NSFW Are you a virgin ?

[notsure90]

No, im not.
Had some gf. Some good some bad ones.

 

[phoebonebe]

sort of ? I don't know. Just some touching but no penetration I guess..

 

[shimmerdeath]

Bi woman, been fingered by a guy. Depends on your definition of virginity.

 

[Pancake1230]

Yup. I can't imagine being close enough to someone that I want them literally inside me I'm 22 but the idea of sex and all the nonsense that comes with it (Getting pregnant especially, std/sti, etc) sounds so terrible. I also hate being touched so it's just icky all around

 

[carac]

Bi woman, been fingered by a guy. Depends on your definition of virginity.

I've had a prostate exam does that count?

I do find it funny that something seemingly so important can also feel so arbitrary

 

[Blue Elephant]

It's really nice when you have sex with someone you love and who is (sexually) into the same things that you are. I wouldn't do it otherwise though.

 

[sserafim]

Yeah I'm a virgin at 23 but I've found a guy to do it with

 

[Life]

I wish I was a virgin. The only time I had sex was with a random girl because I was horny and lonely, I thought that having it once would lead to something, and if it didn't it would make women more attracted to me, obviously it led to nothing. I was delusional from all of the braindead incel forums I was using. Sex will never make you happy if you don't truely love someone, hook up culture is evil.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Yeah I'm a virgin at 23 but I've found a guy to do it with

How'd you find him?

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yeah I'm a virgin at 23 but I've found a guy to do it with

Oh damn, I never expected this to happen. Now I want to theorise with @derpyderpins as to what new secret you have. My guess is that you've been in touch with your old irl crush again? Though, from the way you worded your sentence, it sounds like a new guy entirely? This certainly is interesting..

 

[derpyderpins]

Oh damn, I never expected this to happen. Now I want to theorise with @derpyderpins as to what new secret you have. My guess is that you've been in touch with your old irl crush again? Though, from the way you worded your sentence, it sounds like a new guy entirely? This certainly is interesting..

This is far more entertaining than anything on TV. I wonder if the guy knows he's the guy. She just said she found him, not that he agreed.

 

[sserafim]

How'd you find him?

It's a secret

 

[derpyderpins]

It's a secret

If only you believed in fair exchanging of secrets :P

 

[vitbar]

I can echo those in this thread saying they'd prefer a wholesome relationship to just sex. Not that I'm against having flings. Relatively meaningless sex can be a lot of fun if you like that kind of thing.

 

[Life]

I can echo those in this thread saying they'd prefer a wholesome relationship to just sex. Not that I'm against having flings. Relatively meaningless sex can be a lot of fun if you like that kind of thing.

It's fun until you realize that the next day you're sleeping alone again

 

[Blue Elephant]

It's fun until you realize that the next day you're sleeping alone again

You think those people "realize"?

 

[vitbar]

It's fun until you realize that the next day you're sleeping alone again

It depends what you are going into it expecting.

 

[Lady Laudanum]

I'm asexual but I lostt my virginity when I was 15. I don't enjoy sex but I don't really have an aversion to it either. It was just a bargaining chip with partners that I've had.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

Yes I am and I'm a 25 year old man with a high sex drive. I think social anxiety really fucked me over with girls when I was in school and then I dropped out of school and became socially isolated so I'm barely even ever around women my own age it's crazy being that much of an outcast to your peers. I wish I was handsome enough for dating apps to work for me. Maybe if I keep losing weight I'll get better results.

Dating apps definitely make me suicidal. Such a complete waste of time if you're an average guy.

I don't know what the answer is to being a lonely male virgin, but it most certainly isn't dating apps. They should come with a health warning and multiple disclaimers admitting they won't work for most guys.

. I think a lot of virgins overestimate how good sex actually is, (granted I've probably been with shitty guys), once you've done it you've done it and it stops being a big deal.

I've never experienced any type of romance in my life. It completely eats away at me, almost as if I don't really exist.

I'm only moderately ashamed of my virginity, and having sex would just be the ultimate part of a romantic relationship. What I find to be severely depressing is that that haven't even been kissed and seem completely unable to find romantic love.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

No. I was more virgin than olive oil for a long time. But then I discovered how easy it was, with a little confidence, to find a guy willing to stick it in you.

 

[Saturn_]

How'd you find him?

Probably an occult summoning ritual, knowing sserafim.

 

[Heartaches]

Yeah, I'm a virgin. Used to be embarassed by that fact when I was younger, but I don't care anymore. I'm asexual and been through sexual trauma, so I don't have a lot of attraction or an urge to engage in sexual acts with others; though, I'm sex-positive and love to learn all about sexuality. Masturbation, drawing porn and writing erotica is enough for me.​

 

[leavingthesoultrap]

No.

 

[ImTelling]

I've only gotten a few week hand jobs from my ex when I was a teenager but other than that I have not felt the sensual touch of another person.

I have someone in the UK who wants to really fuck me up (in a hot way) but
A) they want me to pay for everything (hotel, travel, ect) and
B) they don't know I wanna CTB

It wouldn't be excessively expensive for a one night stand (Im in Ireland) but it is at least a few weeks of committed saving for what is essentially them getting free sex with zero effort on their part lmao

 

[itsneverbeenmoreove]

I've had one partner. We started going out it high school. She actually pressured me into sex well before I was ready, but things were mostly normal. Sex is cool. But it was never the most important part of our relationship. Well, for a long time, it was essential to her, which was hard on me. But later it became less important. Non-sexual intimate things I found much more important.
Having sex did not really improve my self esteem though. Although I was in high school at the time, I'm pretty sure my self esteem would be higher now if I hadn't had sex. Given that she eventually stopped having sex with me and said I was ugly when she broke up with me after 8 years LMAO.
So not a virgin, but I'm absolutely terrified of sex now

 

[superwacki]

Not a virgin but I value sex as if it's a sacred thing to do with someone you've been in a relationship for a good amount of time. With that being said though I lost my shit at 13 but I always stuck to this code about the topic. Even more so, getting into it, sex really isn't all that I'd say. My head hypes it up like crazy but when it gets down to actual business it always feels like "that's pretty good" instead of something extremely groundbreaking (not a complaint but that's just how it feels everytime no matter any position or kink, maybe I'm too analytic). Despite me thinking this way though, I'm a person with a stupidly high sex drive and I have Zero refresh rate while getting dirty

 

[glitteryaliens]

21, still a virgin. Mostly because I don't leave my house and I'm extremely anti-social. A part of me still has this romanticized idea of finding the right person and it being this super duper romantic thing, blah, blah. And then another part of me just kind of wants to get it over with. Though, I'm sure I'd hate myself the next day if I picked some random stranger.

 

[LunarLight]

I'm surprised there are so many virgins on SaSu.

 

[Blue Elephant]

I'm surprised there are so many virgins on SaSu.

Why are you so surprised? Going out with someone means putting yourself at risk and these people have been hurt and fucked over multiple times, not to mention their heightened sensitivity. Rejection would affect them times harder then it would affect a normie who is too dumb or to uncaring to.. well, care.

 

[LunarLight]

Why are you so surprised? Going out with someone means putting yourself at risk and these people have been hurt and fucked over multiple times, not to mention their heightened sensitivity. Rejection would affect them times harder then it would affect a normie who is too dumb or to uncaring to.. well, care.

I'm surprised because the general population doesn't have such a rate of virgins. No need to be so aggressive.