Discussion Cancelling therapy sessions/any regular appointments after death

[orpheus_]

I really want to leave everything sorted out and I was thinking, if I should somehow take care of my therapist getting the info that I will not come to the sessions anymore. I just don't want to leave anyone confused and I know that simply disappearing would hint her to know what happened, and I prefer her not to know that I CTBd. I know it's "her job" but I still care to cause as little chaos as possible.

I don't want to cancel everything while I'm still alive because I don't know when I will proceed. I have a strong SI which only goes away sometimes randomly and I want to be able one of those occasions as quickly as possible. And while going to therapy doesn't help that much, it still makes life a bit less miserable for me because I can at least talk to someone.

I was thinking about a timed email but I just realized that I do not have her personal email address, only the phone number.

How do you approach this? Of course this is a question for people who also do long-term therapy (or some other "appointment" thing that happens regularly and you want to cancel it AFTER you die) and do not want to leave a mess behind. I understand that not everyone has the will or energy to do it. I just already caused enough problems while alive.

 

[UserFromNowhere]

I know saying this won't be helpful, but it's an unavoidable matter of fact that your therapist will be contacted by the police or investigators after a suicide as part of the investigation.

 

[orpheus_]

I know saying this won't be helpful, but it's an unavoidable matter of fact that your therapist will be contacted by the police or investigators after a suicide as part of the investigation.

Not necessarily. In my country it doesn't happen, unless there's strong evidence that the therapist knew that person was in danger and did nothing. Generally most therapist do not get drawn into it though

 

[madwoman]

To be honest, I have no more appts with any provider because I didn't want to make anymore bc of both this reason, bc I don't like going, bc I don't want more bad health news, etc. I just quit therapy bc I don't want them to find out or realize I ctb and have it affect them in anyway mentally.

My thought process is, right now I'm kind of taking a break and trying to enjoy the rest of the year bc I decided I don't want to do it and ruin Christmas for anyone & once that's over, I'll be back on planning more. Sooo I figured if for some miracle I change my mind and want to really give life another go, I can always make appointments again. I left it all open ended - like I just said I need a break right now. And I can always make an appt if I feel it's needed. Right now, since therapy is helpful, you should keep going and if you decide to take a break, it does not mean you can't the book another appointment if needed.

But bc I just also learned how an investigation has to happen and they'll contact everyone, I need to figure that out more in hopes they don't contact my therapist so I don't have thoughts on that right now.

Also, for other kind of appts, I mean if you do CTB you'll just be a no show and they may or may not ever find out why you no showed. Happens all the time for various reasons.