does anyone else have a fear of missing out?

[bambibambam]

like the title says, does anyone here get a little upset that they might not be able to stay long enough for their favorite tv shows, game franchises or any sort of ongoing media ? this is a feeling that's been weighing on me heavily ;; a game i've been playing for a while and following the story of Genshin impact for 5 years…it is currently approaching it's end game, i've been playing and enjoying the story since i was 17. it honestly hurts that i won't be able to see it be concluded as i'm planning to leave in less than 2 months… please tell me if anyone else feels the same? what's a favorite media of yours that you'll have to let go of soon? i'd love to read about it. it reminds me deep down that we're all humans with interests who don't deserve to struggle.

 

[Nitheful]

People will always feel like they are missing out, no matter how much we may have or what point in life we are at. All our actions stem from the pursuit of pleasure, and whenever we miss any opportunity for pleasure that we are aware of, we grieve. It doesn't matter if you stayed alive long enough to finish the Genshin story or whatever other media you're interested in. You'd just find something else to fire up your serotonin and feel sad you don't get to milk it for all the joy you've envisioned yourself having.

Perhaps this is just a covert tactic used by our survival instinct. It makes us believe there will be new and wondrous joys to experience so we make ourselves stay alive long enough to see them through.

 

[Carrot]

Completely opposite take incoming.

I don't have FOMO, I'm sad that people fall for it and it makes me sad that companies earn insane about of money on it with what I consider subpar quality. I avoid games with microtrandactions, I prefer single purchase games that are made with passion.

Nobody needs this much money. The accumulation of wealth by malicious means, sometimes in hands of evil people is one of the many reasons I want to die. You cannot fight with this.

I truly wish to live in a world in a world where overpriced games sell exactly zero copies. Imagine everynody just agreed that they have enough of this and take action to prevent it.

There will be always something to look for in life, but the suffering heavily outweights the positives.

I also understand a more positive side of this, but that'snot the one I decided to express here.

 

[bambibambam]

Completely opposite take incoming.

I don't have FOMO, I'm sad that people fall for it and it makes me sad that companies earn insane about of money on it with what I consider subpar quality. I avoid games with microtrandactions, I prefer single purchase games that are made with passion.

Nobody needs this much money. The accumulation of wealth by malicious means, sometimes in hands of evil people is one of the many reasons I want to die. You cannot fight with this.

I truly wish to live in a world in a world where overpriced games sell exactly zero copies. Imagine everynody just agreed that they have enough of this and take action to prevent it.

There will be always something to look for in life, but the suffering heavily outweights the positives.

I also understand a more positive side of this, but that'snot the one I decided to express here.

i completely understand where you're coming from, the suffering does outweigh the positives. makes my heart break a little bit but you are right.

 

[countingclocks]

Damn, I was literally just thinking about this. One of the things that occasionally gets me is this exact sensation. There are a lot of things I theoretically would have wanted to do with my life, and when I was a bit younger, I used to think it would make sense just to wait a little longer just to see if they might be possible. I found that a lot of things I wanted to do ended up being attainable, but most of them still seemed completely out of reach to me in any state I could ever feasibly be in, and even the few things I have actually done don't outweigh the ever-present fact that my life can only be lived in a near constant state of gut-wrenching terror. I will never escape the clamp I was born under, and with each passing month I have less and less attachment to being alive. I think you should keep enjoying the things that matter to you for as long as you can stand it. The feeling will go away naturally, or it won't, and if it doesn't, that may in itself be a reason to stick around just a little longer.

 

[lil dwayne]

I think once im gone it wont matter? Like I wont have concept of missing out, so what does it matter? I guess one has to ask themselves if living to see how things go and end is worth it to them (Its not to me)

 

[bambibambam]

i was really hoping that i wouldn't get too many pessimistic replies haha but i understand where you're all coming from

 

[Dante_]

Nope, not even a litte, I think its fair to because there's already so much ive missed out and nothing to look forward to, it doesn't matter.

 

[EternalShore]

I'm sorry to hear that you feel like you'll be missing out on stuff when you go~ :( I'm pretty sure there was some thread in the recovery section or off-topic about things people are looking forward to where they did post about things like this~ personally tho, I tend to like older things anyways, so if I were to go, I wouldn't miss out on anything new~ :) merely old things that I never got to find~

 

[Forveleth]

Waiting for another game to come out or the next movie I like is not enough to offset all the shit in my life until it happens. The 90% of my life suffering is not worth the 10% of the good times. Also, I can not do a everything. I am always going to be missing out on something.

