NSFW Are you a virgin ?

[hot]

I'm just curious lol >_< W_W

 

[Sober4MostDays]

Yes I am and I'm a 25 year old man with a high sex drive. I think social anxiety really fucked me over with girls when I was in school and then I dropped out of school and became socially isolated so I'm barely even ever around women my own age it's crazy being that much of an outcast to your peers. I wish I was handsome enough for dating apps to work for me. Maybe if I keep losing weight I'll get better results.

 

[Life Is My Coffin]

I wish I was handsome enough for dating apps to work for me.

I get called cute or hot (fairly) often and they dont even work for me. It's not you, they are just pieces of shit (at least if you are male). Theyre mostly just capitalist garbage that attempts to profit off of male loneliness, the term "dating app" is a misnomer as that is hardly what their true intent is for.

See this also

 

[hot]

I wish I was handsome enough for dating apps to work for me.

Dating Apps are fucking cruel, its not you bro. More men then woman are on dating apps and woman have more choices on dating apps. Its 100% not you. Women are pretty hypergamous on dating apps.

 

[Sober4MostDays]

I get called cute or hot (fairly) often and they dont even work for me. It's not you, they are just pieces of shit (at least if you are male). Theyre mostly just capitalist garbage that attempts to profit off of male loneliness, the term "dating app" is a misnomer as that is hardly what their true intent is for.

See this also

I like that reddit post's message thanks for sharing it with me. I really do need to find some way to meet women in real life in a natural way I think. I'm kind of a retard for complaining about my lack of a dating and sex life when I never even go anywhere really. Never put myself out there and asked a woman out irl. And the 2 times I did online they did say yes and I had a long distance relationship and they seemed to like the way I looked.

 

[derpyderpins]

I lost it around 20 (can't remember), but I really didn't start having regular sex until I was ~27.

I cannot emphasize enough for anyone who's concerned about being a virgin that it is not a big deal, and would not make a difference to a good partner (for women it can even be seen as a positive to be a virgin).

 

[Vicolo cieco]

I'm 29 years old and impotent. I've only "had sex" once with a prostitute. Never tried again.

 

[carac]

Yes and I'm 47 now, I think that ship has sailed

 

[damyon]

I get called cute or hot (fairly) often and they dont even work for me. It's not you, they are just pieces of shit (at least if you are male). Theyre mostly just capitalist garbage that attempts to profit off of male loneliness, the term "dating app" is a misnomer as that is hardly what their true intent is for.

See this also

I like that reddit post's message thanks for sharing it with me. I really do need to find some way to meet women in real life in a natural way I think. I'm kind of a retard for complaining about my lack of a dating and sex life when I never even go anywhere really. Never put myself out there and asked a woman out irl. And the 2 times I did online they did say yes and I had a long distance relationship and they seemed to like the way I looked.

Dating Apps are fucking cruel, its not you bro. More men then woman are on dating apps and woman have more choices on dating apps. Its 100% not you. Women are pretty hypergamous on dating apps.

Alternative take: people who say "men should not use dating apps" are just eliminating competition.

Also, people who have success with dating apps won't complain about them online; they'll simply use them.

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I don't want to sound depressive, but it is a matter of supply and demand. There are 106 men for 100 women.

 

[AmericanMary]

I was in SW for a long time so I'm going to have to go with, no. However I would trade anything in the world to turn back time & still be a virgin. Men have ruined everything for me.

 

[dinosavr]

Yes and even though technically my chances are higher cause I'm bisexual, I can't imagine being in a situation where I'm with someone and I'm fine with it

 

[Life Is My Coffin]

I don't want to sound depressive, but it is a matter of supply and demand. There are 106 men for 100 women.

Except this statistic is a non-argument for what goes on with tinder or bumble as most women do not need to be on "dating" apps. They simply can just be on Instagram and will get 20 messages a day asking to date or fuck.

As a result of this, more men are on dating apps than women because unlike women, a lot of men out there have zero dating options.

 

[Coconut blue]

ya i was 13/14 depending on how you define virginity

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Hell no. Many women have jumped these sexy duck bones. By which I mean a handful. I lost my virginity when I was 20.

Sex isn't really a driving force for me, or at least not like it was when I was younger. I notice that I prefer the validation and novelty aspect more than anything. Typically once I've had sex with someone a few times, it isn't a major thing for me anymore. Then I'd rather just eat Oreos on the couch with them while watching TV.

 

[ms_beaverhousen]

Yes I am and I'm a 25 year old man with a high sex drive. I think social anxiety really fucked me over with girls when I was in school and then I dropped out of school and became socially isolated so I'm barely even ever around women my own age it's crazy being that much of an outcast to your peers. I wish I was handsome enough for dating apps to work for me. Maybe if I keep losing weight I'll get better results.

