LasttoKnow
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- Jan 5, 2019
- 13
Well, this is probably going to get me kicked from this site, but since you're asking about a child you'll be leaving behind, I have some real world experience to put down.
I had a friend who killed herself. She was 27, bipolar (among some other things she suffered) and had a 9 year old son. She went off to a hotel one day, and ended her life.
His life has pretty much been hell since. While your child's age will make for some key differences from what happened to him, overall affects are hard to say. It took him a couple years to understand what had really happened, that mommy wasn't just 'gone'. During that time he lived with his father, who had been divorced from his mother. Things went about as you'd expect from that, and after I think it was 2 years, he was moved to grandparents. During time there, paperwork problems put him in foster care on and off. This whole section I'd guess won't be a direct problem for your child, but being a minor, their living place isn't going to be as stable as you may think.
A few years later when he actually understood that mommy killed herself is when things went to hell. His behavior in school became horrible and was held back, there were a lot of problems at home, it's like what you'd expect form a TV show.
He's 16 now and tried to kill himself this year.
Anyone here who used to be on a google group 'asm' for this might have known 'LAV123', but probably didn't know she had a son. There is absolutely no predicting how badly they will take it and how it will affect their lives forever.
I had a friend who killed herself. She was 27, bipolar (among some other things she suffered) and had a 9 year old son. She went off to a hotel one day, and ended her life.
His life has pretty much been hell since. While your child's age will make for some key differences from what happened to him, overall affects are hard to say. It took him a couple years to understand what had really happened, that mommy wasn't just 'gone'. During that time he lived with his father, who had been divorced from his mother. Things went about as you'd expect from that, and after I think it was 2 years, he was moved to grandparents. During time there, paperwork problems put him in foster care on and off. This whole section I'd guess won't be a direct problem for your child, but being a minor, their living place isn't going to be as stable as you may think.
A few years later when he actually understood that mommy killed herself is when things went to hell. His behavior in school became horrible and was held back, there were a lot of problems at home, it's like what you'd expect form a TV show.
He's 16 now and tried to kill himself this year.
Anyone here who used to be on a google group 'asm' for this might have known 'LAV123', but probably didn't know she had a son. There is absolutely no predicting how badly they will take it and how it will affect their lives forever.