Help alternative to self harm ?

[princexhhn]

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Ive been suggested other things but they just feel mild, they dont have an impact on me as self harm does. The pain, the blood, the intensity.. so i feel that normal grounding techniques that they usually suggest dont work.
I no longer have any access to blades, and frankly i just cant be fucking bothered to put in more effort in getting one.

So, is there any alternative to self harm which has the same intensity? or if anyone successfully quit self harm, how'd you do it? I'm not dead set on quitting, but I dont have the option to cut myself right now either way, so ill just try a healthy alternative.

Maybe if it works, i dont have to go back to self harm, but who knows. Its been more than 5 years since ive been self harming… or something, not like i was counting. Point being, im not really expecting myself to be able to quit now, but if this helps me actually quit then thats great i guess

 

[yotaka]

This will probably sound kind of silly, but what about exercise? Like, sometimes running or doing push-ups or whatever so hard that it hurts can be grounding.

 

[princexhhn]

This will probably sound kind of silly, but what about exercise? Like, sometimes running or doing push-ups or whatever so hard that it hurts can be grounding.

I do this sometimes actually, lol. I still appreciate the input though

Thing is, it won't work if I'm distressed at night and can't make much sound, go outside, and don't wanna sweat because I will want to lay in my bed

 

[Nobodi]

Maybe shock, like taser its quick and doesn't leave disturbing marks. I've been wanting a taser for the longest but I have to go out of my way to get it. I think since the pain units are high and it's quick it'll knock me out of loop think or stress instead of going for a quick dopamine hit like doom scrolling I was think maybe the pain would snap me out of it. Temporary subdue the stress and ground me. Less effort too when I used the blade I had to cut multiple times in the same spot so the pain will linger but it was a process. Then you got some nosy ass people who don't know how to mind thier business always with an opinion about my marks like F off.
A taser where you can control the shock volume. The pain forces one to live in the present. Sadness of the past prevents one from living in the moment and also so does the anxiety of the future. The present is all we really can control or at least act upon it since the consciousness follows the stream of time. I think maybe pain is the antidote for that stuckness. Or at least until I get out of this rut to where I can live my life because if not I will die. The desire will grow to the point where it's unbearable

 

[LIFE_IS_BUT_A_GAME]

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Ive been suggested other things but they just feel mild, they dont have an impact on me as self harm does. The pain, the blood, the intensity.. so i feel that normal grounding techniques that they usually suggest dont work.
I no longer have any access to blades, and frankly i just cant be fucking bothered to put in more effort in getting one.

So, is there any alternative to self harm which has the same intensity? or if anyone successfully quit self harm, how'd you do it? I'm not dead set on quitting, but I dont have the option to cut myself right now either way, so ill just try a healthy alternative.

Maybe if it works, i dont have to go back to self harm, but who knows. Its been more than 5 years since ive been self harming… or something, not like i was counting. Point being, im not really expecting myself to be able to quit now, but if this helps me actually quit then thats great i guess

Cold water swimming/submersion in a frozen lake or mountain stream (or in a bathtub with the water on the coldest setting and a bunch of ice cubes if you live somewhere hot or in a city)

 

[deny_conformity]

If you're after the pain and a dopamine hit then I can recommend chillies. You can ramp up the intensity from fairly mild to using super hots depending on the desired level of pain. They don't leave a mark and are socially acceptable. You could keep dried ones in your room if you do don't want to disturb people at night.

 

[princexhhn]

If you're after the pain and a dopamine hit then I can recommend chillies. You can ramp up the intensity from fairly mild to using super hots depending on the desired level of pain. They don't leave a mark and are socially acceptable. You could keep dried ones in your room if you do don't want to disturb people at night.

oooo I love this one hehe I love spicy food, I will need a really spicy one because I have a high tolerance for spice:P

 

[silent wraith]

title
Ive been suggested other things but they just feel mild, they dont have an impact on me as self harm does. The pain, the blood, the intensity.. so i feel that normal grounding techniques that they usually suggest dont work.
I no longer have any access to blades, and frankly i just cant be fucking bothered to put in more effort in getting one.

So, is there any alternative to self harm which has the same intensity? or if anyone successfully quit self harm, how'd you do it? I'm not dead set on quitting, but I dont have the option to cut myself right now either way, so ill just try a healthy alternative.

