Anyone else avoid dating and relationships because of a physical or mental illness?

[Lone]

i just don't see how anyone could enjoy my company for very long. I'm a shell of the shell I once was.

Extremely relatable, especially in the last few months, knowing that I was going to kill my self, I went out of my way to avoid relationships because I didn't want to hurt anyone.

 

[FadedMemory]

I've never even had a crush on anyone nor was it the other way around. That being said, I barely have the energy to get up and act normal every day, let alone for a serious relationship. Maybe if I weren't ugly, depressed, or if I didn't have social anxiety that made my life boredom. It's just that I don't have anything to offer.

 

[throwaway123]

My ugliness, SPD and anxiety prevent me from forming any kind of deep, emotional connections with people. I simply can't imagine being in a relationship.
Love is for other people, it's something that happens in movies and books, not in my life. I don't even daydream about it anymore, cause what's the point.

Same here :(

 

[Tomasnil]

Yes i avoid relation...

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I didn't avoid such things, so much as never engaged in them while sober.

When I think of all the shit I got into when drunk its actually a miracle I got this far.

 

[Final Escape]

i just don't see how anyone could enjoy my company for very long. I'm a shell of the shell I once was.

You seem like an interesting, funny guy. I bet you just don't have an accurate perception of yourself. I get it though. I started to feel undateable even while I was still pretty attractive. I believe I just started to lose confidence and didn't like myself because of the way I was living and feeling like I didn't deserve to have someone.

 

[_deadinside]

Physical illness: short and ugly

 

[St.Jimmy]

Luckily I don't have to avoid relationships ,they avoid me but even if they didn't I wouldn't want one because the way I am (mentally ) .
I'm at peace with the fact I'll die alone

 

[Volatile]

Physical illness: short and ugly

Miranda cosgrove is suicidal?

 

[Volatile]

You seem like an interesting, funny guy. I bet you just don't have an accurate perception of yourself. I get it though. I started to feel undateable even while I was still pretty attractive. I believe I just started to lose confidence and didn't like myself because of the way I was living and feeling like I didn't deserve to have someone.

How does one get an accurate perception of oneself?

 

[Final Escape]

How does one get an accurate perception of oneself?

I suppose you would have to put yourself in situations where you have more interactions with people. That way you will get an idea of how you are perceived and if u need to adjust something to get them to want u around. I don't know lol! But it does take feedback and pushing yourself into social situations.

 

[Volatile]

I suppose you would have to put yourself in situations where you have more interactions with people. That way you will get an idea of how you are perceived and if u need to adjust something to get them to want u around. I don't know lol! But it does take feedback and pushing yourself into social situations.

I've done that and get mixed reactions

 

[Weeping Garbage Can]

I've avoided relationships because I don't want anyone to have to deal with my bullshit.

Same here. I also don't want to cause even more pain to others if/when I do decide to ctb.

 

[AveryConure]

Relationships are a two way street. If I can't even put in the work to love myself I don't see how I could put in the work to love someone else who's trying to put up with my bullshit.

 

[TAW122]

Partially, yes I avoid relationships and dating because of my psychological issues. Also, the main reason is that I don't want to invest time and energy into relationships and I value my freedom and independence, solitary lifestyle more than being tied down in a relationship. Being in a relationship has more drawbacks for me than benefits, I mean sure I'd not feel lonely in a good relationship, but I'd have to compromise on a lot of things and I just don't see myself doing so for the sake of the other person or vice versa, therefore, being single is better even if I have to put up with lonely times.

 

[marcusuk63]

yes , i have been single for about 10 years and lived alone for about 17 years

 

[Xaphous]

Had chances to meet hot girls through apps, never met any of them. Virgin never dated never kissed etc.
I don't have a social life or car so I don't stand a chance anyway. So I die loner dateless virgin

 

[Cookiedough8956]

I don't avoid them, in fact, I NEED them. Hence I end up staying with the wrong guy, and all that.

But I avoid serious relationships, because I actually care about the guy ( my current one is serious)..and all hell breaks loose. Thats when everything falls apart.
Hm, idek if that makes any sense lol

 

[throwaway777]

i hate the word love ... it feels fake so i really cant think anything romantically but my suffering and need to be understood made me connect with some people and i value that more than anything even tho i was conscious that creating bonds would have ended up in suffering for me and the other person and for that i will be always sorry and never forgive myself

 

[Swisher]

i hate the word love ... it feels fake so i really cant think anything romantically but my suffering and need to be understood made me connect with some people and i value that more than anything even tho i was conscious that creating bonds would have ended up in suffering for me and the other person and for that i will be always sorry and never forgive myself

I'm not exactly sure what you mean if you can explain...but you can PM if u wanna later sometime. ( why not forgive yourself?)

We all have our flaws.But after reading your threads.I just don't see how anyone could NOT enjoy your company.

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Although seriously you need to seek help regarding this.

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I avoid dating and relationships because of a physical problem.
And because of this physical problem i now have mental problems also.
In my case there is no cure.I've tried a lot of specialists etc.

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