UpandDownPrincess
Elementalist
- Dec 31, 2019
- 833
I know that we've all heard it "it will get better." It's easy to say and for us, it's just as easy to scoff at and ignore.
But, in addition to being helpful, this is a no-bullshit kind of place. It's time to call it out and say it usually WILL get better.
Yeah, yeah... but hear me out.
If you are truly at your lowest ebb, it can only get better. There's nowhere to go but up. It's a fact.
What we think of as "better" is too much to expect from anyone, anytime. Many times we say that things cannot get better but what we mean is that things cannot get to the way we envision. We're not looking for just better, we're looking for good, or great, or happy. But that's not what they said. They only offered that it will get better. Better than the depths of hell, better than I wish I was dead, better than feeling the universe is against you. It's not much, but it's all they're promising. Nobody expected me to jump out of my psych ward bed and run a marathon, write a book or any of the other things I've always wanted to do.
How many of our folks have posted on these threads how happy they are to have received their method in the mail? Plenty. Its why most suicides happen not at someone's lowest but when they just start to show signs of recovery. They've finally got some energy, they finally feel a purpose. There's a reason to get out of bed, even of the reason is to plan to ctb.
I'm posting this because I feel like the board is in a bit of a downward spiral lately and we've been indulging in a bit of catastrophic thinking. Lots of people here will be gone soon but others will remain. Why? Because being here is better for them. Better than lots of other feelings, lots of other days, lots of other people to talk to. It's not perfect. It may not be good. It may be just a holding pattern. But it's better than something.
But, in addition to being helpful, this is a no-bullshit kind of place. It's time to call it out and say it usually WILL get better.
Yeah, yeah... but hear me out.
If you are truly at your lowest ebb, it can only get better. There's nowhere to go but up. It's a fact.
What we think of as "better" is too much to expect from anyone, anytime. Many times we say that things cannot get better but what we mean is that things cannot get to the way we envision. We're not looking for just better, we're looking for good, or great, or happy. But that's not what they said. They only offered that it will get better. Better than the depths of hell, better than I wish I was dead, better than feeling the universe is against you. It's not much, but it's all they're promising. Nobody expected me to jump out of my psych ward bed and run a marathon, write a book or any of the other things I've always wanted to do.
How many of our folks have posted on these threads how happy they are to have received their method in the mail? Plenty. Its why most suicides happen not at someone's lowest but when they just start to show signs of recovery. They've finally got some energy, they finally feel a purpose. There's a reason to get out of bed, even of the reason is to plan to ctb.
I'm posting this because I feel like the board is in a bit of a downward spiral lately and we've been indulging in a bit of catastrophic thinking. Lots of people here will be gone soon but others will remain. Why? Because being here is better for them. Better than lots of other feelings, lots of other days, lots of other people to talk to. It's not perfect. It may not be good. It may be just a holding pattern. But it's better than something.
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