Discussion Are you planning on leaving a note behind?

[CoolGuy9]

If yes, then what will you write on it? I'm asking, because I was thinking about doing this, but I can't think of anything to write so if I go, I probably won't leave a note. Also do you think it's a good or a bad idea to write it.

 

[destiny]

Yep, I've already written my notes. Three of them, once addressed to my lover, one to my parents, one to my sister and her family. They're short notes. Just explaining I'm exhausted and finally found the rest and quiet I was always searching for. And how I'm sorry for hurting them, sorry that I can't be there to watch my nieces and nephew grow up.

 

[gayscal3xo]

I would probably leave several notes behind for specific people, just because I have so many things left unsaid to quite a few important people in my life.

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, I plan to leave a note to close family members. It will say things like 'there is nothing you could have done' and 'now I am at peace'. I hope it will act as closure and make them understand why I have chosen this. If there was no note, they would be left with unanswered questions. I feel like a note is the only thing I can do to make it easier for them, even know I doubt it would help that much with the grieving process.

 

[GreenMile]

I've written notes reassuring those who might blame themselves that it wasn't anything they said or did. I know it would give me a lot of comfort if the situation were reversed.

 

[j0n4th4n]

family would be torn if i left without explaining. i dont plan on explaining to them in person, so the note will be able to help them while saving me that confrontation.

 

[Eol21]

I kind of just want to disappear to be honest. Give my body back to the earth and animals without anyone knowing.

 

[meetapple]

I might write a note to provide an explanation but also it might be cathartic since it would allow me to express some of my grievances.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I won't be leaving a physical note no. Those are often logged as evidence and never reach the intended destination. Instead I've got a email chain set up and I'll send a short delayed email.

 

[aviation]

Several, and record some. This is the one thing that still needs to be taken care of.

 

[yoyowassup35]

Im not going to leave any note at all behind. Idk but i just don't feel like it and i suck at writing notes and i also don't know what to write soo no.

 

[BottomlessPit]

Statistically speaking most won't leave one, me included. They don't help that much anyway, especially when you are hesistant to go in-depth about the reasons for your suicide.

 

[pixie]

I keep drafting out my notes, but honestly I find myself unhappy with them, almost feels forced. So I don't know if I will. Maybe i'll leave a one liner.

 

[rosie93]

Leave a note if you want people to know why, if you have some directions for your family or if you have a last will.


I told my mum I'm going to leave a note and she said 'Don't bother, I'm not going to read it' ;D Hahaha, I love her. She doesn't believe me when I tell her I'm going to cbt. It's ok. She doesn't understand. She's a happy person. At least my dad believes me but I don't think he's going to do anything to prevent this. He has no super powers. I told them about it beacuse I want them to be ready and strong when it happens. They have two other children and grandchildren. They will be fine. We're not close. We don't live together. So my parents already know why and I don't talk to the rest of my family and friends these days casue I don't want them to feel guilty and they have their own lives. Everyone's going to be fine. And they already know why. No need for a note.

 

[Seiba]

There's multiple versions of this thread out there. Regardless, I will share what I wrote previously.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/why-write-a-note.72662/#post-1318281

 

[ItsTimeToExit]

.... They don't help that much anyway, especially when you are hesistant to go in-depth about the reasons for your suicide.

You're wrong about it not helping much and the second part of your sentence makes it a self fulfilling prophecy. If you write a bad CTB note then of course its not going to help much...

Those left behind in the wake of suicide are often plagued with unanswered questions and feelings of guilt.

If your goal is to help people with questions they may have, a CTB note is your best method of doing it. What exactly are you afraid of? Pour your heart out, be brutally honest, say everything you've always wanted to say. You won't have to justify any of your words. It's a win-win for everyone involved.

Leaving a note for your loved ones is literally better than nothing.

If your goal is to hurt people then a note is the best chance at achieving that! Put them on that guilt train and ride it hard.

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[Bagger]

Yes

 

[rockstar]

No because there's no point…

 

[ClownMe]

I was going to originally but now I dont really see the point, i doubt anyone is going to give a shit and the reality is that im not going to be around to see their reactions to the letters.

 

[butterflycollector]

yes id like to leave a note, multiple actually. i want to write a note to my mom, and i want to let each of my close online friends know what has happened when the time comes. id feel terrible if i left them without any explanation, especially since ive known almost all of them for years. i want to give them each heartfelt messages because they deserve it. they are the only friends ive ever kept.

 

[deleted]

I never liked tickets but now I'm thinking about writing "see you in hell", or is it too dramatic?

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I may send a time-delayed e-mail to my best friend. I will let them decide if/how they release the note or portions of it to others.

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Yes, I'm writing my notes to be extra tragic. The body of the content talks about how I messed up in high school and never spoke to my crush, and that it's the reason why I'm killing myself.

 

[A_miStake_of_NATURE]

I'm still undecided. If I ever do, it'll be for my mom, probably telling her that from that moment on she won't have to waste any more money on me and get upset on my account, and that I'm not supposed to be grateful for the sole fact of being birth…. I'm not planning on saying that I'm sorry, because it's going to be a lie. I'm not sorry

 

[user_name_here]

i don't think i will. I really wanted to leave a video message for my one friend just telling him i'll be skating on our halfpipe over on the other side (both grew up skateboarding), but i don't want to leave him with the guilt of that.

 

[TriggerHappy]

Nooooo. One of my biggest mistakes.
I got arrested and they found a (just incase I od /suicide note) who to contact etc :: was institutionalized immediately :: cops didn't want a suicide freak in their holding cells. And they had evidence against me in court. Had to pay a fortune and jump thru hoops to get it expunged (im not above soliciting, so neither bribery or corruption :: wait till u face a jail sentence in a 3rd world jail - joke is I ended up there anyway)
It broke my mother's heart she didn't realize how much I was dicing with death. I had to look into her face &explain the letter to her. She realsed then id never recover it was after I'd lost David and all sense of self:: fuuuuck.
I've been on the other side of this :: I found a letter at the side of our bed where my partner had shot himself. It fucks me up to this day, everyday. That i didn't know how desperate he was, that he couldn't talk to me. And I was trying to end things for my own sanity/ recovery.
Its almost always a mess :: shit n piss n blood n bone & maybe broken hearts :: so writing a neatly worded note will never fix the mess you leave behind.
Please don't hurt those you love more by writing letters :: the action of your suicide will be enough of a statement, no?
I joke (not really) that I'm printing my fave calvin & hobbes cartoon on my t-shirt about the pointlessness of life. My last laugh.
Doubt they'll get it.
Wantd to ctb at party but can't trust my friends to respect my wishes. Going off grid into the wilderness after a month drugfuelled party in a hotelsuite. Alone with my Gods &my music.


Fuck em.

 

[StevieNixs]

If yes, then what will you write on it? I'm asking, because I was thinking about doing this, but I can't think of anything to write so if I go, I probably won't leave a note. Also do you think it's a good or a bad idea to write it.

For my mother yes.

 

[brainpain2]

Maybe one for the police to confirm it was CTB… no one else, they know why