Do you think there's any hope for me?

[Mint Floss]

Made a post like this before (sorry)

Basically I've never had any real interaction with general society. I've never solved a single problem I've had or gotten through anything. Can't drive. 20, so too old for college. Completely mentally incapable of everything. Zero control over my life. Zero skills or talents. Likely irrevocably mentally broken, though I've never really seen treatment so I have no way of knowing for sure (don't have any kind of access before you suggest). No one likes me, everyone is waiting to just die already.

Is there any hope for me getting better? I don't think there is...

 

[violetforever]

Basically I've never had any real interaction with general society.

how is that possible? this sounds like abusive parenting and sheltering.

Can't drive. 20, so too old for college.

i'm 24 and just only got my permit last year and still practicing for my license. i'm finishing up college. people start or go back to college all the time at any age too.

so yes i do think there could be hope for you. i don't blame you at all or anyone else on here for feeling hopeless though. i believe you when you say you feel mentally broken because of what you've wrote.

 

[Mint Floss]

how is that possible? this sounds like abusive parenting and sheltering.

i'm 24 and just only got my permit last year and still practicing for my license. i'm finishing up college. people start or go back to college all the time at any age too.

so yes i do think there could be hope for you. i don't blame you at all or anyone else on here for feeling hopeless though. i believe you when you say you feel mentally broken because of what you've wrote.

I mean, the college thing is more so that I've never really had any normal experiences with people my age, I was really banking on it for college but I'm too dumb to graduate high school and now I'll be too old and won't fit in with anyone and no one will talk to me.

I don't even know where to begin fixing my life it all feels impossible

 

[LastNite]

Made a post like this before (sorry)

Basically I've never had any real interaction with general society. I've never solved a single problem I've had or gotten through anything. Can't drive. 20, so too old for college. Completely mentally incapable of everything. Zero control over my life. Zero skills or talents. Likely irrevocably mentally broken, though I've never really seen treatment so I have no way of knowing for sure (don't have any kind of access before you suggest). No one likes me, everyone is waiting to just die already.

Is there any hope for me getting better? I don't think there is...

Im in the same place idk about ur exact situation but for everyone there is hope. It's just not earned that easily. You'll go through times that will make you feel like shit to get to where you'd feel comfortable in life. Thats just how it is sadly.

For education get GED if youre unable to get a diploma. I myself plan on getting one as well. I dropped out at 16 when I was in 11th grade after I tried to kms and ended up feeling so bad that I couldnt go there anymore. I plan to get a job soon when I get my license. It isnt really hard to drive. You just need to know how to steer and how gas to give as you drive same with braking.

I want to get into HVAC. I got no experience but I looked up how to get into that line of work. It pays fine at first but will pay better the more you work. Idc much about the pay as long as it pays enough to live nice. Theres a certificate you that you get for it which takes like a year but Im willing to go thru with it. Seems fun.

People who work in those jobs like construction and all of the hands on work dont need much education if thats what worries you. You can definitely make it. I wish you the best.

 

[katara]

I mean, the college thing is more so that I've never really had any normal experiences with people my age, I was really banking on it for college but I'm too dumb to graduate high school and now I'll be too old and won't fit in with anyone and no one will talk to me.

I don't even know where to begin fixing my life it all feels impossible

Similar position here, didn't graduate high school, can't afford a college, plus have no friends. And I don't have any family members to reach out to anymore.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I mean, the college thing is more so that I've never really had any normal experiences with people my age, I was really banking on it for college but I'm too dumb to graduate high school and now I'll be too old and won't fit in with anyone and no one will talk to me.

I don't even know where to begin fixing my life it all feels impossible

There are a surprising amount of mature students these days. I was 28 when I returned to uni. 10 years older than most people there. I was so nervous but then, there were at least 5 of us who were older. We did tend to gravitate towards one another but, I was lucky in that it was a friendly class. We mostly all got on and respected one another. Part of that's luck though.

But, I don't think all things are off limits if you want them enough and are willing to work for them. I actually kind of wish I'd studdied an apprenticeship. I think a job with real life work experience would probably be a good way in to working. It's a real challenge sometimes after leaving college. I'd be considering that route at your age I think.

 

[violetforever]

I mean, the college thing is more so that I've never really had any normal experiences with people my age, I was really banking on it for college but I'm too dumb to graduate high school and now I'll be too old and won't fit in with anyone and no one will talk to me.

I don't even know where to begin fixing my life it all feels impossible

i skipped over the high school part last night when reading and replying. GED would probably be ur best bet like someone else said. that's where u should begin. idk ur situation but i'm sorry ur family seems either careless or absent to ur development into adulthood and ur future. don't be so hard on urself.

 

[Dejected 55]

College was not for me, but it took me a few years of being in college to fully realize it... but 20 isn't "too old" at all IF you waned to go and had a field of study you wanted to pursue there.

You can make a good life for yourself without college, though... if you are willing to work at it and acquire skills that make you useful to others.

I haven't figured out the answers to socializing, except to realize that most people don't really want sincere meaningful friendships or relationships beyond what they can leverage for themselves to get what they need in the moment. It sucks, but it is too repeatable and observable to see who gets ahead in society and how little they value human connection... so I can't help you on the social front, but if you wanted to work or go to school or whatever, you're still VERY young and have lots of time to pursue a successful path if you want.