Discussion Do you think your loved ones would be able to cope with the grief?

[dogemn]

Your family, friends, or the people closest to you... do you think they could eventually move forward with their lives?

 

[Carcassus]

I think it would completely break my mother. It might even drive her to end her own life. I really try not to think about it because it makes me physically sick.
Unfortunately, I'm too far gone and I can't keep living for others anymore.
My closest friends will be sad or even devastated, but they'll continue with their lives eventually. The world will keep spinning as usual.

What about you?

 

[abnormalshrimp]

I think it would completely break my mother. It might even drive her to end her own life. I really try not to think about it because it makes me physically sick.
Unfortunately, I'm too far gone and I can't keep living for others anymore.
My closest friends will be sad or even devastated, but they'll continue with their lives eventually. The world will keep spinning as usual.

What about you?

I relate to this

 

[HereUntilApril]

This is a really hard question to answer only because we wouldn't be able to truly know this. For me, I can only assume that some of them will probably move on, and others won't. Everyone is different when it comes to grief, and I know that with my death, it would definitely crush a few people that I know, and I do struggle with the thought of that. I know my family would be crushed by this. The fact of the matter is that we would never have the ability to truly know who would be crushed by this because we would be dead. We wouldn't be here to witness all of that.

 

[Carcassus]

This is a really hard question to answer only because we wouldn't be able to truly know this. For me, I can only assume that some of them will probably move on, and others won't. Everyone is different when it comes to grief, and I know that with my death, it would definitely crush a few people that I know, and I do struggle with the thought of that. I know my family would be crushed by this. The fact of the matter is that we would never have the ability to truly know who would be crushed by this because we would be dead. We wouldn't be here to witness all of that.

Unfortunately, that is the harsh reality. It makes it easier that I won't be here to witness the aftermath even though I can speculate how it would affect people.

 

[HereUntilApril]

Unfortunately, that is the harsh reality. It makes it easier that I won't be here to witness the aftermath even though I can speculate how it would affect people.

It can be really difficult to cope with this. I often go on r/SuicideBereavement to give myself an idea of what could possibly happen with others after my death. It's not too accurate because the only people on that subreddit are those that haven't moved on, so I take it with a grain of salt, but I do feel bad for all of them in there. It just sucks that we have to deal with this dilemma in the first place.

 

[Salkak]

I think it would completely break my mother. It might even drive her to end her own life. I really try not to think about it because it makes me physically sick.
Unfortunately, I'm too far gone and I can't keep living for others anymore.
My closest friends will be sad or even devastated, but they'll continue with their lives eventually. The world will keep spinning as usual.

What about you?

I relate to this so much. My family loves me and would be crushed if I do it but I have reached a point in life where living feels like hell and just too damn tired and can't live for others anymore. It really haunts me that my family would be devastated and will blame themselves. I have had a panic attack thinking about all this. I just hope that they move on and remember the good moments we shared instead of the bad ones

 

[Carcassus]

It can be really difficult to cope with this. I often go on r/SuicideBereavement to give myself an idea of what could possibly happen with others after my death. It's not too accurate because the only people on that subreddit are those that haven't moved on, so I take it with a grain of salt, but I do feel bad for all of them in there. It just sucks that we have to deal with this dilemma in the first place.

It is very difficult. Never visited that subreddit, but I have seen a couple of interviews on YouTube of people who've lost someone to suicide. I've realized that most of them blamed themselves, at least in the beginning. That's why I'm going to write and leave a couple of letters for my family and friends in hopes to alleviate their feelings of guilt.

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

The grief of my wife and my children will be mitigated by the inheritance more than enough. I am not really a nice guy, so I guess nobodies heart will break when I finally disappear.

 

[MyShadow]

My siblings and family will go on. I know this because I have experienced their apathy toward my situation firsthand. Their narrative of me is far from flattering. Also, suicides in my family aren't uncommon. As a matter of fact, the number of those who have taken their own lives is shocking.

My close friends may take it harder. I have shared my intentions of ending my life with a chosen few, and some expressed how important I am in their lives, then I never heard from them again. So how they will react after I'm gone is unknown. I really can't dwell on it.

I do know that as things get worse here in the US, the suicide rate will increase exponentially. This country never really had good mental healthcare, especially for the poor and working class. But, now with all of the cutbacks and removal of subsidies, I expect more people will choose suicide over being ignored.

 

[deep-sleeper]

Your family, friends, or the people closest to you... do you think they could eventually move forward with their lives?

Sadly I don't have "loved ones" so I am pretty sure they would move on just fine

 

[HereUntilApril]

It is very difficult. Never visited that subreddit, but I have seen a couple of interviews on YouTube of people who've lost someone to suicide. I've realized that most of them blamed themselves, at least in the beginning. That's why I'm going to write and leave a couple of letters for my family and friends in hopes to alleviate their feelings of guilt.

