Do you consider yourself to be a good person?

[iamveryoriginal]

Where would you place yourself in accordance with your own moral compass

 

[Arvayn]

I am neither good nor evil. I do not believe these labels apply to anything. If we are to use a provisional definition of good as selflessness and evil as selfishness, I am very evil. If good is kindness and evil is hostility, I am quite good. Etc.

 

[overmorrow]

the influence i have on people is absolutely terrible and I'm a disgusting individual with 0 possibility of recovering or having a decent future therefore i should minimize my interactions with people to avoid damaging them

 

[iamveryoriginal]

I am neither good nor evil. I do not believe these labels apply to anything. If we are to use a provisional definition of good as selflessness and evil as selfishness, I am very evil. If good is kindness and evil is hostility, I am quite good. Etc.

I agree that defining objective moral standarts is like borderline impossible, but do you have your own subjective idea of what makes a person good or bad rather then say a provisional one? Would you say its possible for you to rate yourself the same way you personally would another person

 

[Arvayn]

I agree that defining objective moral standarts is like borderline impossible, but do you have your own subjective idea of what makes a person good or bad rather then say a provisional one? Would you say its possible for you to rate yourself the same way you personally would another person

No. I do not think about it or consider it, and I never cared to form one.
It's definitely not possible for me to impartially rate both myself and someone else, generally speaking. I know myself perfectly, whereas I can only know the other person so well; that alone is damning.

FYI, my vote was Definitely not.

 

[JustBe]

I'd say yes, probably. I never intentionally hurt anyone. I probably never sacrificed someone's life, hope or whatever for a personal gain.
However, I've always been a burden to everyone. It seems like I'm particularly stupid, even ChatGPT 4o which is one of the model with the most serendipity said reading me that I was bottom-35% on emotional intelligence, meaning that even if a pleasing language model tells me that, I'm probably bottom-5% - Gemini and Claude came to those results more or less.
The result is that people usually don't like hanging out with me. Don't like working with me because I'm making lots of mistakes.
People even come to hate me or just avoid me.

It is not intentional to me, but people might consider I'm a lazy, stupid or that I lack tact or something else. I've seen many therapist, one of them thought I had anti-social behavior lol. Maybe I'm a psychopath doing terrible stuff but then I'm not even aware of it.

Moreover, I believe I have a strong sense or morality and honor. So yeah I don't think I'm a bad guy. But that's what everyone says right?

 

[iamveryoriginal]

I'd say yes, probably. I never intentionally hurt anyone. I probably never sacrificed someone's life, hope or whatever for a personal gain.
However, I've always been a burden to everyone. It seems like I'm particularly stupid, even ChatGPT 4o which is one of the model with the most serendipity said reading me that I was bottom-35% on emotional intelligence, meaning that even if a pleasing language model tells me that, I'm probably bottom-5% - Gemini and Claude came to those results more or less.
The result is that people usually don't like hanging out with me. Don't like working with me because I'm making lots of mistakes.
People even come to hate me or just avoid me.

It is not intentional to me, but people might consider I'm a lazy, stupid or that I lack tact or something else. I've seen many therapist, one of them thought I had anti-social behavior lol. Maybe I'm a psychopath doing terrible stuff but then I'm not even aware of it.

Moreover, I believe I have a strong sense or morality and honor. So yeah I don't think I'm a bad guy. But that's what everyone says right?

Based on the information here (society being society and a diagnosis from literal chatgpt lol) i would not assume you are a psycopath. Its entirely possible to be antisocial and not accepted and not be a terrible person. Ive been in that situation as well Id say. That being said I don't know the full extent of your struggles so Im sorry if this reads like Im dismissing something severe

 

[NameOfAction]

I was raised to be as humble as possible, with the idea that I am an inconvenience at best, a straight up devil at worst.