 

[Doz]

I don't experience fomo in the slightest. All the videogames, movies, tv shows, ect. that I enjoy are typically around a decade old or older. I'm not much for watching stuff anyways, but with videogames 99% of new games that come out are clearly utter shit or just don't catch my interest. And what do you know it usually comes out that the new game is a broken busted up piece of shit and an apology from the developers is the neat wrapped bow to top it off.

Another thing is it's not like I have friends to share the experience with. So it could maybe be enjoyable in a different way? Nope.

So I really don't care what I'll miss out on because I don't think there IS anything to miss out on. It's all shit.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

No.

when I think about it logically none of those ridiculous pleasure addictions matter like "youtube" , movies, videos, social media, news, etc

 

[Forever Sleep]

I was really looking forward to Squid Games 3. Also, when I found out there was a prequel to Game of Thrones (House of the Dragon,) I was so excited about that. Both ended up ok but in my opinion, not as good as hoped for. So, while I genuinely get your anxiety, I also remind myself that these things aren't always worth the wait.

I guess in terms of games, I'd like to play the new Subnautica game and, Hogwarts Legacy. That would no doubt require a new console though too. So again, I'm sure they will be amazing but, several hundred pounds amazing? I'm not sure.

There's also the other issue that I'm a total cowardly custard and pretty stupid at working out what I need to do in games sometimes. I rely heavily on YouTube to guide me (cheat...) So, realistically, these games will have to come out long enough for YouTubers to provide guides in order for me to realistically see most of them. I have a love hate relationship with leviathan sea monsters too so, I always appreciate the scare warnings in YouTube videos. I always learn the hard way when I think it will be nice to go off exploring these worlds.

These things aren't amazing enough for me to stay alive for but then, I'm doing that to spare my Dad the upset. All this other stuff is distraction and coping rather than a strong reason to live. I do wonder in general though, what's coming in the future that I really would have enjoyed. That will happen regardless though- whether I die from natural causes or, suicide.

 

[ShadowedChaos]

I've felt like this and sometimes still do with some things and I thought that was stupid of me for feeling for a while, but your last words I think explain it perfectly, "deep down that we're all humans with interests who don't deserve to struggle". We are all people in the end of the day who got exposed to life at a different degree than everyone else we still have those hobbies and interests even if stuff hinders that. I've always wanted to be able to do so many things and learn and grow with stuff I already do or would like to get back to and that sucks that I won't be able to in the end, but I can do and enjoy what I can for now

 

[Pluto]

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes. The feeling of missing out on something - anything - has caused a lot of conflict in my mind for many years, and this is not just relating to the subject of suicide either. Any time I begin to plan an exit strategy I become overwhelmed with strong thoughts that argue that I could meet somebody who I have a close connection to, or that I could finally finish any personal projects; this puts a damper on my plan(s) to die.

Though after this comes a realization that any positive future situations will probably not last long, and that waiting around is simply a waste of time. I come full circle.

 

[eternalbliss22]

Once I ctb I won't miss anything. That's the beauty of no longer existing. I do feel like I missed out on dying. Quite pissed about it, really. I get hit by a killer tornado & the fucking thing didn't even scratch me. That's the bullshit of reality. 2 people who are actually loved & wanted died it left my fucking ass. Killed me financially, but left me to suffer. I had to go to fucking christians for help. They say they do it for helping people. It's not about helping people, it's about attacking someone at their most vulnerable in order to expand their congregation. If it was about helping then why shove literature of a made up mythology at the needy or offer food in packaging covered with scripture? They say their not upset while their anger is seething through, gaslighting you in conversation. I can't give a time of my cab, I've learned it will have to be a spur of the moment deal. I've dealt with the worst of people after being the worst of me so long that now I've finally got an employer who gives me a harassment free job & someone who is genuinely nice to me that I'm struggling with it. I don't know how to accept or respond. It feels so foreign. In a way it's worse cause i know it won't last, either ship starts again or I falter & let everyone down. I don't think of the future anymore cause I know I'll ctb soon. What was this thread about again? My loss is from head injury & a stoner byproduct, lol

 

[TAW122]

Overall not really, since I've already missed out some of the things I really wanted to attain in my dreadful sentient existence. However, there are sometimes I do go back and realize, well if I had CTB'd at MM/YYYY date then I would have missed out on XYZ thing (series, game, movie, media, entertainment, etc.). One instance is that if I had CTB'd in mid 2019 as I once planned, I would likely have missed Touhou 19 (at least the full version release, which was later in 2019). But then again, I wouldn't have a fear of missing out if I'd had CTB'd because I would lack the ability to regret, fear, or worry about missed events. Non-sentience means no stimuli, no conscious to regret, fear, or anything, just nothingness.

