do you believe you will ever find someone that loves you?

[Weightoftheworld]

I've had people love me, I'm sure there could be another that would. However, I am the one incapable of loving someone because I don't love myself and I can't love anyone else either.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I have. One passed away, and the rest of my relationships I fuck up..scared I'll ruin my current one. With my mental issues (bpd, Asperger's, PTSD, severe depression..to name a few) and my anger issues no one stays with me. Love feels unobtainable.

 

[Heart Shards]

I'm too far gone for love.

 

[anonymousapple]

For me, I THINK I've had people love me before, it's just I have extreme trust issues to the point that I never actually believe when someone says they love me.

It sucks because I'm really empathetic to the point I usually pick up on small things, and later on, if someone is acting just a tiny bit different, I've been able to tell that something is getting them down and I try cheering them up as much as possible. I usually get people attached to me pretty quickly because of my super empathetic side, but things go haywire once they realize it's pretty much helpless getting me to trust anyone.

The reason the trust issues are so bad is because of insecurity. Maybe trust issues alone would be fine and could be worked on, but insecurity added on top, nope

 

[Mr.Mediocre]

no i will never be loved, ive accepted this, what pains me is the fact that everyone around me has to rub it in.

 

[catsarecool]

I see myself as too broken to be loved by someone for who I truly am. And it's probably better that way as I don't want to drag other people into this hell.

 

[lotus11]

maybe having a partner will save my life

I feel this too. The whole 'love yourself' 'you don't need someone else' is often bullshit. If I was with someone else it could likely save me...the problem is that unfortunately I am very very picky and just anyone wont do it.

 

[Stavrogin]

No, they will only ever love the idea of me, and I will only ever love the idea of them.

 

[Emily123]

i have many people who love me but I don't love any of them

 

[Pupu]

No. My idea of love is too unrealistic and deranged. It is not possible to find a match, someone who thinks the same, who feels the same and feels towards me. I'm helplessly romantic person who doesn't want to face the reality what "love really is". I rather stick with my childish and twisted thoughts about it and exit than accept we are just animals.

 

[greekyfish10]

if we're talking about a romantic relationship then no, i'm never going to find that. all of the guys in my life have only said hurtful things to me about my appearance and personality and i've never had a single guy say anything otherwise.

 

[BPD Barbie]

No. I can't even love myself so how can I expect someone else to love me? I'm just broken.

 

[SterileMoth]

Not now. I thought I had. But it was all a fucking lie. Just like everyone before that, I was convenient, nothing more. I've been left when something better comes along, or cheated on, I never mattered to a single fucking one of them. I don't think I'll find anyone who will actually love me, actually put in the effort, actually love me as much as I love them. No one else ever has.

 

[LostAllHope7651]

Almost 30yo and I feel so lonely and miserable. Maybe I was meant to die alone. I feel like there's nothing that could possible make my suicide thoughts go away.

I feel you...
Some people meet in school get married have kids and live happy ever after... doesn't work for some of us mind
Im impossible to love according to my ex it would take a Saint to put up with me

 

[SoIntoYou]

Almost 30yo and I feel so lonely and miserable. Maybe I was meant to die alone. I feel like there's nothing that could possible make my suicide thoughts go away.

If you mean will I ever find someone who enjoys having my dick put in them, I'm not sure. I can def see it not happening. If you mean will I ever find someone who genuinely cares about me and my well being, well, I have my family for that. I know it's not the same, but where do you draw the line? Sexual desire and emotional attachment exist separate from each other and some people (most people) who aren't aware of this can get hurt.

 

[Deleted member 18655]

No.

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

no. i've either been too attached or not attached at all. i don't want to hurt people, and i don't want them to hurt me.

 

[BasedGod]

No, its something I've had to accept. I just dont have the face someone could love. Its sad because its the one thing i need to make my own family since i never had one. But it's ok, ive been learning to accept it.
Right now im traveling the country out of my car. Figured going to a job every day is pointless since ill never have someone to support. Gonna see all the sights then head to the pacific ocean and cash out there.

 

[Fear191829218]

Id like to believe that I do find true love before I die, but theres this tiny voice in my head that goes, bro u ugly, how can anyone be interested in you, look at you, say something interesting, not in your head you idiot, to her.. etc etc...
But I still believe lol, I may not be the only fucked up person

 

[mathieu]

I think I could find someone to love me but I don't know if I could love them in return. I don't think I'm capable of romantic love.

 

[waterbottleman]

The only serious girlfriend I've ever had and who was the first love of my life dumped me to get back with her ex boyfriend who raped and hit her before she dated me. That permanently damaged my self esteem and fucked with my mind so much.

I had to pay someone to lose my virginity in my late twenties.

I think the facts/my experiences speak for themselves, how I will never be loved.

Life is a bitch and then you die.

 

[AprilsBlessings]

No and tbh i don't believe in love in general :/

 

[NeedToD]

No. People around me seem either way to fake, selfish or insecure. On top of that, it's difficult to show an interest in others when I can't stand living inside my own head. More than happy to die alone as a recluse.

 

[vacant_n]

I've found people who've loved me and I could probably find that again. You can't tell how deeply fucked up I am just by looking at me. The thing that hurts is watching people realize that the real me doesn't stack up to the version in their heads. Most people lose interest once that happens.

There was one person who I thought accepted me, and I could actually see myself slowly improving while I was with them. It was the first time in my life where I felt like I had my depression and anxiety somewhat under contol. I felt almost normal for a number of years. But I'm too needy and our relationship got fucked up in other ways too. I think that was my one shot at a good life, and I can't see anything else working if that didn't.