It's hard to beat such intrinsic beliefs about self. So I am definitely not a good person. I cannot count myself as good, because that would be against everything I've been raised to believe and everything I am

I'd like to think that I'm at least not evil or bad, but it seems like something an evil person would believe

 

[vascomorrow]

the influence i have on people is absolutely terrible and I'm a disgusting individual with 0 possibility of recovering or having a decent future therefore i should minimize my interactions with people to avoid damaging them

I feel like you could have a positive impact on me for some reason..

 

[asgoodasdead]

I will unfortunately say that I am most definitely not a good person in any way shape or form. I have hurt so many people and lied for the dumbest stuff. Like, really, really bad stuff that I would take to my grave.

Not only that, I just had an argument with my partner. I'm such a bad person.

 

[UserFromNowhere]

Functionally, I know I'm not a bad person. I've done some bad things in my life, I've also done good, neither makes me a bad or a good person. It makes me human. I used to always believe I was a bad person, I used to believe it was better that I was a bad person, someone who was willing to do things for good without having to care for any fundamental moral truth behind their actions or words. Now, I can't stop myself from thinking the bad in my life outweighs the good, and it's a reason I wish to die.

 

[doomedbynarrative]

In think I'm pretty okay but I've definitely messed up multiple times in life and the thoughts I sometimes think when I've been hurt or am angry are not always kind. I think that's about average for most people. I still love people and that's what matters I think.

 

[overmorrow]

I feel like you could have a positive impact on me for some reason..

yea maybe, but how much can that help, in a long term future? it's not like i can change anyone's life, im nothing

 

[ppyppyppy]

I'm not entirely terrible or good. Did bad things like everyone else, did good things like everyone else, but none of my bad deeds were entirely evil i.e never harmed others on purpose.

 

[vascomorrow]

yea maybe, but how much can that help, in a long term future? it's not like i can change anyone's life, im nothing

We ended our name the same with "morrow". Somehow that meant something to me..

yea maybe, but how much can that help, in a long term future? it's not like i can change anyone's life, im nothing

Where are you from? I am also nothing

 

[SmigSauer]

I act polite to others but I limit my interaction with them as much as I can, lest I show my true feelings to them. I make people think I am a normal empathetic person but the reality is that I don't care about anybody.

 

[SleeplessDreamer]

Although I never really liked myself, I'd always try to do as much as I could for those I knew. Never worked out though, genuinely can't think of anyone I knew or still know that has been more overall positively impacted by having me in their life in the end. I've always had a bit of murphy's law following me around and I used to try and balance it out, but I can't be bothered anymore, I know how it's gonna end anyways. Everyone is pretty much gone already and the only reason why I'm still here is that the last person putting up with me said that if I go they go too. They're genuinely one of the sweetest people you could ever meet and they were dealt such a shitty hand, I at least wanna see something turn around for them. Maybe there's a little something left in me somewhere, it'd be nice to see them have something turn around for once before I catch my ride.

 

[itsgone2]

I've done far more bad than good, especially the last 20 years. I was better when following my religion, trying to be humble. I turned and I don't know why. Fundamentally a bad person I guess

 

[hitagi-crab]

while I wouldn't say I'm someone that does good deeds or works to improve the world, I think that most people who know me would say I'm a decent enough person. however, my internal feelings towards the people around me often very resentful and reactive, and when I feel fearful of abandonment I find myself often fantasizing about hurting my friends in really vicious ways. I've acted out in that way in the past and ended up seriously hurting people I really loved. sometimes I think that I hate every person I know, and that my care towards them is mostly selfish. on top of that, there are other things in me deep down that I feel simply disqualify me from being a good person.

 

[GodzillasBiggestFan]

im good as i can be and trying my best i always want to help people, make them happy. i never want to hurt anyone, if i say something that upsets someone i feel really bad about it, and try to avoid saying that again, and never do it on purpose. i try to avoid lying and feel really bad if i do. but i can be lazy/constantly so low energy that i get nothing done and always fall behind which makes me hard to live/work with. i am extremly anxious and sad and cause worry for those around me. i think i often come across as annoying and can struggle to be social. i think i am good but i think many are better.

