremely perceptive man, one of the many traits I've come to adore in you over the years, so I'm sure you already understand the nature of this note. Please DO NOT look for me, that isn't something you need. I'm in the room but I've hidden specifically so that you don't have to see something traumatic. By the time you read this, hours will have passed since I took my intended course of action, there will be nothing to gain from looking for me yourself. Please abide by my last wishes and call 911. Wait outside for them. They'll know what to do.
I'm not sure how legally binding something like this is, but if it is I'd prefer to entrust the deposition of my remains to you. I'd ideally like to be cremated, and you can do what you like with what's left, but I'd prefer it if my family had as little to do with this as possible because honestly they don't deserve it. Don't bother with a funeral, that's an expense nobody is prepared to handle.
Please understand that my decision to do this had nothing to do with you or anyone else, it's been the plan for many years now. It's just that my strength has finally run out, and I need to rest now. If there's a life after this one, I'll still be here to guide you and look after you. Don't feel like I've left you behind because I haven't, I'm just on the other side of the veil so to speak. This isn't for lack of love for you, I loved you as much as a human is capable of loving another, and will continue to do so. Death won't take the things we had from either of us. I'm so so sorry that I let you get attached to my physical being, I still understand that loss I'm imposing upon you, but please keep our memories close to your heart and there I'll continue to live. Until our next life, goodbye, and I loved you so.
BipolarExpat
Accomplished faker
- May 30, 2019
- 698
<3 Thanks for the help, it's looking way more composed now
BipolarExpat
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- May 30, 2019
- 698
You're welcome.
You do indeed have a way with words. You've made a seemingly impossible prose task appear mostly effortless. It's meaningful, covers the bases, diffuses unanswered questions, recognizes the unknown and shares a bit of hope.
You do indeed have a way with words. You've made a seemingly impossible prose task appear mostly effortless. It's meaningful, covers the bases, diffuses unanswered questions, recognizes the unknown and shares a bit of hope.
I hope my note will serve as inspiration for some people here who might be stuck on their own notes❤
trynacbt
Arcanist
- Sep 28, 2019
- 476
Mine is similar but like 3 pages long. Maybe it would be less painful for me to be more concise Thank you for sharing, and I'm sorry...
takeyourshotfunboy
Smile...
- Oct 11, 2019
- 206
I know this forum is pro choice and everything but I´ll still miss you when you´re gone
CrushedHopes
Ex-narcissist that is looking to end himself soon
- Nov 3, 2019
- 471
khw777
Just trying to catch a bus!
- Oct 18, 2019
- 235
I'm gonna miss every single one of you guys too, this place has been home to some of the greatest and most understanding people I've met in my life in my short time here so far
LunarPuppy -
I read your beautiful note early today, thought about it a lot, and read all the suggestions. I am an older man and very recently lost a woman I loved for 40 years, suddenly. I think you should write your note similar to your first edition, and let me explain.
If my love asked me to respect her wishes after she died, actually she did, I would instantly agree to do so, and I did. But instinct and love bypass the thinking brain. About the time I was into your second sentence saying I would "understand the nature" of the note, I would be through the door looking for you. Nothing you write can stop that unless he is a very very logical and deliberate man, expecting this to have happened.
Two other reasons to write as you first thought. YOU know this man better than anyone, and I think based on how you write, you know how to communicate with him better than anyone. After all the commotion is settled, believe me, he will read that note over and over and over in days to come, trying to grapple with his life without you and it would be great if he could read the words and the prose, just as you would have delivered it orally, that is part of what he loved about you. By the way, I would make a copy and hide it for him where he can easily find it, as the police may take the original away. This brings to next point, you sound on the younger side, and I bring this up only because I was in law enforcement years ago. When a younger person dies, more attention is paid. I hope you handwrite the note (and make his copy) because with all your explanation written in your own hand, it will bring down any suspicion level, ir there is any. A typed note could have been done by anyone, so handwritten notes, especially with such detailed thoughts you have, and clearly written to a loved one, so poignant, will make things easier on him.
