Venting Wish I was good at something

[sunshine.ca]

I feel so sad every time I see someone who's really good at something they started as a child. I wish my parents signed me up for ANYTHING at all. I even asked them to myself I wanted to do skating I wanted to do dance a sport anything at all but my mom literally said I was too fat to dance. And now I feel so stupid starting things so late.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

You could always try learning a new skill now. Starting something in childhood doesn't automactially mean that you are going to be any good at it (I should know considering the fact that I have virtually no skills despite having done quite a few things back when I was child, lol) and plenty of people become very skilled at certain things that they started learning in adulthood. It's not too late to learn how to do something new.

 

[Trismegistus_13]

I *really* struggled with this a few years ago. I felt too old to start anything because I looked around, and every hobby I discovered was full of experts, both online and in person, people who started when they were children. Other than video games (which is kind've a hobby? But not a physical one) I didn't have anything. It took a lot of courage to start something new and stick with it. And slowly I got better, and I came to realize that the best time to start anything is now. You one year from now will look back and be very thankful you started something. I'm very proud that me from three years ago started archery.

So, is there anything besides anxiety stopping you from learning to dance or skate now? Think of how good you'll be by July 2025!

 

[hxtel]

I'm sorry ur parents said that too you it's awful hearing horrible comments from people who are supppsed to love u. If it makes u feel any better ur not alone, I have never had any talent for anything in fact I'm pretty bad at everything I try lol. I feel like if our parents put in effort with us as kids we would have better self esteem and self worth which goes a long way. I hope u find some peace in ur life and find something u love doing and are great at that makes u feel confident in urself.

 

[lnlybnny]

I understand you so well. Only recently I realized how my father had such a big part in killing my dreams. If I'm a neet nowadays I'm not the only one to blame. I also had the dreams I once had dismissed and reduced to nothing and that was over 10 years ago. I feel like I died that day and nowadays I'm just an ambulant corpse, as I'm simply incapable to make myself do something I don't want. Now I think why should I even mind? I don't have the energy/motivation to do anything anymore. I just want out. Funny how now I am the one to blame, the lazyass. Back then I wasn't strong enough to stand up for myself and things just got worse as I started to isolate and dissociate from everyone.

 

[hxtel]

I understand you so well. Only recently I realized how my father had such a big part in killing my dreams. If I'm a neet nowadays I'm not the only one to blame. I also had the dreams I once had dismissed and reduced to nothing and that was over 10 years ago. I feel like I died that day and nowadays I'm just an ambulant corpse, as I'm simply incapable to make myself do something I don't want. Now I think why should I even mind? I don't have the energy/motivation to do anything anymore. I just want out. Funny how now I am the one to blame, the lazyass. Back then I wasn't strong enough to stand up for myself and things just got worse as I started to isolate and dissociate from everyone.

You aren't lazy you are exhausted and drained of motivation because u probably feel like it wouldn't even matter if u tried because it wouldn't work out etc. you're protecting yourself from feeling failure again and taking more wounds to your self esteem. You will bounce back one day I genuinely hope the best for you I genuinely mean it.

 

[lnlybnny]

You aren't lazy you are exhausted and drained of motivation because u probably feel like it wouldn't even matter if u tried because it wouldn't work out etc. you're protecting yourself from feeling failure again and taking more wounds to your self esteem. You will bounce back one day I genuinely hope the best for you I genuinely mean it.

Thank you so much, you're such a kind soul :') <3

 

[Ironborn]

Parents have a large part to play, I joined my school's football team when I was 8 and my parents were annoyed that I needed some boots to play.
Never came to a single one of my matches either.
They just wanted me to be quiet and stay out of the way.