Are also your parents not supporting your decision to suicide?

[martinso67]

That they are against it because they think you will go to hell? For me life is hell

 

[p24601]

My parents don't know about my plans but as for hell, I don't believe in it so no problem as far as I'm concerned

 

[martinso67]

My parents don't know about my plans but as for hell, I don't believe in it so no problem as far as I'm concerned

I always try to tell my parents everything. I did want to be an a hole to them.
But its ok. I appreciate your insight

 

[cowie]

I can't imagine there are very many parents who would openly support their child committing suicide, even if they aren't super caring.

 

[TydalWave]

Yet, to see a post where a parent outright supported their child's suicide. Human nature is kind of against us on that one.

But I have seen the mother who recently recovered their child's account/messages on SaSu and was able to understand and have piece of mind in their decision after the fact. So what I mean to say is that while they will probably never support your decision while you are here, they may better understand it when your gone.

 

[Rairii]

Considering my mom once made me swallow a bunch of pills as a kid and kept telling me to just kill myself, I don't imagine her being that upset. It was common place for her to tell me that she didn't want me around. I think at most she would put on a show of feeling bad so she could get attention from others, she would eat that up. Anytime I failed at the task of CTB, she would put on a public show of "oh woe is me" and then in private laugh and make fun of me for failing.

 

[Cryptonite]

Although my life has been very sad, marked by severe mental illness that was eventually cured and then swiftly replaced by a physical illness, I consider myself lucky in this regard. My mom does not support my CTB, but she accepts it. I can speak to her openly about it. She would have never accepted it before, but I guess there needs to be some breaking point where one just gives up on the idea of life. I've suffered so much with the mental illness, struggled with it for at least 15 years, and watching me losing all the gains by a brand new physical illness was the breaking point for her.

I've seen a couple of other posts around here describing how parents eventually gave up after decades of suffering, e. g. in case of ME (chronic fatigue).

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Can't expect to have your parents' blessing to CTB. It will always be an emotional response for them to oppose it.

 

[No longer suicidal😁]

They don't support it as they are extremely religious. However, they can't stop it and they know that. I don't like my parents, hell I even resent them, as they were very abusive, and their religiosity made it even worse.

 

[SamTam33]

In order for my parents to support it, they'd have to entertain the idea that they fucked up by putting me here.

Not going to happen.

Seems like one of the hardest things for human beings to do is to acknowledge their mistakes.

 

[BornToFail]

I can't imagine many have parents that support that. I don't tell my parents.

 

[hopelessdreams]

if i were in their shoes i wouldn't agree either. it's human nature to want to prevent any catastrophe coming your way, even if the reasoning sounds rational.

 

[FuneralCry]

I would never see it as being a good idea to tell family members about plans to ctb. They could potentially interfere and just make things more difficult for us. I believe that it would be rare for those we know to support our decision to ctb as after all the world that we live in stigmatises suicide to such a great extent and of course those that we know likely wouldn't want to lose us and they cannot see life from our perspective anyway, so they cannot see the fact suicide is the most preferable option for us. It's sad and wrong how we live in a world where our right to die doesn't get respected, but unfortunately this is simply the reality.

 

[WaveringLight]

Have not mentioned to anyone irl about my plans; since they most definitely would not agree with it. However, i believe they would understand over time once it occurs since they know how much i struggle with health/functionality.

 

[oneeyed]

That they are against it because they think you will go to hell? For me life is hell

I don't believe in heaven or hell but often wonder, what if my previous attempt was successful and this is my literal hell now? Oof. Anyways if a parent supports ctb, besides due to terminal illness to end suffering, they should never have had kids to begin with.

 

[DejectedRealtor]

My parents don't know about my plans but as for hell, I don't believe in it so no problem as far as I'm concerned

Does anyone who knows you know? It seems fair that you should discuss this with them.
What are your parents like? Do they mistreat you?
I'm so sorry you are having this problem. I'm happy to speak to you here. Everyone is. We're here to be helpful to you.

 

[hopeless302]

If I had a kid who wanted to ctb, I would probably be against it as well.

 

[Wannagonow]

Why would anyone want to tell their parents? Unless you want them to help you access mental health services because you're young or are just unable to do so on your own. Having been "offically" diagnosed almost 30 years ago I never felt the need to share my agonizing thoughts on ctb. My dad is in his 80's now. I don't think it's the time to bring it up. I realize everyone is different and we all need to take different paths.

 

[Ultracheese]

I haven't told them about my current plans, but I have made past attempts. They only care because having their kid kill himself would "embarrass" them.

 

[LiminalFantasies]

I once made 2 attempts to CTB in New Year's and into 2020. For the second one, which I told I swallowed a bunch of 20mg of some medication I don't remember, only thing to receive was a hard faceslap from my mom, which she and my grandparents are Catholic Christians (only believers, not zealot per se) and strongly oppose to CTB.

After that, I learned that is better to keep my mouth shut about my own CTB plans.

 

[donewithyourview]

I'm sorry that's the reason your parents are against it, it should be because they love and care about you not some religious thing...

 

[p24601]

Does anyone who knows you know? It seems fair that you should discuss this with them.
What are your parents like? Do they mistreat you?
I'm so sorry you are having this problem. I'm happy to speak to you here. Everyone is. We're here to be helpful to you.

One person know although I don't think they think I will actually do it, If I discuss it seriously I know they will do anything they can to stop it.

My parents are lovely and vey supportive and no way is it their fault I have gotten to this stage in my life, although they know about my situation I can't tell them how I really feel.

It's nice to hear that, I don't have many people to talk to these days.

 

[Himalayan]

You guys had hopes that your parents would be ok whit your suicide?

 

[p24601]

You guys had hopes that your parents would be ok whit your suicide?

Oh Christ no, I know my parents would be mortified if they knew of my plans.

 

[Minibosterita]

My mom knew i was struggling since I was little. I went to therapy and pretended everything was fine for a long time, until my attempt 2 years ago. The same thing all over again... hospitals, therapy, etc. She came to stay with me for months to babysit me and make sure i didnt do anything. Now I can't tell her my plans to ctb because she thinks I can be "fixed"

 

[nifii]

My parents don't really accept it. But its also not something i can expect from them i guess. Well they are right in some way. Its true that you can always learn to accept everything in life and just deal with it with the right tools. I just don't wanna do that. I don't wanna let go of everything i lost and accept it.

 

[Hirokami]

I remember I once told my mom I was going to ctb and she laughed. I understood it was a cope for her and that she didn't want to believe I would do it, though. However, not too long after, something must've clicked and she threatened to call the authorities on me. So, I can confidently say she wouldn't support my decision. If my dad were still here, he probably would just call 911 instead of threatening it. Finding a parent to support such a decision is a rarity. I do remember reading stories of parents who supported their child's decision, though they treated it as a last resort; I doubt these parents initially supported the choice.

 

[Szinuus]

Mine are actively againist, dont letting me to order SN a few times.

 

[Allaboutit]

Yet, to see a post where a parent outright supported their child's suicide. Human nature is kind of against us on that one.

But I have seen the mother who recently recovered their child's account/messages on SaSu and was able to understand and have piece of mind in their decision after the fact. So what I mean to say is that while they will probably never support your decision while you are here, they may better understand it when your gone.

Not a parent but a sibling. Tydal is miss you And I love you.