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Anyone else avoid dating and relationships because of a physical or mental illness?
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Extremely relatable, especially in the last few months, knowing that I was going to kill my self, I went out of my way to avoid relationships because I didn't want to hurt anyone.
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not-2-b-the-answer, lemmeeleev, Weeping Garbage Can and 3 others
I've never even had a crush on anyone nor was it the other way around. That being said, I barely have the energy to get up and act normal every day, let alone for a serious relationship. Maybe if I weren't ugly, depressed, or if I didn't have social anxiety that made my life boredom. It's just that I don't have anything to offer.
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My ugliness, SPD and anxiety prevent me from forming any kind of deep, emotional connections with people. I simply can't imagine being in a relationship.
Love is for other people, it's something that happens in movies and books, not in my life. I don't even daydream about it anymore, cause what's the point.
You seem like an interesting, funny guy. I bet you just don't have an accurate perception of yourself. I get it though. I started to feel undateable even while I was still pretty attractive. I believe I just started to lose confidence and didn't like myself because of the way I was living and feeling like I didn't deserve to have someone.
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not-2-b-the-answer, lemmeeleev and Deutsch
Luckily I don't have to avoid relationships ,they avoid me but even if they didn't I wouldn't want one because the way I am (mentally ) .
I'm at peace with the fact I'll die alone
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You seem like an interesting, funny guy. I bet you just don't have an accurate perception of yourself. I get it though. I started to feel undateable even while I was still pretty attractive. I believe I just started to lose confidence and didn't like myself because of the way I was living and feeling like I didn't deserve to have someone.
I suppose you would have to put yourself in situations where you have more interactions with people. That way you will get an idea of how you are perceived and if u need to adjust something to get them to want u around. I don't know lol! But it does take feedback and pushing yourself into social situations.
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Swisher, lemmeeleev, Weeping Garbage Can and 1 other person
I suppose you would have to put yourself in situations where you have more interactions with people. That way you will get an idea of how you are perceived and if u need to adjust something to get them to want u around. I don't know lol! But it does take feedback and pushing yourself into social situations.
Relationships are a two way street. If I can't even put in the work to love myself I don't see how I could put in the work to love someone else who's trying to put up with my bullshit.
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not-2-b-the-answer, Weeping Garbage Can, lemmeeleev and 1 other person
Partially, yes I avoid relationships and dating because of my psychological issues. Also, the main reason is that I don't want to invest time and energy into relationships and I value my freedom and independence, solitary lifestyle more than being tied down in a relationship. Being in a relationship has more drawbacks for me than benefits, I mean sure I'd not feel lonely in a good relationship, but I'd have to compromise on a lot of things and I just don't see myself doing so for the sake of the other person or vice versa, therefore, being single is better even if I have to put up with lonely times.
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not-2-b-the-answer, Weeping Garbage Can, Swisher and 1 other person
Had chances to meet hot girls through apps, never met any of them. Virgin never dated never kissed etc.
I don't have a social life or car so I don't stand a chance anyway. So I die loner dateless virgin
I don't avoid them, in fact, I NEED them. Hence I end up staying with the wrong guy, and all that.
But I avoid serious relationships, because I actually care about the guy ( my current one is serious)..and all hell breaks loose. Thats when everything falls apart.
Hm, idek if that makes any sense lol
i hate the word love ... it feels fake so i really cant think anything romantically but my suffering and need to be understood made me connect with some people and i value that more than anything even tho i was conscious that creating bonds would have ended up in suffering for me and the other person and for that i will be always sorry and never forgive myself
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not-2-b-the-answer, Weeping Garbage Can, Swisher and 1 other person
i hate the word love ... it feels fake so i really cant think anything romantically but my suffering and need to be understood made me connect with some people and i value that more than anything even tho i was conscious that creating bonds would have ended up in suffering for me and the other person and for that i will be always sorry and never forgive myself
We all have our flaws.But after reading your threads.I just don't see how anyone could NOT enjoy your company.
Although seriously you need to seek help regarding this.
I avoid dating and relationships because of a physical problem.
And because of this physical problem i now have mental problems also.
In my case there is no cure.I've tried a lot of specialists etc.
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