Story Are you really you

[makethepainstop]

Are you really you? Now I want you to think about this, carefully. Is your perception of yourself based on what YOU, think of yourself, or what others think of you. For example do you think you are ugly, because you were called ugly. Or do you YOURSELF, call yourself ugly? Whose perceptions are you reacting to? Maybe your not ugly, just possessed of tough guy looks? Could you not be ugly, but have the hard woman look? Don't allow others to tell you what you are, discover yourself for yourself. Perhaps you are not what or who others perceived. Love to all here. I

 

[eldiablo666]

We are social creatures , hierarchical , herd animals , you name it.

We are defined by the group. Not individually.
But I see your point and yes it works as a tool to cement yourself within a group and create your status. Possibly if you start young.
If you're over 25, you're out of luck since the brain has already developed to its fullest potential.

 

[makethepainstop]

We are social creatures , hierarchical , herd animals , you name it.

We are defined by the group. Not individually.
But I see your point and yes it works as a tool to cement yourself within a group and create your status. Possibly if you start young.
If you're over 25, you're out of luck since the brain has already developed to its fullest potential.

Yes man is a social animal, but man is also a thinker. As we all want to fit in because society tells us to. Yet even then are we not self-alienating? Perhaps we should all seek ourselves and our own inner nature? Why should we allow others actions or deeds, to restrict or self-alienate ourselves? Let no one program you. All are unique.

 

[bammer]

Are you really you? Now I want you to think about this, carefully. Is your perception of yourself based on what YOU, think of yourself, or what others think of you. For example do you think you are ugly, because you were called ugly. Or do you YOURSELF, call yourself ugly? Whose perceptions are you reacting to? Maybe your not ugly, just possessed of tough guy looks? Could you not be ugly, but have the hard woman look? Don't allow others to tell you what you are, discover yourself for yourself. Perhaps you are not what or who others perceived. Love to all here. I

I was told I am skinny and I am as fuck it doesn't hurt but when it is mentioned I can handle it pretty well I don't say a word but sometimes people make jokes and they made them so much till I was like in grade 12 now they stopped but I know how skinny I am maybe they were jokes and they didn't mean it but some people also tried to give me advice or say hurtful things or even hold my arms which at times hurt and like poke me not just poke but pat like a hard one it felt like I was ant or sth and they found me to dominate even strangers had the balls to do it and I know that's how it is in my country mostly till high school and it changes if you are among good people or better class the thing is I got into fucked college again because I am fucked and sometimes people can even pat me hard or tell me what to do about this is for the skinny part now comes the ugly or being attractive part. I don't think I am ugly but I was made concious of my looks too . None of it hurts because I am thinking of going and it happened again today a random stranger could just say things or push me because I am so fucking skinny man. I just wish I was healthy didn't have disorders and I was like a Greek god so all the girls were sucking me infront of the whole world. Sorry here I didn't really I don't have desires I mean I need that in this world. I am kinda anorexic I don't know. I am not tired but soon I will be gone and everything will be buried with me I hope and the world could continue.
Such a pity but I don't seek I just know what people think. I was really comfortable in my skin until my own family kept telling how skinny I was they never got me the extra food good food to get me to eat just rants. Noone could get me to open up and I won't I don't need to anymore I am done with how all this works. I will love myself when I sleep peacefully I won't even have dreams no self talks just darkness. I don't want to do anything just fucked mentally and physically both.

 

[makethepainstop]

If being lightly built annoys you, then pity all of those millions of Uber heavy people spending billions to be skinny. I was always inclined to like skinny dudes. So trust me when I say there is someone out there for you too. Nothing says a skinny dudes can't be witty and charming is there?

 

[mjosjueiowl]

The thing you call yourself (your self) is just a construction of your mind. It changes from time to time. And not only on long timescale.
You can feel yourself to be a looser among some people and 10 minutes later you can feel yourself the smartest person among others.
You are not a thing, rather a process.

 

[Anonymus]

I learned long ago that reality is a purely personal perception adapted to your abilities and shortcomings.
My opinion of myself, often biased by my disorders, does not matter.
For each person I am something different, what I think of myself is of no value right now because my value as a person depends on others.... Low self-esteem we could say and excessive emotional dependence.

However, within my solitude and then loneliness I have come to love myself for trifles like thinking freely, observing and understanding the light around me and being able to perceive things that are difficult to explain. I like my quirks... too bad they're hard to share without getting dirty looks or thinking you're nuts.

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Ja fa temps que vaig aprendre que la realitat es una percepció purament personal adaptada a les teves capacitats i defectes.
No importa doncs la meva opinió sobre mi, sovint esbiaixada pels meus trastorns.
Per a cada persona sóc una cosa diferent, el que jo pensi de mi mateix no te cap valor ara mateix perquè el meu valor com a persona depen dels altres... baixa autoestima podriem dir i excesiva dependéncia emocional.

Tot i així, dins la meva solitud i després la soledat m'he arribat a estimar per foteses com el fet de pensar lliurament, observar i entendre la llum del meu voltant i poder percebre coses que son difícls d'explicar. M'agraden les meves rareses... llàstima que siguin difícls de compartir sense que et mirin malament o pensin que estàs guillat.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Some people are more independent minded than others.. I've always vibed off of other people… Tremendous weakness…

 

[eldiablo666]

Some people are more independent minded than others.. I've always vibed off of other people… Tremendous weakness…

What do you mean? You got me curious.
Vibed of other people ? You copy their mood?

 

[CTB Dream]

Wht you mean, you human differ you person it complicate, human outer see not you only see out tell you different always not match inside. Inside only one see problem inside change one same say week month year all different, see same thin different never same. Hunger person different full example

 

[Hope:-)]

My facial injuries did not leave me deformed but I don't look anywhere near as good as I used to. That's just fact. I'm just an average looking person now and maybe I should feel grateful for that but I don't. I know what you mean though because when I was younger people would make digs about my appearance and I would feel not good enough but I realise now that back then it really was envy.

 

[RandomDude1234]

I am what I allow myself to think I am. I would be lying if I said that society didn't have an impact on who I am but I'm actively trying to fight the preception of me society has forced on me.
It's hard though and sometimes the dark voices born out of society judgement get too strong.

 

[Superdeterminist]

"You" can be defined in different ways, but the definition I prefer is one popularised by Sam Harris - "You, the conscious witness".

In terms of ugliness, I agree that it's hard to find any objective basis of ugliness. But I think that that someone is justified to deem themselves as ugly, if they have never been complimented or received positive attention for their appearance. Self-confidence can't compensate for solitude or a lack of validation from others, at least for some people, myself included.