can't find friends... i miss my old friends

[GASLIGHTER7000]

i lost all my friends awhile back. i know they still kind of care about me, but i also know we will probably never have the same friendship. its really hard for me, it's been months since we all stopped talking and i still have dreams about them talking to me how we did before a lot. i have a boyfriend and i love him a lot, but we often have arguments and end up not talking for awhile. it's usually then when i feel really lonely... my old friends often excluded me from things, and to be honest i didn't really fit in with them well. but at least they accepted me and let me hang out with them. i hate being in my room all day, and i hate being unable to go out in public because i feel embarrassed being alone. even talking to people online, i find the conversation dies down eventually. i hate going through everyday alone.

 

[Chronical_Suicidal]

Finding new friends can be very difficult for some, and seeing old ones turning into strangers is heartbreaking - here's the reason I gave up on making new connections irl, they demand much effort and cause trouble sooner or later.

In your case, the solutions, if you're searching for them, are seek for your old friends, accepting the possibility they ignore you, and try to expose yourself more to others, engaging on small talks (the weather, the traffic, the work/school) to create new bonds.

However, if you've already chosen the path of social isolation, move on knowing the consequences: loneliness will continue being your best friend.

 

[GASLIGHTER7000]

Finding new friends can be very difficult for some, and seeing old ones turning into strangers is heartbreaking - here's the reason I gave up on making new connections irl, they demand much effort and cause trouble sooner or later.

In your case, the solutions, if you're searching for them, are seek for your old friends, accepting the possibility they ignore you, and try to expose yourself more to others, engaging on small talks (the weather, the traffic, the work/school) to create new bonds.

However, if you've already chosen the path of social isolation, move on knowing the consequences: loneliness will continue being your best friend.

it is really difficult for sure... to be honest i've entirely given up on interacting with new people irl. when i go to university everyday, i get extremely anxious and self conscious if i'm ever in a situation where i have to talk to anyone. i'm really socially anxious- especially irl but even online i am.

being with my old friends is kinda out of the question because they no longer want to be friends with me and have made that pretty clear... :( i wish i wasn't so socially anxious, i'm jealous of people who can appear as normal in front of new people. i don't know what it is about me, but i seem to put people off.

i guess social isolation it is :D

 

[chudcell]

it is really difficult for sure... to be honest i've entirely given up on interacting with new people irl. when i go to university everyday, i get extremely anxious and self conscious if i'm ever in a situation where i have to talk to anyone. i'm really socially anxious- especially irl but even online i am.

being with my old friends is kinda out of the question because they no longer want to be friends with me and have made that pretty clear... :( i wish i wasn't so socially anxious, i'm jealous of people who can appear as normal in front of new people. i don't know what it is about me, but i seem to put people off.

i guess social isolation it is :D

I got social anxiety too, drugs and alcohol have helped me to overcome this, but im currently sober right now. Im afraid its like this for neurodivergent people and it sucks that many people dont seem to understand it

 

[GASLIGHTER7000]

I got social anxiety too, drugs and alcohol have helped me to overcome this, but im currently sober right now. Im afraid its like this for neurodivergent people and it sucks that many people dont seem to understand it

thats funny cuz drugs did the opposite effect for me lol. i was addicted to weed for a years and it made me more anxious than i was before. it's hard for me to think straight and i have really bad brain fog. for awhile, drugs did help me with socialization but the consequences weren't worth it at all:(

yeah... i feel like the world isn't meant for the mentally ill sometimes :( i feel like im destined to spend my life suffering ...

 

[chudcell]

thats funny cuz drugs did the opposite effect for me lol. i was addicted to weed for a years and it made me more anxious than i was before. it's hard for me to think straight and i have really bad brain fog. for awhile, drugs did help me with socialization but the consequences weren't worth it at all:(

yeah... i feel like the world isn't meant for the mentally ill sometimes :( i feel like im destined to spend my life suffering ...

Im not talking about weed. Harder stuff