Ending it all when you have very close family members that love you

[zherhk]

I'm sorry for your loss, but you're underlining the pattern that define people committing suicide as selfish because with their death they make feel pain to family etc.
Do you think that people kills themselves while being happy?
I didn't read nothing about you trying at least to understand what he was going through all the time and the pain the issue was causing him.
Talking about you feeling betrayed and abandoned is so much disrespectful towards your missed brother.

 

[woxihuanni]

You have the cheek to be self absorbed and judgmental when you talk about a dead teenager. Also it is not healthy to need your blood relatives if you are grown up. I don't care about you at all.

 

[Farmmaa]

You have the cheek to be self absorbed and judgmental when you talk about a dead teenager. Also it is not healthy to need your blood relatives if you are grown up. I don't care about you at all.

Woah - pretty cold and harsh judgement for a young man who just lost his brother.
His brother was not a grown up … what exactly makes you think he is ?? They were both still living at home with their parents.

It is absolutely NOT unhealthy to need your family, nor to be devastated when they are gone.

People who are not so hopeless that they want to choose suicide over the life they are living are not self absorbed in not understanding the reasons why. Unless you are there, it is very difficult for many to comprehend.

 

[woxihuanni]

Woah - pretty cold and harsh judgement for a young man who just lost his brother.
His brother was not a grown up … what exactly makes you think he is ?? They were both still living at home with their parents.

It is absolutely NOT unhealthy to need your family, nor to be devastated when they are gone.

People who are not so hopeless that they want to choose suicide over the life they are living are not self absorbed in not understanding the reasons why. Unless you are there, it is very difficult for many to comprehend.

His brother obviously was not grown-up. I'm assuming HE is a bit older. Anyways, it is not healthy to need a sibling to exist unless you are a little child. It's not like he does not have any other family left, no friends, no girlfriend, no community. His brother did not owe him anything.

Of course they are self-absorbed. He is literally complaining about somebody's suicide as if it was an affront.

 

[Ratherbeskinny]

My 16 year old brother and best friend took his life a couple of weeks ago and it has absolutely destroyed me. I didn't think it was possible to feel this much pain. We were incredibly close and I would tell him all the time how much I love him and need him. We also have loving parents that would do anything for us, and he also had several close friends that really cared about him. He knew that taking his life would inflict unimaginable pain upon all of us, yet he chose to do it anyway. I feel betrayed and abandoned, and I still can't figure out how he could do something like this to me. I was never suicidal before this happened but now there's not a day that goes by where I don't want to end the pain, but my mind immediately jumps to my girlfriend, parents, and friends and how I can't cause them all the pain my brother caused me. I don't understand how his mind wouldn't jump to the same place as soon as he seriously started considering it.

So here's my question to those of you with very close family or friends that you know love you more than anything: How can you seriously consider leaving them and inflicting a life-changing amount of everlasting pain? He lied right to my face and promised me he would never do this, and I still can't believe he actually did. I really want to understand what was going on in his mind that made him think this was okay, so what do you guys tell yourself as to why this is an okay decision to make despite having loved ones that rely on you? Do you have any insight as to how he could do this? Thank you in advance, I'm desperate to understand.

No matter how much anyone loves and cares about someone, there is always a limit as to what a person can handle and more importantly; should handle and need to handle. It might be selfish of me to take my own life and it'll definitely hurt, if not kill, the people I care about. But isn't it more selfish of them trying to keep me here, even though I'm suffering 24/7? I understand your pain, I really do. I'm so sorry this has happened to you and I understand that you need your questions answered, but it's pretty simple to me. I guess your brother was suffering way more than he could and/or wanted to handle and he just wanted peace. Maybe he knew it would only hurt you even more in the long-term if he decided to stay. The same thought crosses my mind every day. Don't ever think it's your fault. He was in pain and wanted to end it - that's in summary all that there is to it.


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