NSFW Anyone else a virgin?

[Amile]

kant and newton = died virgins.
chris chan = not virgin.
it makes you think.

 

[ForsakenEcho]

Looking back, I wish I had waited for someone special. When I turned 18, I was already living on my own and decided it was time. I just wanted to get it over with.

I met a girl on tinder, and eventually we went out and ended up doing it on the first date. There wasn't much emotion involved or anything like that. Thinking back on it now, I didn't really feel anything beyond a moment of physical pleasure.

A few years later, when I was with someone who truly meant a lot to me, it was a completely different experience.

So these days, I only really feel the desire to be with someone I truly love.

 

[EmptyBottle]

I'm 21, and besides self-love, have also never 'mated' before.

 

[Linda]

I'm incredibly embarrassed that as a 29 gay man I'm still a virgin. I consider it a massive mark of failure. I'm thinking of hiring an escort, someone who would probably be kinder to virgins/non experienced men so that I can get over this insecurity of mine. It's the root of many of my insecurities about my body, my behaviour etc.

I think hiring an escort is a good idea for someone in your circumstances. I suggest you look for one who has his own place and works from there. If you are in a large city, it shouldn't be difficult to find someone like that. You might pay a bit more, but, as with everything, you get what you pay for. Explain exactly why you have come, and what you want. Don't be embarrassed. Escorts have heard more kinds of requests than you can even imagine.

With sex, a lot depends on personal chemistry, so try to find an escort who you actually like, both physcially and as a person. If the first one you try is not satisfactory, try again with someone else.

It goes without saying that you should use proper protection. And if you use a lubricant, it should be a water-based one. Other kinds - I remember some gay men back in the 1970s used vaseline - can weaken condoms.

Good luck.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

I think hiring an escort is a good idea for someone in your circumstances. I suggest you look for one who has his own place and works from there. If you are in a large city, it shouldn't be difficult to find someone like that. You might pay a bit more, but, as with everything, you get what you pay for. Explain exactly why you have come, and what you want. Don't be embarrassed. Escorts have heard more kinds of requests than you can even imagine.

Perhaps things are different for homosexuals, but as a straight guy who is a virgin I don't believe it would even count if I had sex with a prostitute.

I need to have sex with someone who likes and loves me, having to pay for it is just as tragic as being an older virgin, possibly more so and isn't going to help my self esteem either

 

[Satori Komeiji]

Yes, and that's okay :)

 

[murdersuicide]

ya im almost 21 and khhv. honestly i feel little to no shame or pressure bout it– if anything, im actually proud out of it, considering how normalised hookup culture is

if i were you (or anyone else), i'd personally avoid escorting. like @Aloneandinpain said, i don't think losing your virginity should be seen as some sorta milestone to rush towards, but rather something meaningful– something you'll want to cherish

 

[NikoKoganei]

virginity is a virtue

 

[spoiledberry]

idm being a 20 yo virgin. I don't care if I have sex or not, I want to be loved. like that romantic crap u see in old movies. thats what i want.

 

[Lyn]

I've only lost my virginity when I was close to 30.
So yeah, I've missed all of thoss "magician opportunities"

 

[AnimeSlayersFan]

I lost my virginity cause I felt it was shameful, it doesn't really make as much of a difference, unless, you are a "virgin" cause when you are, in your mind, it feels like "everything", but I can promise you it isn't. Also, escorts are not something to be afraid of if you want to try those out.
Being a virgin is kinda not having eaten a hamburger in your life while people have. Yes it can be nice, but it's not this massive thing people make it out to be.
Of course, because it is impossible to know before you do it, you puff it up in your mind.
I've had quite a few experiences, and a lot of the level of pleasure of sex? I've had around the same level of pleasure watching hentai alone at home. Yup.

 

[PI3.14]

If I wanted to lose my virginity, I would have done it already. It doesn't bother me at all but loneliness does.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

I lost my virginity cause I felt it was shameful, it doesn't really make as much of a difference, unless, you are a "virgin" cause when you are, in your mind, it feels like "everything", but I can promise you it isn't.

A lot of us virgins are extremely lonely and never even experienced romance, kissing, hugging or a single date.

I honestly feel like I've missed out on life.

 

[WeepingWorm]

No, but I wish I was. Save it for the person that you can see yourself spending your life with and if they share the sentiment. Don't treat it as a checklist thing that society tells you to do or as a comparison point with others.

 

[NutOrat]

A few years ago I convinced myself that I'm ok with the fact that I'm never going to get laid, so I thought that I can just live and die alone surviving on porn. But recently I've felt so lonely for no reason, like a hit to the head. I tried making a dating account, spent a day on it, regretted it almost instantly, went on a porn bender, now I want to die want to die want to die want to die I'm so lonely let me die please

 

[amerie]

Yes. I'm terrified of sex but I also crave it.
I think it's only worth it if you actually like the person you're doing it with.