I will say that it's very difficult to control how others will feel about your death. Writing letters can possibly help, but they still will probably feel a lot of guilt and pain, no matter what you do. I do wish you the best of luck on what you choose to do. I hope you can have as much peace as possible.

I do know that as things get worse here in the US, the suicide rate will increase exponentially. This country never really had good mental healthcare, especially for the poor and working class. But, now with all of the cutbacks and removal of subsidies, I expect more people will choose suicide over being ignored.

I really do wish that the US was much better in terms of mental healthcare. I do see suicide rates growing in the future. It's a very brutal and expensive world we live in today.

 

[Dante_]

Your family, friends, or the people closest to you... do you think they could eventually move forward with their lives?

I dont have a great relationship with family thats even remotely enough to bother me about this, I mean my mom and I arent close at all, we've argued over the smallest things she escalates for absolutely no reason other than she probably feels like she has to, backed by years of things ive never forgotten that were said to me, I dont care how much she loves me or whenever she says, it doesnt change a thing for me.

As for siblings...maybe my older brother but who knows there, same for my younger brother and sister. As with any loss but i know this is so different on those left behind, eventually they'll accept it and move on, in whatever ways they can cope as is life after we die, sure I hope I dont kick off some weird contagion but I don't deny that suicide has a profound impact on families. But I never signed any contract agreeing to be here for x number of years. So I didn't sign up for this obligation.

 

[Carcassus]

I will say that it's very difficult to control how others will feel about your death. Writing letters can possibly help, but they still will probably feel a lot of guilt and pain, no matter what you do. I do wish you the best of luck on what you choose to do. I hope you can have as much peace as possible.

I really do wish that the US was much better in terms of mental healthcare. I do see suicide rates growing in the future. It's a very brutal and expensive world we live in today.

Thank you. All the best to you.

 

[NoHorizon]

I think people will be sad, but ultimately they'll be alright. Or at least I'm telling myself that because I can't live just to prevent other people being hurt by my death.

 

[HereUntilApril]

Or at least I'm telling myself that because I can't live just to prevent other people being hurt by my death.

I agree with this statement. I often feel trapped because of this.

 

[UglyLife82]

Your family, friends, or the people closest to you... do you think they could eventually move forward with their lives?

No one would give a fuck, which might actually be a good thing

 

[idiotmother]

My household will be devastated. I have a child who will be beyond devastated. If I wasn't so goddamn sick I would NEVER consider this. I cry just thinking about it. Unfortunately, the damage has been done and it's exhausting staying alive with a broken brain/body. I really wish to stay alive , but I'm suffering so much in this tortured body. All form psych meds and my own stupidity. I legitimately believe I have been cursed and there's something evil attached to me causing me to have made the decisions that brought me to this breaking point. My child is so, so sweet, she didn't deserve this. None of my family deserved this, I didn't deserve it either.

 

[MissAbyss]

My mother probably won't get over this, given her mental state and age. Not that she'll grieve for me as a person she has lost, she never cared about that, but rather the inconvenience of the whole situation. Like what others probably would think of it or maybe even would blame her.

It won't come as a surprise to the other family members. They know that they are one of the causes as well, so it will probably be a relief for them and they will get on with life.

 

[_Gollum_]

I don't think my dad would be able to cope, despite the fact that since I left home 6 years ago, he's the person I talk to the least and who knows the least about my life. He had me when he was in his 50s so by now he's already quite old -- and coping very badly with his current sad life, which he destroyed with his own two hands. One of my brothers would also be hit quite hard, as we are in some ways "best friends," but with him I think he would eventually move on and go on to live a fulfilling, satisfying life, especially since I'll be leaving behind a significant inheritance.

 

[FuneralCry]

It doesn't matter everyone will die anyway, all will be gone and forgotten no matter what in non-existence and anyway if people are so against loss then they shouldn't impose this existence in the first place, they are the ones causing others to die, I'd never wish for any of this, I wish I never suffered more than anything, I wish I could erase this existence so it's like I never suffered at all.

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

They've survived worse.

Do I think my death would be devastating to those I value most? Yes, and that's why I didn't wind up driving my car into a concrete pillar today.

If I did die, would they recover eventually? They'd never be the same, but they would, ultimately, survive. They have each other. I have a good family. I'm trying not to do anything that would cause them significant trauma, but if I did, there's peace in that they have each other to help them cope.

 

[ChamberOfEchoes]

I don't know, it's a thought that often troubles me.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Yes, they'll be fine. I have no doubt of that, and often feel I'm in the way of their natural growth and development. My kids are adults and benefit from me financially but they would be better off without me. My wife hates me and would enjoy the peace, although she would suffer financially. But yeah, I'm just in the way, old and useless.

 

[Lyn]

They won't. And most probably would follow me. That's the reason why I'm still trying...to survive. The feeling of guilt is to strong sometimes.