Did you ever practice acceptance?

[Xocoyotziin]

Haha, no. I think if you have the power to change your circumstances and can go about doing so ethically you do yourself a disservice when you don't, and the first step towards doing that is acknowledging dissatisfaction instead of suppressing it. I think in some forms acceptance is important, and I guess theoretically if you could accept everything wholeheartedly you would no longer feel any pain, but that's a different process from choosing not to take control of your own life.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I think I was really close to fully accepting that I won't be able to ever be in a romantic relationship but the events of over a month ago gave me so much false hope. Getting a taste of what I'll never be able to have has also made it so much harder to accept it now.

Unless you're talking about accepting that I have to CTB in which case, I've accepted that more than ever.

 

[VivaldiBR]

I think I was really close to fully accepting that I won't be able to ever be in a romantic relationship but the events of over a month ago gave me so much false hope. Getting a taste of what I'll never be able to have has also made it so much harder to accept it now.

Unless you're talking about accepting that I have to CTB in which case, I've accepted that more than ever.

Accept life as itself.

 

[KleinerWolf]

I'm in the wrong forum section lol.
Acceptance is one of my most hated words next to "China"

 

[Disappointered]

I am not entirely sure I understand. So for instance, if some stranger is pushing his dick in my mouth should I accept it? Where do we precisely draw the line as to what things we are allowed not to accept?

It is worth checking if the therapist has a space in it, haha.

LOL

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Accept life as itself.

Sorry, what does that mean exactly? Do you mean accepting that life is pointless? Or that the very concept of life itself is what's causing my suffering by making me feel miserable for creating new life in which case then yeah, I guess I already accepted It

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I'm in the wrong forum section lol.
Acceptance is one of my most hated words next to "China"

Mindfulness is one of my most hated words.

 

[VivaldiBR]

Sorry, what does that mean exactly? Do you mean accepting that life is pointless? Or that the very concept of life itself is what's causing my suffering by making me feel miserable for creating new life in which case then yeah, I guess I already accepted It

Accept life with its ups and downs. With the circunstances you have at the present moment.

Read all posts and im sure you will understand.

I'm in the wrong forum section lol.
Acceptance is one of my most hated words next to "China"

Mine is USA and acceptance as well cause i cant practice yet.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Accept life with its ups and downs. With the circunstances you have at the present moment.

Hmm, well I accept that the way my life is right now, in spite of the ups and downs, the only solution that prevents further suffering for me and the people around me is to die. Does that count?

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

Hmm, well I accept that the way my life is right now, in spite of the ups and downs, the only solution that prevents further suffering for me and the people around me is to die. Does that count?

Yes. I accept that the only thing that's going to stop me from feeling suicidal all the time is actual death.

 

[VivaldiBR]

Sorry. That was not I meant. But i know you already understood the subject of the threat.

Despite that, I dont judge you at all. Its your vision at the present time and i respect that. Humbly, i apologize if this post offended you guys in way.

 

[Sinkinshyp]

I know in order to move forward and be the mother my younger son needs- I must accept my older son is gone and is not coming back. I didn't think about that until I read this thread. I had to think, and after 3 years I now know my son is never coming home. He isn't out of town working, he isn't on vacation and the cars I hear that sound like his and make my heart race- is not him. I've begged God please I'm so sorry for whatever I did to deserve loosing my son, please give my son back. I've begged my son please come back I will quit smoking. As much as it hurts me right now, I have to accept he is gone and never coming home. This has hit me on a deeply emotional level. It's time to accept Joes never coming home and I must do whatever I can to try to live for my younger son.

 

[VivaldiBR]

Some ppl understood, others not. What can I do?

I only brought a commom therapy subject to hear from people here who have tried this practice and how did go.

I honestly can't even accept my current life. I'm not demading anyone to accept anything.

But I dont need to explain anything either. This is the recovery section. Thats enough.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Yeah, I don't think I really understand even after reading all that but I get what you were trying to do at least. I never meant any hard feelings either so I'm sorry if it came across that way.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Mindfulness is one of my most hated words.

I wholeheartedly agree with that, despite the way my previous comments could be interpreted. I hate the whole preachy attitude which basically says 'ignore all the bad stuff in the future and cheer up.' Also, being in the moment is useless if your present moment is shit, especially if you are in unrelenting physical pain.
However, I did kind of find myself 'in the moment' the other day in the woods and it was enjoyable. I wasn't trying to though, maybe that's why it was so good. And it did all go south when I got back and had to deal with other shit. Maybe it's not something you can actually make happen but something that happens to you when/if you are ready. It's having it pushed on me as some kind of magical solution that pisses me off.

 

[woxihuanni]

I wholeheartedly agree with that, despite the way my previous comments could be interpreted. I hate the whole preachy attitude which basically says 'ignore all the bad stuff in the future and cheer up.' Also, being in the moment is useless if your present moment is shit, especially if you are in unrelenting physical pain.
However, I did kind of find myself 'in the moment' the other day in the woods and it was enjoyable. I wasn't trying to though, maybe that's why it was so good. And it did all go south when I got back and had to deal with other shit. Maybe it's not something you can actually make happen but something that happens to you when/if you are ready. It's having it pushed on me as some kind of magical solution that pisses me off.

Yeah all the bs they preach is things that can and should only happen naturally. Acceptance? If you are not psychotic, you will be forced to accept reality anyway. Without the mystical vibes or gaslighted grateful stockholm syndrome, but realistically.

 

[LittleJem]

I'm not angry with anything if that is what acceptance means? I thikn it takes time to come to terms with life changes and miserable ones - such as I now consider myself disabled and that took time to accept and get used to it. I had to accept my marriage ended. I have ended up having to accept that I've been bullied for six months at work. And now that they are likely to make me redundant. It's not really a choice to accept - it is more that there is no choice not to accept...

 

[KleinerWolf]

Sorry. That was not I meant. But i know you already understood the subject of the threat.

Despite that, I dont judge you at all. Its your vision at the present time and i respect that. Humbly, i apologize if this post offended you guys in way.

you are all good mate.
I know acceptance is important.
It certainly does help people at times.

Maybe oneday right, maybe situations get better somehow and we'll compromise and just accept it and live happily ever after :D

 

[Going Home]

"you have to work your acceptance. You must accept life as it presents itself to you now"

Therapeutic common sense says that we must accept things as they are at the present moment, because that is how life is. We can try to change a bad situation, but we must accept our current conditions even if they are uncomfortable.

What do you think of these thoughts? Do you practice acceptance?
Did it work for you?

It depends on what I am going through. If someone does something like falsifying documents to get me into a jam I can try to destroy those documents. I won't accept that.

If I live in a shitty environment surrounded by assholes with nowhere else to go I might have to practice acceptance until I can move.