Maybe if it works, i dont have to go back to self harm, but who knows. Its been more than 5 years since ive been self harming… or something, not like i was counting. Point being, im not really expecting myself to be able to quit now, but if this helps me actually quit then thats great i guess

Hey I know it sounds stupid , but download an app that will log your clean streak if you didn't allready and buy a diary and stickers for example. Hear me out - I also have a SH problem and I know this likely won't work but I used to write about my toughts in a diary and added stickers sometimes I would make special pages where I scribbled or some pages were dedicated to my streak with some pretty sticker. It sounds almost childish when I think of it but it does make your mind a bit busier. I don't promise it will work but at least a little tip. Good luck on your way

 

[Dot]

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[AmanSilvers]

I originally typed quite a long message, but decided it wasn't helpful at all.

I had a cutting habit from approximately 12 to 17 years of age. I have had some small lapses since then, but haven't relapsed.

I was never helped by the methods typically suggested, like rubber bands or ice cubes. I would sometimes find relief in drawing (no talent needed) my feelings or just violently scribbling on paper and then burning it (in bathroom sink with extraction fan on in case of fire alarms).

I am in my early 20's and still deal with the desire to hurt myself, and for me it still gets as intense as it used to. I resist it, and it goes away eventually. I have moved away from burning stuff and now tend to listen to loud music in headphones, or curl up in bed and just stare at the ceiling and pretend like I am in a glue trap or something so I can't even move to hurt myself no matter how much I want to.

I have no idea if this is helpful at all to you.

Wishing you the best in any case.

 

[princexhhn]

Hey I know it sounds stupid , but download an app that will log your clean streak if you didn't allready and buy a diary and stickers for example. Hear me out - I also have a SH problem and I know this likely won't work but I used to write about my toughts in a diary and added stickers sometimes I would make special pages where I scribbled or some pages were dedicated to my streak with some pretty sticker. It sounds almost childish when I think of it but it does make your mind a bit busier. I don't promise it will work but at least a little tip. Good luck on your way

It's not stupid, don't worry. I appreciate the input
I have a clean streak app, but because of my ADHD I guess I often forget it's there. I also have a diary (kuromi themed, I got from a Sanrio shop<3) but I use it more to log activities, progress, setbacks… more of a journal I guess. It is just difficult for me to be consistent with these things, because I end up forgetting if they are not blatantly demanding my attention. Thank you still, and I hope you do well with your own journey.

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Thanks dottie hehe

I originally typed quite a long message, but decided it wasn't helpful at all.

I had a cutting habit from approximately 12 to 17 years of age. I have had some small lapses since then, but haven't relapsed.

I was never helped by the methods typically suggested, like rubber bands or ice cubes. I would sometimes find relief in drawing (no talent needed) my feelings or just violently scribbling on paper and then burning it (in bathroom sink with extraction fan on in case of fire alarms).

I am in my early 20's and still deal with the desire to hurt myself, and for me it still gets as intense as it used to. I resist it, and it goes away eventually. I have moved away from burning stuff and now tend to listen to loud music in headphones, or curl up in bed and just stare at the ceiling and pretend like I am in a glue trap or something so I can't even move to hurt myself no matter how much I want to.

I have no idea if this is helpful at all to you.

Wishing you the best in any case.

I often also draw my emotions out, I have got a whole folder of art I made while trying to calm down. It did help, but often times I feel hesitant to pick up the pen as I become self critical, since I am an artist. "What if I don't make a piece that looks impressive?" I know it's trivial, but it's what goes through my irrational mind during times of distress. I used to listen to loud music as well, but I am uncomfortable with the notion that I won't be able to hear my surroundings, and I also don't wish to damage my eardrums. Glue trap is cute though, I'll pretend to be a rat in a cheese trap XD
It is helpful, thank you

 

[deny_conformity]

oooo I love this one hehe I love spicy food, I will need a really spicy one because I have a high tolerance for spice:P

I have developed a very high spice tolerance, to the point I start feeling physically sick before it's an overwhelming pain. After my coma I could have sauces made with extract and be "well that's hot but the flavour is a bit bland or slightly distasteful", I remember tasting a black hot sauce made with squid ink and going "that's slightly fishy" then having fishy burps for about 30 minutes afterwards. It's gone down a bit since then but still very high.