Comfort in misery

[weishenme]

Do u also feel comfort in misery? I mean is the only thing I have known for a while and it has become like my my safe space, and I kinda like it now idk if that messed up but yeah

 

[LastNite]

All normal. You get used to it. Plenty of people want to get out of their miserable situation but get too scared because that is not something that theyre comfortable with.

 

[Sheller]

Yes, I like misery before, even find misery life positively....Because it could give me high stimulation. Later, when my life change better, I want to keep away misery

 

[democritusjunior]

Yes, it's certainly normal. It's the people with profound sensitivity to misery, in fact, that are considered mentally ill.

 

[Misanthrope0000]

Almost everyone ik find comfort in misery, it's like a coping mechanism for them, totally normal, if anything I'd argue it's better than letting misery get to you.

I'm the opposite, misery made me more and more suicidal and never found comfort in it,

 

[Forever Sleep]

For a few reasons. For one, there's more consistency. Not the emotional highs of having hope/ briefly feeling happy and then, crashing back down. A pessimistic outlook sometimes prepares me for the worst case scenario happening.

It's also been generally less challenging. In order to be positive/ optimistic in life, I would have had to keep stepping out of my comfort zone. In terms of my actions. In terms of how I presented to other people. It would have meant pretending to be more confident than I was. Which, may have served me better sometimes. It could easily also have put me in a situation way out of my depth though. In which case- failing at that level would have been more catastrophic to my character.

Way back in my 20's, I read a whole bunch of self help books but- even back then, I felt like having to challenge my mindset each time it was negative would be such a headache. I quickly realised I didn't want to change enough for that. So for me- it's partly been laziness.

 

[weishenme]

Sometimes I wished I didn't have to find comfort in misery, ik that I'm able of things but I just don't do cs im comfortable in this situation. And I have lost a lot of people cs of it, cs im not capable of anything at all to sustain a friendship or wtv cs ik the problem is me when in all my relationships Im not close enough and I'm mad that I'm mad for not being that close. I'm just mad everyday of my day, I wish I wasn't, I wish I was able to truly know how to have a friend instead of school friends.

 

[Autumn Blaze]

Do u also feel comfort in misery? I mean is the only thing I have known for a while and it has become like my my safe space, and I kinda like it now idk if that messed up but yeah

I feel comfort in misery sometimes. I believe things can get better for me and my friends a lot but other times it's really dire and I don't know why we're all here.
When my life changes (and it has before) and things are OK, I wanna stay away from the misery. But I want to be attentive to my friends. Real delicate balance if you ask me, to maintain that. It's something alright!