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Fthis

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Dec 8, 2020
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I've seen ones for arms/wrist but i need excuses for my thighs. They're not that deep but they look a bit worse then something done by a pet, and they're just kind of lines all over the place.
 
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MyLifeisHell

MyLifeisHell

It hurts
Jul 23, 2022
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You don't owe anyone any explanation. If someone has the nerve to comment on your body, then you can be so bold as to say it doesn't concern them.
 
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BillyBob

BillyBob

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Jun 14, 2018
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Thighs is honestly a hard one to make excuses for. If someone sees then they normally will not say anything. But if they ask just say you have been going through a rough time.
I have old thigh scars from self harming. They are high but I always where baggy shorts or pants even thouh the scars are barely visable since they have healed over the past 10 years.

The best way to get around people asking about them is try and buy clothing that will hide them the most. It sucks but means you will be less likely to be asked about your cuts.
 
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Fthis

Student
Dec 8, 2020
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Thighs is honestly a hard one to make excuses for. If someone sees then they normally will not say anything. But if they ask just say you have been going through a rough time.
I have old thigh scars from self harming. They are high but I always where baggy shorts or pants even thouh the scars are barely visable since they have healed over the past 10 years.

The best way to get around people asking about them is try and buy clothing that will hide them the most. It sucks but means you will be less likely to be asked about your cuts.
For sure, i thought I was so smart doing my thighs instead of wrists but like I do different gigs as a performer because I love the arts and need to pay for university somehow and my costume shows thighs, I'm going to try to cover with makeup but just incase somebody does notice since make-up comes off.... Also my family is so nosy for no reason....
 
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Amccorm2

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Nov 7, 2022
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Personally I don't do arms. I'll do legs (shins/calves and thighs), upper torso and areas of the back I can get. I don't tend to worry about people asking as it's none of their concern but if really pressed I'd say I'm having a pretty rough time in life.
 
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Gray Wounds

Gray Wounds

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Jun 27, 2018
574
May I know where you've seen the excuses for self-harm on the wrists/arms? I am also looking for one.
 
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Unknown4

Member
Nov 7, 2022
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Mine unfortunately are from my wrists up to my shoulders and I just don't wear short sleeves out in public to avoid questions and stares, 2 months ago a guy at work saw the small ones poking out by my wrists, he asked what they were, I said that when I was younger I got into an accident and fell into barbed wire that was the first excuse I could think of, probably not very believable but he didn't really push me after that.
But also remember that you don't have to answer anyone's questions, you could say something like 'I don't feel comfortable and would rather not talk about it' you don't owe anyone an explanation
 
jackie_boy1337

jackie_boy1337

Member
Nov 5, 2022
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Yeah, you don't anybody any explanation for that.

If they're rude enough to ask about that, just tell them you don't want to talk about it.

Anpther option: If you catch someone staring, I've found the following tactic very helpful:
Me: "Can I help you?"

Usually no response. Occasionally I'll get the oblivious, nosy, idiot who says something like

"Those are some pretty deep scars on your arms..."

Me: "Oh, m'kay."
And then I go about my business.

If you wanted to be an asshole, you could just start pointing things out that're obviously, physically wrong with them?

My point is that if you have a bunch of self-harm scars all over the place that you can't cover up with clothing, you have to get comfortable with it at some point.
People will stare, that doesn't mean you have to interact with them.
 
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Fthis

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Dec 8, 2020
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May I know where you've seen the excuses for self-harm on the wrists/arms? I am also looking for one.
There was a list on here but I can't seem to find it alot of people blame it on animals or if they're deep then machinery accidents, barbed wire ect.
Yeah, you don't anybody any explanation for that.

If they're rude enough to ask about that, just tell them you don't want to talk about it.

Anpther option: If you catch someone staring, I've found the following tactic very helpful:
Me: "Can I help you?"

Usually no response. Occasionally I'll get the oblivious, nosy, idiot who says something like

"Those are some pretty deep scars on your arms..."

Me: "Oh, m'kay."
And then I go about my business.

If you wanted to be an asshole, you could just start pointing things out that're obviously, physically wrong with them?

My point is that if you have a bunch of self-harm scars all over the place that you can't cover up with clothing, you have to get comfortable with it at some point.
People will stare, that doesn't mean you have to interact with them.
Yesss good idea people don't deserve an explanation I just hate panicking and being like "uhhhhh uhm"
 
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ryo the frog

I'm in your house
Jun 27, 2022
74
I have eczema, if anyone where to find out id just tell them it's because of that.
though this would only work with people who dont know you all too well since im assuming you dont have eczema
 
SpiroSundae

SpiroSundae

She/Her
Dec 1, 2022
47
I got some gnarly ones on my thighs, never could find an excuse for people
 
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makethepainstop

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Sep 16, 2022
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May I know where you've seen the excuses for self-harm on the wrists/arms? I am also looking for one.
Barb wire fencing! I fell into a vicious rose bush! My friend asked me hold his pet iguana, monitor lizard, gator, cayman....I was attacked by a rabid squirrel, raccoon, or opossum. My ex boyfriend tied me up and wanted for me to bleed to death.
 
