Are you a good liar?

[noname223]

I think for me it depends. I have autism and many autistic people are bad liars. I had insanely many job interviews and honestly with my C.V. and skills to lie I was turned down almost all the time. I had major depression to that time also though. I was very bad at hiding it. It was a miracle I found someone who fired me after 4 months. Lmao. But my story was horse shit. I would not have believed it at all. It was so fucking obvious I was lying. But I could not come with a better story.

But hypomanic I am very good actor. I think many bipolar people are good actors. If I am hypomanic I have high self-confidence and most people cannot read me well. Most people are puzzled. I was in my self-help group and told the horrible story about the acute suicidal clinic stay. And I was just fine. I pretended I just feel good. And there was some truth in it. In the moment I told them that this was the truth. I actually felt good in that moment. But I have insanely scary mood swings. My brain is bouncing against the walls. And often my reaction to events is paradoxical not always though. I have the feeling there is a factor which is random how I react. Sometimes horrible news make me manic and on the outside I am in an amazing mood. When my grandad died and my whole family blamed me this made me very hypomanic and I was really confused why I wasn't sad. I think it low key traumatized me but not strongly.

I think good lies have some truth in them. This is at least something I try to do when I lie. Telling a true story and changing details. Often these are decisive details. But most people cannot tell that. They have the feeling the story seems believable and true because they feel the emotions behind that story are true. And it has to believable as a whole. Noto too many contradictions. And if there are contradictions give some good explanations for it. I am good at introspection and I can say a lot about my inner self. There are often almost always slightly contradicting thoughts and feelings inside me. Maybe due to my mood swings. And depending on the impression I want to leave in other people I just stress different parts of it.

However, this should not be a guidance how to lie in front of your therapist. I think it is good to tell them the truth at least once before you try to end it.
It is just a problem I face with my self-help group.

 

[needthebus]

i am not a good liar and hate lying

ive had to lie a lot because of mental health industry

now i don't see doctors and clinicians and lie much much less

it makes me happier

but probably not happy enough to not eventually die

 

[ZeroM24]

I always had to lie. I could almost never tell my true feelings on most topics of life.

 

[Pluto]

 

[noname223]

Bump

 

[Higurashi415]

Hmmm bipolar and it's a complicated question.
If I'm in hypomania I tend to lie (IRL) without even realizing it, just making it up on the fly, so is it really lying? I don't know.
When I'm depressed it just sucks, I can't be bothered.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm terrible at lying. I can't even lie to myself and pretend I'm not a horrible person that deserves all of my own suffering and misery.

 

[Alexei_Kirillov]

Nope, can't do it. I can't even convincingly obfuscate or lie by omission. This has made it really hard lately to talk to people or find a job, because everything comes back to me being suicidal, but of course I can't be open about that due to our society being so anti-CTB so I have to try my best to hide it.

 

[Blooper]

Nope. It's very obvious, so I'd rather not.

 

[Warlord's Pulse]

I'm a sense I am. I don't need to lie a lot tho, and generally I'm don't lie. But I'm good at a somewhat specific form of lying

 

[derpyderpins]

For better or worse, yes. Got incredibly good at lying to keep things from my parents, make them think I'm happy, etc. They have no idea I have any mental health issues, should tell you all you need to know.

To combat this, I try to avoid lying as much as possible. I'm good at it but beyond moral issues it is taxing.

 

[ms_beaverhousen]

I have a weird relationship with lying... I used to have to do it in my youth a lot to avoid embarrassment, but I guess my skills dwindled as I got older due to an increase in morality I suppose. It was also rather disconcerning trying to ward off the influence of a devious heathen of an older sibling while simultaneously being raised by a dubious Honest Abe (parent). You get all lopsided and end up telling on yourself in front of people in the style of Jim Carrey in Liar Liar; or else when you do tell the truth, people don't believe you lol. You get all frazzled and forget which way is North; just weird.

Lying now is far less flat out/boldfaced and really only by omission and deception, ha! Gross (and sad) to think you can be a good liar and at the same time to contemplate what makes for a " good" liar

 

[jar-baby]

too good. barely even know what the truth is anymore, or if i have one to tell.
It's not that I'm able to craft lies that are particularly good, or that I sound confident while I do it. It's just that, often, the implication of me lying would be that i'm a different person than what was believed. and i have developed a facade to such a degree that to whomever I'm speaking with, that couldn't possibly be true—so I must be telling the truth.

For better or worse, yes. Got incredibly good at lying to keep things from my parents, make them think I'm happy, etc. They have no idea I have any mental health issues, should tell you all you need to know.

exactly this.