Anyone else here has social anxiety?

[Retroguy]

I am always stressed and anxious in social situations and I never know what to say.
I am awkward and make people feel uncofmrotable around me.
That's one of the reasons why I have no friends and no gf.

 

[sserafim]

I am always stressed and anxious in social situations and I never know what to say.
I am awkward and make people feel uncofmrotable around me.
That's one of the reasons why I have no friends and no gf.

Yeah same, I have social anxiety too due to past trauma and bad interactions with people. I also have adhd as well, not sure if it's contributed to it but yeah. I don't want friends again though, but unfortunately because I live in society I'll inevitably have to interact with other people. It would make my life so much easier if I could at least be better at it. But honestly I hate talking to people and don't want to talk to or interact with them anyways, but it's necessary for my survival in this society. I hate the fact that humans are social creatures. Why couldn't we be solitary ones…also even though I loved lockdown during the pandemic, I think it really regressed my social skills. I wish I could go back to the lockdown times, they were an introvert's dream.

Having to go outside or see other people literally makes me nervous. I just stay in my apartment all day because I'm scared of interacting with others. I'm too scared to even go outside to walk my dog because I'll have to see other people. I don't want other people to see or perceive me

I'm aroace so I don't want a partner, but damn my life would be so much easier if I didn't have social anxiety…I totally understand you, and I'm sorry that you're feeling this way and have this struggle as well.

 

[gorgongrl]

Social anxiety is horrible, I've struggled with it since I can remember, always feeling like an outsider in conversations and messing up whenever people try to talk with me. I am so envious of people who can engage with others and make friends and know what to say and how to act so people don't feel uncomfortable or awkward around them. I avoid talking to anyone I don't know and I barely leave the house out of fear of interacting with people.
The isolation is so painful :(

 

[SN drinker]

Yeah, I'm also ugly

 

[sserafim]

Social anxiety is horrible, I've struggled with it since I can remember, always feeling like an outsider in conversations and messing up whenever people try to talk with me. I am so envious of people who can engage with others and make friends and know what to say and how to act so people don't feel uncomfortable or awkward around them. I avoid talking to anyone I don't know and I barely leave the house out of fear of interacting with people.
The isolation is so painful :(

Same, I've always felt like an outsider and like I didn't fit in anywhere. I hate feeling this way…

 

[The Burning Fool]

I'm terrified of meeting my neighbors when I take out the trash, or meeting my dad's SO's son, or other distant relatives.
But I love chatting with my granddad's old neighbor ladies. It's selective in my case.

I can't be around any members or sympathizers of authoritarian communities and organizations, such as churches, police, or some political movements. They're too judgmental and bigoted for me not to have a panic attack if I'm stuck with them. I feel an urge to harm them after a while.

I also can't take superficiality or vanity. It repulses me when people are incapable of abstract thinking, and all they care about is some cute baby, a car, nail polish or whatever.

With me being an intellectual powerhouse, I almost instantly know if a person is one of such cases or not.

And I also can't be around children, because they are the worst psychopaths. I see them as impulsive, selfish, evil beasts.

 

[gorgongrl]

I wish I could go back to the lockdown times, they were an introvert's dream.

Lockdown was such a great break from that pressure to be a part of society, sucked when everyone went back to going out and being social and I was left even more of a recluse lol

 

[Minsu]

I've been suffering from social anxiety since my birth lol. SA has ruined my life literally
Therefore I don't have a lot of friends irl (well now I've cut contact with the rest of my friends since I don't want them to suffer when I'm gone)
I've had a few bf and gf though..

 

[MatthieuFrederickW]

Yeah I've always been shy/socially anxious.

 

[Loulou]

Yeah, social anxiety is a life ruiner honestly. It's hard because like for me I really crave the idea of friends and interaction yet can't deal with the reality of relationships and stuff because it's just really exhausting for me. But if we look at the bright side, everyone posting here in spite of their social anxiety has already made a few steps against it, in my opinion.

 

[sserafim]

I'm terrified of meeting my neighbors when I take out the trash, or meeting my dad's SO's son, or other distant relatives.
But I love chatting with my granddad's old neighbor ladies. It's selective in my case.

I can't be around any members or sympathizers of authoritarian communities and organizations, such as churches, police, or some political movements. They're too judgmental and bigoted for me not to have a panic attack if I'm stuck with them. I feel an urge to harm them after a while.

I also can't take superficiality or vanity. It repulses me when people are incapable of abstract thinking, and all they care about is some cute baby, a car, nail polish or whatever.

With me being an intellectual powerhouse, I almost instantly know if a person is one of such cases or not.

And I also can't be around children, because they are the worst psychopaths. I see them as impulsive, selfish, evil beasts.

