Does anybody else have no one who loves them?

[SomewhereAlongThe]

My family doesn't care about me. My mother has been a self-centred woman all my life, bipolar and probably autistic like I am. She neglected and abused me a lot. Then my step-father stood on the sidelines and simply watched her abuse and when they split up he stood by while I was being groomed by another man at the age of 14 and the man was 28. They never did more than they had to, the bare minimum and sometimes even less. So now they've been out of my life since my step-dad hasn't bothered emailing me in about 2 years and my mother stopped because I didn't want to talk to her anymore. Not sure if I would ever forgive my step-dad to even talk to him.

I have no one to love me, no one who truly cares about me. I had a man in my life but I was going through a bipolar struggle, he said he would always be there for me and love me, but when I came back he didn't want a relationship anymore, so we're just friends. Honestly, it feels like he doesn't care about me anymore either.

I'm wondering if anyone else has nobody in their life who loves them?

I envy my roommate because both their parents love them and are in contact with them, and they have a girlfriend who loves them as well.

 

[DivineSpark]

I have loving parents and friends, yet I am suicidal and miserable. I shouldnt be.

 

[Esc9434]

Somewhere, I'm sorry you are going through this.

I know I have only known you for a few months, but you come off as such a kind and loving person despite your upbringing.

People who have been through similar circumstances would be trying to light the world on fire and watch it burn, but not you.

Your mom, stepdad, and ex probably didn't deserve your precious love in the first place.

Please continue to look, but be careful.

 

[darksouls]

unfortunately there are many people who have never had someone to love them in their lives
I wish you the best
you deserve love

 

[Griever]

I have a boyfriend, but I don't know if he really loves me or just feels sorry for me

 

[whywere]

I REALLY care about YOU so very much!

I do NOT have any family nor friends.

I have mentioned this so many times on here, back in March 1974, the day after my 18th birthday, my "parents" drove me to our local town, I was raised on a working dairy farm and dropped me off on a street curb with NO money, food, shelter, job, NOTHING, but a bag with my clothes in it and drove away, never hearing from them again, 100% their choice.

From that moment on, I worked hard to not only make a living but to be kind to others and "what comes around goes around" and planting the seeds of being a kind and loving person WILL pay dividends.

So, I REALLY know the feeling, HOWEVER, you are a beautiful and ever so wonderous soul and I truly believe in the old saying, "never say never"

Looking back, I am so glad that my "parents" disowned me from the get-go, as I did NOT have to put up with any of their B.S. and could live my life without any "we told you so" garbage.

You WILL be wonderful, it just takes some time and look at it this way, your parents are the ones who are missing out on seeing their offspring blossom and become a awesome person.

I have seen it so many times through the decades, where the parents are jerks and/or have impossible grandiose ideas/plans for their offspring, that puts so much pressure on the young adults, and you might not have to put up with that.

My parents were NOT there when I graduated from college, I was the only child of the 3 that they had that went to any higher education AND I have done 100% better than my two siblings and so will you.

I 100% believe in YOU, you ARE fantastic, you WILL do and be so wonderful and it takes some time and never ever let anyone be and anchor against you ever.

Hugs, love and well wishes to you, my good friend.

Walter

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm so sorry for your experience. It's understandable that you would want to distance yourself from parents, given your history. I imagine it's not really just the lack of love though. It must also be the wilful neglect. That is so impactful.

I've been more lucky in some ways in that I have had more loving people in my life. All but one of my closest family members are dead now though. A lot died when I was a child. So, that's an unfortunate negative really- that love can also preceed devastating grief and loss. I've lost friendships along the way too- which hurt.

In truth, I've become more distrustful of relationships and relying on others. Despite a shakey start (Mum died when I was 3, Grandpa, 4,) I am actually lucky really that I was given enough love for a solid foundation though.

That said, I would suggest other issues with 'love'. Not to say you were better off without it by any means but I wonder if it is always the 'fix' people think it might be.

My Dad loves me and, I him. That's what keeps me trapped here though. I think it can be tricky. Sure, there's a warm feeling we can access but, we're people at the end of the day.

My Dad isn't always the greatest at listening to problems. It varies overall really. He can be very sympathetic and kind or, it can be obvious he's bored and frustrated with it all. Seeing as you sometimes don't know what you're going to get with some people and, seeing as sometimes their responses when they are irritated can actually feel more upsetting, we start hiding that part of ourselves from them.

So effectively- they love who you used to be to them. Who you represent to them. Seeing as you care about them too, you start to try to present like that when, you're not that anymore. Maybe that former 'you' is even hard to access now.

It's a bit like people loving you when you're dressed up as a giraffe. But, the giraffe costume is itchy and hot and makes you miserable. Is that really love? No- they love the thing that brings them joy. They don't actually want to see the unhappy, sweaty human underneath!