The man will grieve, as I did and still am doing, and he will hurt and feel hapless and alone, as I did, and still do. But the thoughts you give him, in your own lovely loving, words to him alone, along with your handwriting, will mean the world to him. And I believe, when things settle a bit, he can look back at all he knows and loves about you, read his note, and at some point think, "darling, I am glad you are out of pain, I didn't want you to ever suffer, and now you are at peace." That is a daily, hourly thought I have for my now gone love, but it still hurts of course. All he and I are left with is the grateful feeling that you are no longer suffering.
I will keep you in my thoughts, and appreciate all members' thoughts, they all have good points. Just wanted to give you the thoughts of an old man who just lost his 40 year love, who was suffering, deteriorating and in constant physical and emotional pain too, and I would love to have a note from her telling me what you are telling him, while I stumble alone through the rest of my life.
Love to you.
1. If I came home and found
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Thank you for this <3 Yeah I'm gonna transfer it to handwriting before I ctb, I just wanted to type it out to gather my thoughts first. I'm sorry you lost your love <3 I hope this note will bring him comfort
Your note is beautiful and one he will surely treasure. Do you think your wishes will be abided by in terms of your family? As I was worried when my time comes that my note wouldn't be respected as my actual last will and testament because there is no lawyer or witness. But I hope that it will be
LonleyLight - A suggestion. I don't know where in the world you are, but you should be able to go online and search for FREE WILL. You may have to give an email, and register, but once you get through that you can make a simple will, filling in blanks, and leaving blank what you don't know or don't care about. At the end they will ask to you want premium service or help, just say no, and you will end up and be able to print out with a relatively simple will. Put in what important, the points in your letter, follow the signing part with whatever minimum requirement your local requires, maybe in the note mention where your will is located, and you wish for it be followed.
IF you are able and okay with it and have time and funds, you can get a real simple will made by a lawyer, who can hold onto it and make sure your wishes are carried out. If you can't do that you could give it to a friend who will not be a will beneficiary - you don't have to say anything about the exit, just ask a person who would not benefit, to hold onto it. Once you have done that your own will is witness to and evidence of, what you direct occur.
This may prevent mischief and at least your wills terms cannot be argued about, it is in black and white, end of argument we hope.
Even if you only hide it, revealing its location in your note for the discover, and probably police to read, there will be a record that your will exits.
You could also put in the mail addressed to yourself, so if you don't exit, you can receive it in the mail and keep it sealed, stamped, and marked with the date, evidencing you completed the will with forethought. Then upon exit you can identify it and there is sealed, dated, stamped evidence all have to acknowledge. Hand address the envelope, and even add a short handwritten, signed, and dated note, admonishing all to carry out your wishes.
IF you have exited before it arrives in the mail and have an effect on the family, making it difficult for any family contrarians.
After that you done what you can do, made a good effort, and the written will you prepared will carry more heft.
Best to you.
Oh thank you so much for all that info!! I will look into making a free will online, not that I have much to leave really, but I'm mostly worried about my burial plans not being respected, I know my mother would want me with her but I'd want to be with my father, I worry so much about it!! What little things I have I know she would want control over too which is a no no, so this is a massive help the info you have shared, thank you again!!
TAW122
Emissary of the right to die.
- Aug 30, 2018
- 6,815
This is a good, straightforward note highlighting and addressing what you needed to say. Like what @LonelyLight said, if you have the opportunity to make a will after your death (with specific instructions on what to do with your other assets, property, belongings, personal effects, etc.) then you should consider that. Since I don't know your assets nor wealth, only you can make a decision on what to do with them after you have passed.
Rant : Hugh .. Now I am more disgusted with my life since never someone will leave something like this to me ... End of rant.
In short, yeah, well done, very sweet.
In short, yeah, well done, very sweet.
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