Same! I hate how superficial and shallow people are in modern society. They're so vain and materialistic

Honestly I don't like children either because they're kind of annoying. I have no desire to even be around children in the first place because I don't like them. I don't want to have kids, and I never will.

I would say that your statement applies to adults as well, I don't think these problems/issues go away with age…there are definitely selfish and evil adults as well in the world. Sure, they may be less impulsive, but they're just as, or in fact, even more selfish. I think the majority of humanity is naturally selfish. People only look out for themselves and don't care about others

 

[Sid19]

Yeah, social anxiety is a life ruiner honestly. It's hard because like for me I really crave the idea of friends and interaction yet can't deal with the reality of relationships and stuff because it's just really exhausting for me. But if we look at the bright side, everyone posting here in spite of their social anxiety has already made a few steps against it, in my opinion.

I feel the same. Posting in an internet forum or interacting with online friends is a different thing though.

Same! I hate how superficial and shallow people are in modern society. They're so vain and materialistic

Honestly I don't like children either because they're kind of annoying. I have no desire to even be around children in the first place because I don't like them. I don't want to have kids, and I never will.

I would say that your statement applies to adults as well, I don't think these problems/issues go away with age…there are definitely selfish and evil adults as well in the world. Sure, they may be less impulsive, but they're just as, or in fact, even more selfish. I think the majority of humanity is naturally selfish. People only look out for themselves and don't care about others

Don't think people even gave shit about sa in the past, much less know about it. I won't say anything huge changed in the present but it's much better than before. My country thinks any kind of depression and anxiety is the same as a mentally challenged person.

 

[jbear824]

I suffer from rather severe social anxiety. Meeting new people is very uncomfortable at best. I hate eye contact. Talking on the phone gives me panic attacks. Being out in public makes me so anxious it wrecks my GI system.

 

[Mauve87]

Yes. But becoming suicidal changed the way I think

When you hit rock bottom you care less about things like shame and humiliation.

My half assed attempt made me realize that I should try everything I can to get better first.

I hope you manage to get better too. Good luck

 

[Minsu]

Yeah, social anxiety is a life ruiner honestly. It's hard because like for me I really crave the idea of friends and interaction yet can't deal with the reality of relationships and stuff because it's just really exhausting for me. But if we look at the bright side, everyone posting here in spite of their social anxiety has already made a few steps against it, in my opinion.

I'm seconding this..
Btw I love both your avatar and the background picture

 

[DeathSleep]

Yeah, I have it too. I have trouble going out unless I have a really good reason to.

 

[Seered Doom]

Does having full on general dysphoria count? If so, then yeah, I got a ton. If not, I still have a ton.

 

[sserafim]

Lockdown was such a great break from that pressure to be a part of society, sucked when everyone went back to going out and being social and I was left even more of a recluse lol

I know right, it was so nice to not have to be a part of society. It was really nice to not have the expectation or obligation to participate in it. I could just stay home and do online classes without having to interact with or see anyone in person. I definitely think it made me more reclusive and worsened my social skills, but it was more of my comfort zone and felt more comfortable to me. I honestly wish things could've been like this for longer.

The world went back to normal so quickly. My college went back to in person classes so fast, even during the pandemic (2021) before it officially ended.

There are masses of people on the streets and huge crowds everywhere again. We went back to pre-pandemic times so fast and I wish we could've been in lockdown forever

I also don't know why there's this huge emphasis on "in person". Honestly I preferred online classes, and I'll always prefer online to in person things. I just hate having to interact with people in person. I think "in person" is overrated and overhyped.

 

[Nlis2244]

Me, I get anxious whenever I am around people. In 27 hours I will have to get up and go out again because university starts, and I don't know how to survive that. I really liked the lockdown period but it really destroyed what remained of my social skills. The worst thing is that I feel like it isn't acceptable to have SA, everyone judges us badly. I have never met someone else with such severe SA that I could relate to, everyone I know is "normal", and I fear that they just think I'm either stupid or creepy and weird. This is made a hundred times worse by the fact that I can't speak properly. Does anyobe else have this problem? Since I never speak to anyone I really struggle to pronounce words, it's like I can't bring my tongue to work properly. That only makes it more unlikely I will talk to someone.

 

[sunny ammo]

i always force myself into these social situations to end up embarrassing myself or ruining it for the whole friend group because i really dont understand social cues.. and its not cute or meme-able it just sucks i feel like dogshit because of my own incompetence at being that "social creature"

i think itd be much easier for me to just shut up n ctb if i never felt like i had such a deep desire to be seen by one FP in my life or to simply just be good enough for those around me esp. when theyre all good ppl.. but thats not how that works. i will continue to disappoint

so here my toxic ass is— vicariously livin :'3

[i feel u on the lockdown too it was a gift esp for all my trans gurls out there who gotta worry about shaving/waxing smhh take us back!]