I think sometimes people combine love with support. They aren't always mutual! 'Love' can aso create tethers in the opposite direction. In that- even though you do little to nothing for me. (Despite your best efforts.) Even if in some ways, you make my life worse- I'll endure it because- I love you and, I can't bare to contemplate hurting you.

So- I'd say love is much more complicated than it should actually be. Probably because it's difficult to love unconditionally and truly mean it. I oddly in some ways feel just as bad for those who do have people in their lives they feel bound to and responsible for but they actually feel utterly alone- just the same.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I have a boyfriend, but I don't know if he really loves me or just feels sorry for me

I think many relationships might be like that. Based on pity, or the usefulness of the other person, or other things not involving actual love in the way that it's usually thought of. Feeling sorry for the other, is probably the most common.

 

[Bad Ending]

My parents and siblings love me but I'm still severely depressed and suicidal

 

[2messdup]

My family doesn't care about me. My mother has been a self-centred woman all my life, bipolar and probably autistic like I am. She neglected and abused me a lot. Then my step-father stood on the sidelines and simply watched her abuse and when they split up he stood by while I was being groomed by another man at the age of 14 and the man was 28. They never did more than they had to, the bare minimum and sometimes even less. So now they've been out of my life since my step-dad hasn't bothered emailing me in about 2 years and my mother stopped because I didn't want to talk to her anymore. Not sure if I would ever forgive my step-dad to even talk to him.

I have no one to love me, no one who truly cares about me. I had a man in my life but I was going through a bipolar struggle, he said he would always be there for me and love me, but when I came back he didn't want a relationship anymore, so we're just friends. Honestly, it feels like he doesn't care about me anymore either.

I'm wondering if anyone else has nobody in their life who loves them?

I envy my roommate because both their parents love them and are in contact with them, and they have a girlfriend who loves them as well.

I have no one to love or support me. I never have, in over 60 years of living, so it's not gonna happen. But tbh it makes it easier to ctb because the guilt would stop me if I had someone like that. But the loneliness is just awful. Makes me cry at the smallest trigger, such as if watching tv and someone says something about 'we're here for you" or "you've got your friends around you". If I ctb'd now, I don't think anyone would know for months. Even my psych nurse would probably just discharge me from his list for not turning up. I'm gonna have to send a delayed email to MH services when I do ctb asking them to call police, just so I'm not a mummy or skeleton by the time anyone finds me.

 

[butimstillsoblue]

Nobody loves me.
I have no family and no friends, nobody cares.

I'm sorry you're in the same situation but it's kind of comforting to know I'm not alone in this situation.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

Not alone in loneliness. I, too, have no one. My parents are narcissistic assholes and I have no one else, I'm literally on my own with no partner to rely on, no family, no friends, no support and no anything of any sort. Things could've been hugely different even if ONE person actually loved me or cared for me but no one genuinely does and whoever does always has another goal in mind or was forced to

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Ha. I don't. All my family died over the past 6 years, or so. Don't have any friends. I'm the last one left. It's really kind of a surreal place to be. I had never been in that position prior to all the deaths. It is what it is. Can't change anything.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I have a sister, and she tries. A mom who says "she has changed", but thats easy when Im not there to be beat on anymore. Anybody who I called friend has died one way, or the other now. Its as if Im just waiting for my turn now.

 

[DeletedUser108474]

My family doesn't care about me. My mother has been a self-centred woman all my life, bipolar and probably autistic like I am. She neglected and abused me a lot. Then my step-father stood on the sidelines and simply watched her abuse and when they split up he stood by while I was being groomed by another man at the age of 14 and the man was 28. They never did more than they had to, the bare minimum and sometimes even less. So now they've been out of my life since my step-dad hasn't bothered emailing me in about 2 years and my mother stopped because I didn't want to talk to her anymore. Not sure if I would ever forgive my step-dad to even talk to him.

I have no one to love me, no one who truly cares about me. I had a man in my life but I was going through a bipolar struggle, he said he would always be there for me and love me, but when I came back he didn't want a relationship anymore, so we're just friends. Honestly, it feels like he doesn't care about me anymore either.

I'm wondering if anyone else has nobody in their life who loves them?

I envy my roommate because both their parents love them and are in contact with them, and they have a girlfriend who loves them as well.

Yes

 

[_Minsk]

sorry to hear that. my parents were also very abusive, my mom is very narcistic, my father very abusive.. theyre both horrible people, i regret having been born by them. my mom might have loved me but today i doubt there are any people loving me. im fine with that, i cant keep up with all the stuffs of frequent texting or checking on them either. being depressed really destroys much..
i hope you can find people that love you