 

[NeroJune9th]

As far as media goes? The metal gear solid 3 remake maybe, but there's always the chance they butcher it.

 

[nuva]

my favorite show that I've been fixated on for a couple of years ended this year. Well, now my soul can rest in peace with no regrets.

 

[cookiencream]

People will always feel like they are missing out, no matter how much we may have or what point in life we are at. All our actions stem from the pursuit of pleasure, and whenever we miss any opportunity for pleasure that we are aware of, we grieve. It doesn't matter if you stayed alive long enough to finish the Genshin story or whatever other media you're interested in. You'd just find something else to fire up your serotonin and feel sad you don't get to milk it for all the joy you've envisioned yourself having.

Perhaps this is just a covert tactic used by our survival instinct. It makes us believe there will be new and wondrous joys to experience so we make ourselves stay alive long enough to see them through.

I noticed that on the days leading up to my first planned attempt. I started thinking about all my favorite shows, my favorite games and how I'd never see them finished. It felt like my brain trying to keep me alive, and sadly as a result I was unable to go through with it. Idk if it counts as an attempt if you stop it half way through but just that alone was able to make me feel unmentally prepared for it. It's why for my second attempt, I've just decided it will be impulsive. I have the materials, the method, etc. All I need is the mental preparedness and a time window.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

The nice thing for me, is that I can't even make myself look forward to anything. That part of me is already dead. I'm done with this ride.

 

[Satori Komeiji]

Since most of what keeps me alive nowadays is consuming media and engaging in hobbies (cope and distractions) I get a bit sad thinking about how I won't be able to continue doing those things I enjoy even if they are merely distractions from the harshness of reality and not genuine reasons to live. When I'm dead I won't be able to be sad about those things so what I'm saying here doesn't make much sense when thinking logically but the human mind isn't always logical now is it?

 

[chemicalburns]

This might sound really cringe but the only reason I haven't CBT yet is because there are still lots of games I wanna play. Mostly stuff from the SMT franchise.

 

[Daphne]

I already missed out. I'm past my prime and the odds of attaining what most take for granted is slim to none What I won't be missing: chronic pain, declining health, stress, insomnia, debt, being broke, discrimination, people in general, and Trump turning the country into a worse dumpster fire than it already is.
I already missed out. I'm past my prime and the odds of attaining what most take for granted is slim to none What I won't be missing: chronic pain, declining health, stress, insomnia, debt, being broke, discrimination, people in general, and Trump turning the country into a worse dumpster fire than it already is.

 

[cciro]

I'll miss not being able to finish some book series I've been reading. I've given up on the kingkiller chronicles ever being finished, it's been what 15 years since the last book? But it would be nice. Hierarchy series by James Islington, I really enjoyed book 1 but it's going to probably be a trilogy and book 2 isn't even out yet. I wanted to finish the wheel of time, but I don't think I'll have time for that, I've got another 8 or so books left to go in that. All of these are fantasy books, I kind of recently got really into the genre. Stormlight archive series, and all of Terry Pratchetts books really.
This doubles as a reccomendations list now I guess, if anyone wants to try some new books you should check some of these out they're all great!

 

[knickknack81]

Definitely. As music and film lover, these are definitely things I look forward to that if/when I CTB, will be things I will sorely miss. But also just not knowing what will come. There could be better times on the horizon whether that is personal in my life or society as a whole. I guess I am still optimistic to a point that things will improve all around (as hard as it seems sometimes) and that is what keeps me going for now.

 

[bambibambam]

This might sound really cringe but the only reason I haven't CBT yet is because there are still lots of games I wanna play. Mostly stuff from the SMT franchise.

ahh, i promise dear this isnt cringe at all…it makes me feel heard ♡ and honestly it's nice to read after going through the really sad replies…i wish i could hug each and every one of you