I just have one of the worst people imaginable for a mother. Incredibly incompetent, unintelligent and also in-compassionate, confrontational and just generally unpleasant. She's totally self-unaware and thinks she's brilliant and lovely. She has no capacity for introspection. She doesn't just think she's intelligent, she thinks she's really, really smart and clever, despite there being no evidence in favor of this* (and mountains of evidence against it). Her points of reference are her sisters who are all equally as dumb and confrontational. They all live in perfect harmony having daily completely meaningless confrontations with each other. They're always falling out of favor with each other and then patching things up a week later. Everything they do is rinse and repeat. As I said, completely self unaware and unable to recognize their own behavior patterns. None of them have jobs, not because they have some philosophical outlook on society, but literally because they're all incredibly lazy. They're on various types of social welfare and have been for years. They're all huge as well, like properly obese and none of them do anything of any meaning; no 'active' hobbies, nothing that takes creativity or effort, just passive things like watching tv. All on blood pressure and cholestorol meds. They're also really greedy. They go around charity shops literally every day and buy trash they don't need and pawn it off on each other once they've realised that. The entire processes is just this joyless hyper-consumer play. This has been going on all my life, and they've seemingly not learned anything or changed in any way in the two decades I've been observing them. They all enable each other and they try to drag anyone they can down with them. Oh and they all bullshit and lie loads, even when caught re-handed about something, and will do anything to try not look stupid (and too dumb to see how such an attitude does the opposite).
I could write way more but I'll leave it at that.
*She never went beyond secondary (high) school and barely passed or failed her final exams, and she was sitting the lower level exams so the material was easier. She blames the teachers of course. With math, she can't do anything besides add, subtract and multiply. If you had an equation that said x - 9 = 0, she wouldn't be able to solve it. Her spelling and grammar are horrible. Her opinions on anything (say, political) are always generic meaningless sentiments. There's no depth to anything she ever says. She fails basic logic propositions, like "If all hats are small and all small objects are blue, are all blue objects hats?". She doesn't engage in absolutely anything that requires intellectual effort and usually refers to such things as "a load of shite". If she watches a tv show, she pics up on nothing but the most basic plot elements. Oh and the type of tv shows she watches? Dr. Phil, Sister Wives, Pawn Stars. Completely empty daytime garbage. Her brain basically has all these pathways that minimise thought and takes them all the time. She mispronounces so many things. She's perfectly capable at pronouncing them properly, she's just lost the ability to learn. She can't divorce a spelling from a pronounciation. I've nearly had to shake her and say (when it came to pronouncing one of my girlfriends names) "stop thinking about the spelling, just say exactly what I'm saying, mimick the noises coming out of my mouth." and she still couldn't do it, so she just said my now ex-girlfriend's name wrong to her face for two years.
I wish I had kinder, more sympathetic people in my surroundings