It was mainly out of a phobia of catching herpes, but the older I get I've already accepted that as a possibility so avoiding it is useless.

 

[Tattz66]

Im 27 year old male and im not a virgin but I do have to say that virginity is only a big deal until you lose it. I lost my virginity to someone who I really shouldn't have done as I was 13 and she was 19 and at that age you think its cool but as you get older you realise that no its not and its not all about sex. If anything you need to not see it as a bad thing but that you haven't wasted in on someone who didn't deserve it. Im going to CBT next week using H and sleeping pills, im just waiting for the H to turn up early next week and one thing I've noticed being this close to death is that things like sex, arguments etc really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

 

[amerie]

Im 27 year old male and im not a virgin but I do have to say that virginity is only a big deal until you lose it. I lost my virginity to someone who I really shouldn't have done as I was 13 and she was 19 and at that age you think its cool but as you get older you realise that no its not and its not all about sex. If anything you need to not see it as a bad thing but that you haven't wasted in on someone who didn't deserve it. Im going to CBT next week using H and sleeping pills, im just waiting for the H to turn up early next week and one thing I've noticed being this close to death is that things like sex, arguments etc really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

Dude men getting groomed is so normalized it's terrifying, I'm 19 and I don't even see myself being friends with a 13 year old. I was literally a baby at 13 and your world is so small, I'm so sorry your innocence was stolen from you.

But yes I agree, society places too much emphasis on sex when you don't really need it. I've had great moments with "myself".

 

[Tattz66]

Dude men getting groomed is so normalized it's terrifying, I'm 19 and I don't even see myself being friends with a 13 year old. I was literally a baby at 13 and your world is so small, I'm so sorry your innocence was stolen from you.

But yes I agree, society places too much emphasis on sex when you don't really need it. I've had great moments with "myself".

At the time I didn't see anything wrong with it and its a long story to get into on this persons thread but she was a friends sister.

To be honest I've had much more fun by myself than with others, when your on your own you can enjoy it more without all the pressure so I couldn't agree more with that!

 

[starinthesky]

I had my chance to lose it with my ex bf, but I wasn't ready. I regret it to this day. By the time I could have had my second chance things were already beyond saving

 

[Leonszabs]

Lol I'm a 23-year-old gay man and I am a virgin too, but I don't really care. I used to care, but now I just don't. I can pleasure myself, why would I need to find some man to do it when I could just do it myself. Plus, I know myself better than anyone.

 

[Walk]

I am by choice. I don't trust people. I've heard too many stories of unwanted pregnancies and STD's that I don't think I want to lose my virginity until I find the one for me.

 

[eatantz]

19F virgin! I'm autistic so sex just doesn't really appeal to me. I honestly don't think its a big deal to be a virgin unless you really value sex [which is fine imo]

 

[Aloneandinpain]

No, but I wish I was. Save it for the person that you can see yourself spending your life with and if they share the sentiment. Don't treat it as a checklist thing that society tells you to do or as a comparison point with others

I understand your point, but in my case it hasn't been saved for anyone, it's just how things are.

It's not really possible to be "saving" it if no one wants it.

 

[CompulsiveParasite]

I would advice anyone to read this manga if you are curious about someone's similar experience with this issue, it made me realize a few things about myself
My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness (Sabishisugite Lesbian Fuuzoku ni Ikimashita Report)

 

[WeepingWorm]

It's not really possible to be "saving" it if no one wants it.

Hey, you never know what may happen in the future. Don't just throw that moment away, sex is nice, but on it's own as some kind of milestone or metric it is severely overrated. I thought I'd never want to marry anyone in my life and stay until my death with them either for the longest time (or that anyone would like me that much), until it happened. Yeah, may take much more than a decade. Shit sucks.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

Hey, you never know what may happen in the future. Don't just throw that moment away, sex is nice, but on it's own as some kind of milestone or metric it is severely overrated. I thought I'd never want to marry anyone in my life and stay until my death with them either for the longest time (or that anyone would like me that much), until it happened. Yeah, may take much more than a decade. Shit sucks.

I just never got started with dating, relationships, adult life etc. I just don't see that ever changing.

Im just about able to make friends with women, but even that's been a challenge, so I'm looking at probably 1% chance of ever experiencing romance

 

[leloyon]

I have never so much as been in a relationship, and that's the sad part for me. I can live with being a virgin, it's significantly harder living with never experiencing love.

 

[mirror_mercury]

every time i've had sex, i was drugged to become less inhibited

i don't know if those times, i was wearing protection, or if the women were on their pills

i don't know if i have children out there, or don't

 

[Eriktf]

im not a virgin but i could might as well be one