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Idkaho2

Member
Dec 18, 2021
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I've seen ones for arms/wrist but i need excuses for my thighs. They're not that deep but they look a bit worse then something done by a pet, and they're just kind of lines all over the place.
grow up teenager, you don't need to give excuses to anyone. if someone asks say what you did and why. if you did it for attention then explain as such. who the hell needs excuses?
I have multiple vertical scars on my wrists because I was blackout drunk and cut myself while taking drugs. simple innit?
 
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Gray Wounds

A Phantasmagoria
Jun 27, 2018
574
Barb wire fencing! I fell into a vicious rose bush! My friend asked me hold his pet iguana, monitor lizard, gator, cayman....I was attacked by a rabid squirrel, raccoon, or opossum. My ex boyfriend tied me up and wanted for me to bleed to death.
This absolutely made my day xD
 
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Unending

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Nov 5, 2022
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If it isn't someone who I know personally, I almost always have been blunt and told them I don't want to answer their questions or talk about scars with them. It's obviously a little more stressful with people who you know, especially family.
 
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makethepainstop

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Sep 16, 2022
2,029
May I know where you've seen the excuses for self-harm on the wrists/arms? I am also looking for one.
Excuses for scars, caused from self harm, umm give me a second..... #1. I was trying to use a motorized soil tiller and fell into it! #2. I fell onto a very sharp rake! #3. I was kidnapped by some very vicious dudes who tied me up with fishing line and I struggled terribly, and that damn line cut hell out of me.
May I know where you've seen the excuses for self-harm on the wrists/arms? I am also looking for one.
Excuses for scars, caused from self harm, umm give me a second..... #1. I was trying to use a motorized soil tiller and fell into it! #2. I fell onto a very sharp rake! #3. I was kidnapped by some very vicious dudes who tied me up with fishing line and I struggled terribly, and that damn line cut hell out of me.
May I know where you've seen the excuses for self-harm on the wrists/arms? I am also looking for one.
Excuses for scars, caused from self harm, umm give me a second..... #1. I was trying to use a motorized soil tiller and fell into it! #2. I fell onto a very sharp rake! #3. I was kidnapped by some very vicious dudes who tied me up with fishing line and I struggled terribly, and that damn line cut hell out of me.
More excuses for self harm scars: Who knew putting a cat into a pillow case and then into a shower, could make a cat so angry. As God is my witness, I had no idea that squirrel was rabid, it seemed so friendly. My probation officer said if I knew what was good for me, I better not tell anyone! Those were part of my voodoo religion, sometimes an offering of blood must accompany a prayer! I was part of an CIA pain control experiment.
 
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Gray Wounds

A Phantasmagoria
Jun 27, 2018
574
Excuses for scars, caused from self harm, umm give me a second..... #1. I was trying to use a motorized soil tiller and fell into it! #2. I fell onto a very sharp rake! #3. I was kidnapped by some very vicious dudes who tied me up with fishing line and I struggled terribly, and that damn line cut hell out of me.

Excuses for scars, caused from self harm, umm give me a second..... #1. I was trying to use a motorized soil tiller and fell into it! #2. I fell onto a very sharp rake! #3. I was kidnapped by some very vicious dudes who tied me up with fishing line and I struggled terribly, and that damn line cut hell out of me.

Excuses for scars, caused from self harm, umm give me a second..... #1. I was trying to use a motorized soil tiller and fell into it! #2. I fell onto a very sharp rake! #3. I was kidnapped by some very vicious dudes who tied me up with fishing line and I struggled terribly, and that damn line cut hell out of me.
More excuses for self harm scars: Who knew putting a cat into a pillow case and then into a shower, could make a cat so angry. As God is my witness, I had no idea that squirrel was rabid, it seemed so friendly. My probation officer said if I knew what was good for me, I better not tell anyone! Those were part of my voodoo religion, sometimes an offering of blood must accompany a prayer! I was part of an CIA pain control experiment.
lollollol! i love the last two excuses! mysteriously goofy and dark.
 
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donewithyourview

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May 9, 2022
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I say cat scratches or fell and scraped myself
 
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makethepainstop

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I say cat scratches or fell and scraped myself
I am telling you from experience, let your questioner know you were helping a friend move his crocodile monitor lizard to a new cage. Trust me, anyone knowing anything about that species of lizard would believe you.
 
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