 

[primadonna_]

Definitely not. I live with antisocial personality disorder, and i'm a little farther on the spectrum so I was recognized as being on some sort of psychopathy spectrum but i'm pretty sure it's not a proper medical term so when I talk about my personality disorder I usually just use sociopath. But I definitely agree with that diagnosis, i've definitely caused more harm than good and I really don't have any deep relationships with anyone, also taking into account how i'll probably never regret anything I've done or will do. But honestly the quality of my personality or what kind of person I am doesn't concern me or bother me at all or cause any internal conflict, but I guess that can also be considered a flaw. Good news is on the outside I do present pretty normal and after years of treatment i'm not going around just outright doing bad things, but still not being able to feel things like guilt, emotional connection with others or regret for my actions, I wouldn't consider myself a role model.

omfg this makes me sound so edgy i promise im not

 

[emptymiku]

absolutely not

 

[no mas]

Although I never really liked myself, I'd always try to do as much as I could for those I knew. Never worked out though, genuinely can't think of anyone I knew or still know that has been more overall positively impacted by having me in their life in the end. I've always had a bit of murphy's law following me around and I used to try and balance it out, but I can't be bothered anymore, I know how it's gonna end anyways. Everyone is pretty much gone already and the only reason why I'm still here is that the last person putting up with me said that if I go they go too. They're genuinely one of the sweetest people you could ever meet and they were dealt such a shitty hand, I at least wanna see something turn around for them. Maybe there's a little something left in me somewhere, it'd be nice to see them have something turn around for once before I catch my

Clearly you have good intent and tried doing positive things without malice. In my book that makes you a good person. I sense how critically hard you've been on yourself. I have also been overly crical. Most people are very fickle, self-centered and moderately cold. It's really hard to please those types, so why beat yourself up over it? With the love and desire in your heart you will no doubt help facilitate or at least bear witness to that turn around for your dear friend. Hopefully that will invoke a new spirit of life and purpose within you.

 

[sweet tooth]

Absolutely NOT. I want to get better, but most people would prefer it if I'd just ctb as soon as possible. At least that's what I've been told over and over again. Paraphilic habits kinda do that to a person, even if I've hurt no one directly nor plan on it. I disgust myself. No amount of reason can justify my thoughts. I can't unsee what I have seen or escape what I have said. I feel like even with the amount of regret that I have, I am still going to be irredeemable therefore making me an undoubtedly awful person.

 

[SASU-KE]

Definitely not. I live with antisocial personality disorder, and i'm a little farther on the spectrum so I was recognized as being on some sort of psychopathy spectrum but i'm pretty sure it's not a proper medical term so when I talk about my personality disorder I usually just use sociopath.

omfg this makes me sound so edgy i promise im not

You're certainly killing it today with these posts,I chuckled quite a bit.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Not sure.

...Most days I try to be "good" in the sense of helping others when possible, and being empathetic or sympathetic, but sometimes it gets difficult.

If another person does something that upsets me they usually get the benefit of the doubt; for example: if a stranger is unfriendly I will think that they are just having a rough day, and not consider them malicious, but if the situation is reversed (so I am the one who is unfriendly in any way) the other party will oftentimes assume the worst about me - "Oh he's so cold! He's stuck up! He didn't even look at me when I walked past him... does he think he's better than me?!?"

...this is so infuriating! I try to understand others, but they do not try to understand me or what I am going through; this seriously affects my outlook when in public spaces, and some days I will stop being "good" or helpful completely, because I spent the last 6 days previous being drained of all positive mental or emotional energy attempting to care for others when they did not do the same. Then I feel guilty for feeling negative, angry and hateful, and circle around to the beginning.

Am I good person with a misanthropic streak? Or maybe a misanthropist with a sliver of good? Maybe I am just a mess.

 

[Aether_Mourner]

Yes