As a woman I completely understand you. I just got broken up with. I'm trying to get out there and find a guy I like. I'm on tinder and have a ton of matches, but barely talk to anyone. I think my plan will be to ctb when I'm 28 if things don't change. I've lived most of my life friendless and now dealing with the want for a partner is too much. I'm tired. Just woke up from a dream about my ex. I've also had a dream about a girl I was in 'love' with due to limerence.
@usernamesarehard Enoronmous Virtual hug. Being single gets so much harder as you get older. Ageing parents, and people you grew up with getting married and building their own families.
There is no support for single people government policies are always targeted for couples and people with kids. When I read advice online to cope with being single its so unhelpful with NO practical coping strategies whereas advice for couples is always helpful because majority can relete to couples problems and can give better advice and solutions.
I dont want to deal with this for another 10 years. For me at 28 being single all my life feels like a lifetime.
Completely understand this. It resonates with me so much. Most of my relationships ended because I don't want kids and the people around me are in far far different relationships than what fairy tales like to portray
@davidtorez I am on the antinatalist spectrum because I do believe bringing children into this world is exposing a generation to future suffering. The only way suffering can end is everyone stops reproducing. Realistically that will never happen.
Child free people do have it hard with dating.
I wish I had the strength and energy to turn into a hermit. I'm still married to an alcoholic and the things he says and does make me wish to be single. Today he stood me up on our anniversary to go get hammered instead. At least we've always agreed to not having children! But, being in a relationship isn't always what's best for a person. I loved living by myself and if I could afford to I would. Other than death, it would be the most peacefulness I could have in this world.
@ConstantPain Virtual hug
You deserved so much better. Living with a monster is not living.
As a married man, mine isn't worth living either. Single or married. this time line is hell as people are demons, no one gives a damn about the lonely or depressed. expect to go through it alone and never experience the joy or happiness the lucky get to achieve. Those people reach out and get the help needed. the rest of us are in our heads too much just wishing for the mercy to be erased from this hell hole of a existence.
@ForeverLonely82 Society tells you to reach out when you are depressed but the minute you do everyone treats you like an inconvenience to their normal lives.
people underestimate just how much the mental torture of being alone can put one person through. i relate, a lot. everything nice and fun feels hollow because im the only person enjoying it. it's meaningless. all of it. there's no joy for me if i can't share it with someone i deeply care about. having a real connection means the world to me but im no position to seek it out anymore or sustain it.
@encore I have had life experiences most people never get to have in their lifetimes.
At 25 years old in January 2023 I saw the most beautiful sunrise during a flight. I woke up to go to the toliet and I saw the most beautiful sunset from the plane window. I looked on the screen on the plane seat and the plane was flying through Khartoum which is captial of Sudan.
At 27 years old last year I was in Malta and spent my afternoon swimming in the Mediterranean sea during a day trip to Cumo Bay. So much more I have seen and done.
Still I crave for a man to love me and want me. I go out to places and travel but nowadays none of it gives me pleasure because I want a relationship now more than anything. Its left an enormous hole which can no longer be filled.
Holy crap did I write this myself? I am too a single woman. My mother and aunt are my ROCKS and the only people I am living for. Once they are gone I will honestly have nothing. No one to text me "good morning sweetie" or "good night love you xoxo" every single day. I text them constantly and idk wtf I will do when they are gone. I think I will finally have the courage to CTB when one of them passes. Right now I just can't bear to hurt them.
I am older than you and have only been on 1 date in my entire life and never had a boyfriend. It stems from self hatred as I feel I am not pretty enough or good enough for a guy to ever actually be interested in me. I always hoped I'd find someone who would be my best friend and have the unconditional love that I have with my family with but I've given up on that. As morbid as it sounds I wish I could convince my mom or aunt to CTB with me and all 3 of us go out together.
All in all, I am so sorry you feel this way but just know you are not alone. I completely understand what you mean.
@anonymousperson People tell me my time is coming it no longer feels that way anymore. At 18 I thought I would be in a relationship like everyone else it didn't happen for me. When I was doing my undergraduate university I thought I would be in a relationship like everyone else it didn't happen for me now as a postgraduate I am still experiencing being unsuccessful with guys at university.
At 28 I have no man still. 30s and 40s will not be any different because its harder.