I dropped out, was isolated when I was in school, and then isolated after I dropped out for years. Still when I was ready, I was able to do well with interacting with guys for whatever relationship. You can drop the past shit. You don't have to stay that person. Just be who you are and you'll have better luck. I will say, I got on a very high dose of meds and dropped weight. I was still overweight but I called it my "depressed weight" where I could still be depressed af but not gain weight. I did better at a lower weight obviously but I still "got some" or whatever when I was bigger. It's how you present yourself and come off to people, as well as how they feel around you. If you do do the dating apps again, look at it from a girl's perspective (or try) and ask if you would want to message this person, or what their pics says about them. Ask a friend who's a girl to help. It can be done. Dating apps can also be the biggest time waster, but also get you more comfortable so it's just balance. I unknowingly wasted time on there. If they're not going to benefit you in or on a short-term/long-term basis, drop them. Good luck.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm a virgin at 30 years old. It's probably my main reason to CTB since all my attempts to find someone have failed. I've just had to deal with being implicitly rejected by my crush which means I probably won't get over her for another 8 years. No way am I going to willingly make it to being a 38 year old virgin.

 

[Sulyya]

37m... virgin I guess. Recently found a willing fwb but anxiety/depression and whatever else made it too difficult. Managed to climax with oral once but not really what I wanted and my overall position hasn't changed in the end since I suspect she's not too interested any more. May just be me.

 

[ms_beaverhousen]

I like that reddit post's message thanks for sharing it with me. I really do need to find some way to meet women in real life in a natural way I think. I'm kind of a retard for complaining about my lack of a dating and sex life when I never even go anywhere really. Never put myself out there and asked a woman out irl. And the 2 times I did online they did say yes and I had a long distance relationship and they seemed to like the way I looked.

If they don't know you're out there or are available, it's a 100% no.
I might as well be, given how long it's been. I'm probably "revirginized" by now. I bet the "black flame candle" would light if I lit it...

 

[vitbar]

Not since I was 16 (legal age here, though that seems crazier the older I get tbh). Had a handful of other partners since.

 

[eatantz]

18 and a virgin in the uk feels like a punishment, all my friends loosing theirs at 14

 

[ms_beaverhousen]

18 and a virgin in the uk feels like a punishment, all my friends loosing theirs at 14

Ew. Dont be jealous. Feel pity.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yes, I'm still a virgin at 19 years old though I don't really care as, thankfully, I don't desire sex at all. I don't really have a sex drive. I feel like, if I cared about being a virgin, I would go absolutely insane and I'd just.. snap. I have enough issues already and I don't think I can take anything else right now. Being a virgin sounds like it's a major issue for most virgin men and I'm glad that it isn't an issue for me

18 and a virgin in the uk feels like a punishment, all my friends loosing theirs at 14

Wait what, I never knew people in the UK here lost their virginity that young. That truly is shocking to me

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, 44 and never had a relationship even. I used to feel embarassed but now, I think it's probably a blessing. A strict, fairly prudish upbringing means sex has become something terribly sacred in my mind. Like a joining of souls really. So, I think it would have messed me up to have had lots of flings. (Not that I even would have gotten the opportunity with my looks.) Not that I judge what other people want to do. I guess I'm lucky in that I have a good imagination. So, I can imagine it anyhow! Lol.

 

[Ferdinand Bardamu]

I am

 

[falling_snow]

I put yes, but i have done oral a few times, as well as handjobs to others.

 

[hot]

I put yes, but i have done oral a few times, as well as handjobs to others.

Same, i only got a handjob from a girl. But thats it.

 

[Saturn_]

Yeah. I've had the opportunity to lose my virginity multiple times throughout my life but always shied away from it. It would just feel very wrong doing that with someone I don't completely love, someone who doesn't truly melt my heart. Casual sex kinda frightens me for some reason, as if the moment I take off my clothes, I'd be hideous to them.

 

[halleyscomet]

No, I lost my virginity when I was 17. I deeply regret it, I feel like I lost a lot of my childhood innocence and chance of a young love to sex. Now I've had sex, it's all people want from me, my relationships have revolved around my body being used for their pleasure - whether I was into it or not.

At least for me, sex isn't very important. I would much rather have a wholesome relationship then it be ruined by the need for sex. Maybe I feel this way due to being sexually assaulted in my past relationships, but I think there is so much more value in loving someone for their soul rather than their body.

I think society, especially for men, place way too much pressure on having sex. I think the whole concept of virginity needing to be something you lose causes a lot of problematic behaviour, and contributes to things such as rape, or incel/femcel ideologies.

In all honesty I think experiencing rape has ruined my chance of having a healthy relationship with sex anyways, I think it will take a very long time to become comfortable with people seeing my body again.

I think sex should be an optional thing, and people shouldn't have to feel lesser for not experiencing it or not wanting to. I think a lot of virgins overestimate how good sex actually is, (granted I've probably been with shitty guys), once you've done it you've done it and it stops being a big deal.

I do hope that those who are genuinely unhappy with their sexual circumstances finds a good partner, I can understand how shitty it must make you feel to be unable to do what you would like to, but do remember you are more then your body and there is no rush to have sex.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I'm still a virgin at 21. The most of I've done was inappropriate stuff for men online. There was a point where I really wanted to lose my virginity before I died (I'm curious as to what sex feels like), leading me to eventually meet up with some dude irl and plan out when to meet to have sex. Nothing ever came of it due to our schedules conflicting. I don't care as much anymore and if I do end up losing my virginity and then I want to lose it that old dude I've fallen in love with.

 

[Hvergelmir]

I think a lot of virgins overestimate how good sex actually is, (granted I've probably been with shitty guys), once you've done it you've done it and it stops being a big deal.

As a guy with a normal/high sex drive, and someone with mostly positive experiences of sex, I fully share this view.

The subject is given way too much value and attention, even without bad experiences.